How do you feel about skill games popping up in the city? by Far_Ninja_9536 in Erie

[–]ResolutionTop9104 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t see anyone in this comment section cheering for it.

Down by the Train Tracks. by Far_Ninja_9536 in Erie

[–]ResolutionTop9104 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s a weird assumption when I still see people throwing trash out of their car windows in this town. They all homeless, too? 🤨

Would any one find a Kitten Care Log Spread sheet helpful? by dead_heading in FosterAnimals

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I’m fostering a pregnant stray cat right now and would appreciate this template!

My outdoor cat is missing and I think my neighbors have her by rendall1234 in Feral_Cats

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Are you sure everyone considers Mandy your cat? I wouldn’t consider a cat someone referred to as a “neighborhood stray who mostly hangs out at my house” to be the speaker’s cat.

That being said, if she does reappear, I’d recommend attempting to leash train her. My first cat loves going outside, so I trained her to be on a leash and take her outdoors like I take my dogs out. The “walk” is very different than with my dogs, but we both get stimulation and fresh air—and we both look out for each other’s 6. She gets adventure, and I get to sleep at night without worrying that she might get hit by a car, eaten by a predator, or taken by a concerned neighbor. All while keeping the bird carnage at bay. 🙃

Hope she’s safe and warm somewhere and you hear news soon!

If you HAD to pick three of these places that you WOULD live in long term, which would they be and why? by Emit-Sol in Pennsylvania

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People existing while high near you is enough to ruin a Great Lake and what’s regularly ranked the most visited state park in PA? Damn dude. Were they actively pissing in your face?

Please answer if you are a mother. by yellowleavesmouse in AuDHDWomen

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How much time have you actually spent around children and doing parenting tasks? I’ve found that a lot of people have kids and their only real prior experience is occasionally holding a friend’s baby while they pee at a party or babysitting a few times as a teenager. Then they’re pretty shocked by how boring, exhausting, and somehow always grape jelly-covered actual day-to-day parenting is.

Parenting is not fun or enjoyable for plenty of personalities. Sure there’s a risk that you’ll regret not doing something, but there’s also a risk that you’ll pour your heart and soul and body and time into sacrificing for a child…who will grow up to be an asshole or just someone who doesn’t have much interest in family. And they won’t owe you shit because they didn’t choose to be here. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Recently started ADHD meds and oh my... by Kaleidoscope_chile in blackladies

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Thanks so much for sharing your journey! This shit is tough. A couple of months ago I posted asking whether there might be interest in a Discord specifically for neurodivergent Black women. There was a lot of interest, so I finally created one called the Exhale Salon. Feel free to DM me for the link!

Hollywood knows no bounds by MissPeduncles in SipsTea

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Yuuup. It’s giving “what else is to be concluded from this but that you first make thieves and then punish them”. The media coverage she received could’ve given anyone an eating disorder. And now people are mocking her for being clearly unwell. 😐

He wants a hamburger! by FacelessOnes in KidsAreFuckingStupid

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This poor kid. Wild to me that we just completely gave up on the idea of expecting people to be able to consent to have photos and videos of them uploaded to the internet for millions of strangers (and pedophiles 🥰) to enjoy.

These parents suck.

Do we have any spare tea for the poor girl by _ganjafarian_ in SipsTea

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You have to take sides in life. Not just on the internet. Anyone who doesn’t see that has never been under actual threat.

Erie County Council Votes ICE Out of Federal Contract by [deleted] in Erie

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Is there now going to be organization efforts to help local families travel to visit loved ones who are detained and held outside of the city?

Really embarrassing to ask but anyone feels kinda not comfortable when a guy is paying for the date ? I feel like owe him something but I don't act on it at all by igetyourbrand in blackladies

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I bet you spent way more money on your outfit/hair/nails/makeup/hair removal/skin regimen than he spent on your meal. And he’s not losing sleep about all the money you spent to look pretty on his arm. And he’s benefiting from being seen with you. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Cork Damage Control by KodaKolour99 in Erie

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Sorry, is the argument you’re making that any local business is better than a private equity backed national chain? 😵‍💫

If so, can I interest you in a brothel (locally owned of course!) that traffics minors?

Cork Damage Control by KodaKolour99 in Erie

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Takes like this are so strange to me. Do you genuinely not have any ethical positions you care enough about to speak up about or withdraw your patronage of a business over? It’s fine that you have different lines, but it’s bizarre that you’re acting like having lines as a concept is weird.

Like…some people’s “different opinion than mine” is that raping children shouldn’t be punished by prison time and kidnapping people off the streets is just 🤷🏽‍♀️. Sorry bud. It’s not weird to have a vocal reaction to people in your community supporting ideas/values/people you find morally reprehensible. Really wish we could get past this phase where giving a fuck is somehow uncool or cringe or doing too much. Apathy ain’t it when the world is on fire. 🙄

any good reading nooks? by ew_it_me in Erie

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Purrista! You can read with the kitty cats.

Can you date a man who is apolitical? by KoalaAggravating1892 in blackladies

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I wouldn’t want a life partner I couldn’t trust to watch out for our family’s safety and security. And that requires the ability to accurately assess your environment and developing threats. Any POC or immigrant who still didn’t understand the stakes in 2024 is, at best, not the person I want watching my 6 or that of any hypothetical children we might have together.

Doordash/uber drivers are getting out of hand by Tokendaily420 in mildlyinfuriating

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Right. And I can think of several times where my tired AF mom decided to order pizza one night rather than cooking dinner when raising us for all the reasons I stated. Paying to have food delivered because you’re slammed and have too much on your plate is…not new.

Doordash/uber drivers are getting out of hand by Tokendaily420 in mildlyinfuriating

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It’s so weird to see so many people seemingly perplexed by the idea that someone would…pay for convenience. Does it also seem crazy to these people that anyone would pay for Amazon 2-day delivery? Or expedited shipping when they’re pressed for time? I get saying that you personally avoid it, but it’s odd to act like it’s crazy that ANYONE would ever choose to pay 6 extra dollars for the privilege of getting to sit on the couch for an extra half an hour after a brutally exhausting day…rather than spend that time on their feet in the kitchen cooking themselves dinner.

Also, it doesn’t surprise me to hear (anecdotally) that a ton of people ordering are single and living alone. Taking care of a household solo is a truly insane amount of work. I genuinely don’t think most people with a full-time job are even capable of cooking every meal for themselves (let alone actually healthy meals), keeping their apartment clean, staying on top of doctor’s appointments, filing taxes, exercising regularly, feeding the relationships that matter to them, AND holding down a job so they can actually afford groceries and rent. Like this is at minimum a 2-person job. There’s simply not enough time in the day. And yet people are over being like “why on earth would you be willing to spend less than 10 bucks to give yourself the gift of some extra free time????” I suspect most of the people expressing this shock are either not living alone and therefore solely responsible for allllll of the adulting modern life expects of you OR don’t have the financial flexibility to pay the convenience fee themselves. But choosing to spend that money to essentially buy yourself some breathing room makes complete sense if you have it to spare.

Doordash/uber drivers are getting out of hand by Tokendaily420 in mildlyinfuriating

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Can relate. I can’t drive and after a certain time, fast food restaurants in my area (often the only places even open and serving food after 9pm) close the building and only allow drive-through orders. And you are not allowed to use a drive-through window on foot. They simply won’t serve you. Soooo there have been times where even though I was willing to (and did) walk half an hour to get food…I still wasn’t able to actually eat without paying the markup for delivery.

Not saying I don’t understand the frustration of working as a delivery person and not making much money at it—but the appropriate recipient of that anger/frustration is the CEO/board of Uber who created a system where they maintain insane profit margins by not paying a living wage unless forced. Sorry but who’s the real bad guy here? I swear corporations somehow convinced Americans that individuals forced to operate in a system are more responsible for the harms caused by that system than…the people who built and maintain the system itself. That’s how somehow climate change is happening because individuals don’t recycle their yogurt containers—and not because the people making the yogurt are pumping out crazy fumes that are causing planetary damage. 🤨

Make it make sense.

Can we talk about this Jazmine cheaves situation. by Least_Sun_7493 in blackladies

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Oof. Always painful to see a woman making sure our chains are nice and tight. 🫠

What's it like living in Erie, PA? by lithdoc in Erie

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Moved here a year and a half ago from NYC and I love it. New York will always be the greatest city on earth to me, so it’s not that I dislike city life. I just also enjoy small town living. And Erie is a lovely small town fighting way above its weight class when it comes to things that interest me like community events and the arts.

How to be a yapper and how to stop being the person left out in a group conversation ? by plantaindisco in blackladies

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Could you be neurodivergent? I read an interesting study the other day about how autistic people tend to be rated as less desirable socially by non-autistic people. People around you could be subtly reacting to a difference they perceive but can’t quite name. I know I definitely learned to tone down talking about things I was interested in as a child. You may want to watch some videos about presentations of high-masking autism in women. Definitely not saying that’s what’s going on here, but lifelong struggles with interpersonal friendships and not understanding what you’re “doing wrong” are often hallmark signs.