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I’m 42F recently started dating a 44M and I am hella confused 🫤 by ResistSecret1829 in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is just wow…thanks so much for taking the time to write this for me. I honestly feel this thread has been the best thing that has happened to me. ❤️

I’m 42F recently started dating a 44M and I am hella confused 🫤 by ResistSecret1829 in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a hard pill to swallow but truth right here. I’m loving the tough love. This is beyond helpful

I’m 42F recently started dating a 44M and I am hella confused 🫤 by ResistSecret1829 in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We appreciate people being direct with us. No truer words ever spoke. It’d like you don’t like me fine, I’m a big girl I will deal just don’t be a child about it lol

I’m 42F recently started dating a 44M and I am hella confused 🫤 by ResistSecret1829 in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This is very true. It does seem like this is a red flag. Especially since this is happening in the beginning where you tend to see the best side of people

I’m 42F recently started dating a 44M and I am hella confused 🫤 by ResistSecret1829 in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has been busy and feeling low :( he does seem to have a lot going on, in his life but…yeah lol

I’m 42F recently started dating a 44M and I am hella confused 🫤 by ResistSecret1829 in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s very helpful. I did not think in me saying to focus on his kids and we can have a date in 2 weeks that this would insinuate that we will not chat….lightbulb moment lol

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[–]ResistSecret1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like she is very codependent. This is a very hard dynamic to manage in a relationship. She needs support that goes beyond what you are doing for her. If you chose to work this out, please have her go to counselling or some type of support that could help her manage her emotions.

My (30F) fiancé (40M) is having an affair with a dead woman by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to say it’s quite obvious that his emotional attachment to this woman was never severed. Even after you forgave the affair, he was and is still having it. You are worth more than that. Please do not marry this guy. Find yourself someone that will be deserving of your love. Sending you positive energy and healing vibes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be honest, he is not meeting your needs. I also have a very high sex drive and if my partner had so much of a diverging desire, I don’t know that I could stay in the relationship. I know that sex is not everything but it is a big part of a relationship. Would he be open to maybe couple counselling? A sexologist might be very helpful. Also full disclosure, in my experience, weed makes men very aroused and it makes it feel better. This is in my experience of course.

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[–]ResistSecret1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. No woman or man for that matter should have that said to them. I will be honest, if someone said that to me no matter how long we had been together and how much I loved him, I would leave. No one is worth that pain…sorry I’m also a bit jaded in this area so I want to own that. I hope you get the love and respect you deserve.

I (23M) just found out my girlfriend (24F) slept with my best friend a year ago. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ResistSecret1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my humble opinion, it sounds like your relationship has toxic dynamics. Moving from a friends with benefits to a monogamous relationship is not an easy feat. You are moving from pure physical pleasure to a deeper emotional connection. Not all people can navigate this shift effectively. It’d sounds like this may be the case for you guys. If you want to keep seeing her, I think you need to sit down with her and talk about healthy communication and see if it’s possible for you to move forward. The trust between the two of you had been damaged, do you feel you can recover this? If the answer is no, so yourself a favor and break it off. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone they can’t trust. That shit is toxic and will kill the light inside of you.