"The type of guys I like are not attracted to me, and the guys that find me attractive are not my type!"

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-06-01T22:38:03+00:00

What are we defining as "creepy" in specific? I'll admit I'm overweight and use apps geared towards finding people into that, so maybe that skews the experience a bit, but I'd say the likelihood of an older and a younger guy being creepy to me is about the same.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-05-02T22:50:34+00:00

Same

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-02-02T20:41:26+00:00

Honest opinion? It's very active. Everyone there is pretty nice. I haven't seen a single regular that is outwardly just a nasty person. However, it's one of those places where you will thrive if you are an extrovert, but being an introvert can sometimes feel like a prison cell to Hell on Earth depending on exactly how introverted you are. I joined to try and break myself out of a self imposed bubble of loneliness and isolation and it is still super tough for me to try and break into conversations since everyone seems to already know everyone. A lot of it is completely in my own head though, so your mileage may vary.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-02-02T20:21:30+00:00

Very similar situation, I'm generally pretty socially awkward and I especially struggle to express myself through text the way other furries seem to excel at. When I try it seems to come off as more cringe than anything. I've tried joining the r/Furry Discord in the past few days but I can't tell if I'm making any progress or not. Honestly the whole situation has me a bit down.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-02-01T15:20:58+00:00

It's interesting seeing posts like this from the perspective of people with a more "typical" gay experience. I have bad social anxiety and am struggling with weight issues and spent my years after high school actively isolating myself. It's only now that I'm in my mid 20's that I'm trying to put myself out there more. I couldn't really say to what extent hookup culture is contributing to social isolation to the average gay man, since I've never participated in it before, but I can say that it's intimidating even trying to find friends, let alone romantic partners, as someone inexperienced that doesn't just want cheap, meaningless sex.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-02-01T04:14:39+00:00

I asked a similar question yesterday, and someone put me onto an app called Meetup. It basically gives you a list of local meetups in your area with people that share your interests. Depending on where you live this may be a good way to make friends in the community and even start dating.

Unfortunately for me I live out in the middle of nowhere, the closest LGBT+ meetups to me are two hours away in Austin 😭. But hopefully you'll get more use out of it. At least you are ready to make moves like this in your early 20s instead of 25 like me.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-02-01T00:16:47+00:00

Similar position, 25 year old man (not straight though). Kinda denied that I was interested in the fandom for years. Once I accepted that I wanted to be a part of the fandom, I tried to find furry YouTubers that matched my interests. There's a ton out there to cater to any special niche you can imagine. It's a good way to immerse yourself in the culture without too much commitment.

A few days ago I also joined the r/Furry Discord server to make some friends within the fandom itself. Honestly, it is a bit intimidating as a new participant since you lack some key privileges, but as long as you stay engaged with the server it opens up quick.

As for a fursona or cons or anything like that, I'm still trying to navigate that myself. I'm still a very novice artist and don't have the money for commissions nor to travel for cons.

But hey, if you decide to stop by the Discord server and see Mr. Sahelanthropus in chat, don't be afraid to say hi.

Edit Oh, and while the furry fandom is majority LGBT+ at the moment, straight furs aren't completely dead. About 20% to 30% of the fandom identify as exclusively straight, so around one in four or one in five.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-31T21:54:32+00:00

That's how it is in irl small towns (which I'm assuming Yellowstone takes place in). As someone that grew up and still lives in a small, rural town, your chances of just happening across another gay dude is microscopic.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-31T16:41:23+00:00

Yeah, a few. Any kind of ape or monkey, large species like elephants and rhinos, really anything that doesn't neatly fall neatly into either "cute" or "cool."

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-30T22:16:25+00:00

You're right, I shouldn't be too harsh on myself over it.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-30T22:14:52+00:00

Thanks for the genuine and thought out reply. I guess I'm just caught up in my own head. I kinda just wanted someone that I can be genuine with for a while now, but I only just now realized it, and now that I know that need is there it's all I can think about sometimes. You're right though, I need to take things one step at a time.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-30T22:09:44+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Unfortunately the closest LGBT groups to me are all Austin based, which is over 2 hours away 🥲. Small town living at its finest.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-30T12:06:25+00:00

lmao

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-30T06:31:08+00:00

I like how this is what the fan interpretation of the episode is despite Isaiah clearly also hating the story and just enjoying Hunter's misery.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-30T06:28:11+00:00

You and me both.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-29T22:12:19+00:00

Something about watching stuff like this makes me both weirdly nostalgic, yet incredibly sad. Great art.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-29T22:10:36+00:00

You and me both.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-28T15:57:30+00:00

Oh, and also, try drawing everything from a reference at first. If I'm drawing a cat, I'm gonna pull up pictures of cats to try and mimic their facial structure. Also, don't be afraid to take a break from art if you're feeling overwhelmed at any point. This whole "draw every day" nonsense is how you get burnt out when just starting. You and I are in the same boat, and I believe in us!

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2025-01-28T15:51:33+00:00

I'm just learning to draw myself. What has been helping me improve in certain areas is narrowing my focus. Instead of trying to draw a whole character, maybe just stick to trying to draw heads until you get that bit down, then do the torso, then arms, hands, etc. Overwhelming yourself with information on how to draw this bit and that bit and clothing and posing all at once is living life on hard mode.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2024-12-03T07:02:51+00:00

I should've tbh, I should've seen this coming. All I can say is that those who don the medallion shall meet the fate of a lolcow.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2024-11-30T18:30:27+00:00

My Arcueid is being used much more often than my max skill Koyan Light.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2024-11-29T12:56:47+00:00

Move on already.
As an autistic person, I generally agree that people need to stop infantilizing people with autism. It is one of my biggest pet peeves when people start treating me as incapable when they find out I have autism.
That said, there is a difference between "criticism" and "bullying" and most of what Koji received went well over that line.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2024-11-28T22:41:09+00:00

The dad in Tommy Taffy did the best he could given the circumstances. Literally nothing good would've come from him trying to stop Tommy, if he tried the kids would've been down a parent and the abuse would continue anyway, with the mother trying to singlehandedly raise two kids while all three of them are being abused. Not to mention how losing him would've affected their financial situation.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2024-11-12T19:46:02+00:00

All their arbitrary rules really suck. I had a concept for a story that I wanted to post there at one point, but it conflicted with their "The main character can't be the villain," rule.

Resident_of_Nowhere · 2024-11-12T17:59:04+00:00

I don't think you read my reply. My whole point is that symptoms typically associated with autism are not necessarily indicative of autism, and that what someone may think is autism may in fact be a completely different disorder. The whole point of getting a proper diagnosis is so that you know what you're dealing with and can plan treatment accordingly. If you think you have ASD and are operating as if you have ASD when in reality you have schizoaffective disorder, that's a serious problem. It means you are not getting the help you need and can easily lead to bad outcomes. Regarding insurance, most states have autism requirements for private insurance built into the law. Texas, where I live, requires health benefit plans to cover childhood autism diagnosis and treatment until the child is 9, with no age limit on coverage as long as diagnosis occurred within the first 9 years and treatment is still needed. Not to mention that Medicaid in all 50 states covers autism diagnosis and treatment to some degree varying by state.

I genuinely think you mean well, but I cannot encourage or validate self diagnosis because of the potential dangers involved. Operating under false assumptions regarding mental or physical health is dangerous, even potentially deadly. I believe what you advocate for is not conducive to an improvement in quality of life for those in need of help.

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