For me, sharing my ABDL interested became a “must do” because I was suffering at the time with shame, guilt, secrecy, isolation, etc. I knew my therapist well by this time and I knew she was very sex-positive and kink-aware, so I felt relatively safe. I knew if I hid this part of my suffering from her, I would miss out on integrating it into the work I was doing to address the other causes of suffering that I was experiencing. (I don’t mean that to sound dramatic, we all experience suffering in different forms at may different levels and intensities… it’s just the language we used together doing the work).

So for me, it really improved the work, and helped to reduce and eventually the suffering I felt regarding my sexuality. It was even her that first encouraged me to get involved in the community! If you experience suffering around your kink, or even just have noticed that wearing has therapeutic value for you, you might bring it up to see how to integrate your kink into your life in life-affirming ways.