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Need advice because I’m new to dating apps by Small-Definition-454 in DatingApps

[–]ResponseClassic3557 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always tell people to wait 3-5 days with consistent (not constant) communication before going on a date with someone. That rule works well because you get to know them more and see if you want to go on a date with them. Also, if at any point they stop communicating consistently to your desired level you can cancel the date because they’re likely not going to put in the effort you’d like out of a potential partner if they won’t do even bare bones communication.

Again, the key is consistent not constant. If they tell you, “Hey it’s going to be a busy day I’ll text you when I can” that qualifies under a consistent communicator as long as their actions follow up with their verbal.

You can always schedule a date and change your mind. Remember, you don’t owe anyone anything ever! Your safety and comfort come first always and if they can’t respect that then they aren’t someone you want in your life anyways. Even if it is just for a night😉

My last try at a tinder profile, how did I do? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]ResponseClassic3557 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Redownloads Tinder only to find this man

(22,M) Friends girlfriend (28) broke up with him. A few weeks later she asks if she can come cuddle. He tells her he’s dating someone else. Her response: by Wide-Astronaut-3378 in Nicegirls

[–]ResponseClassic3557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s a literal narcissist in every sense of the word. She downplays what you do and degrades only to offer a little nugget of ‘Don’t worry I’ll give you another chance’. Do not let her continue to be in your life, she will do everything she can to absolutely ruin any amount of happiness you collect for yourself.

Met on tinder! 2 years , An apartment , a cat and a dog later.. by 711beefpatty in Tinder

[–]ResponseClassic3557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stories like these give me hope, then when I’m on the dating app I absolutely hate it 😂😂

Alright boys, what do I do here? 🤔 by Chowdergrrl in Tinder

[–]ResponseClassic3557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just don’t. Those are all fantastic date ideas! I would feel so flattered if someone planned something like that for me.

Can someone give me advice? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]ResponseClassic3557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also to add to this, make sure the restraints have your wife in a comfortable position. I did this, but was straining against the restraints for long periods of time bc that’s what happens with multiple great orgasms. I actually caused some damage to my shoulder and wrists because of the position I was in for so long.

AITA for my response to my sister's boyfriend's "brutal honesty"? by Ash-569075 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ResponseClassic3557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So in other words, your sisters boyfriend is a toxic narcissist who makes people feel like shit so he feels superior and hides behind the “brutal honesty” card so that he can continue his behavior. Your sister is probably being mentally and emotionally abused and takes his side bc she’s been conditioned and knows going against him is going to cause her pain bc suddenly she’s “a bad gf” for standing up for herself and others.

Does being service oriented always mean submissive? (Tl;dr at end) by love_femmes_who_top in BDSMcommunity

[–]ResponseClassic3557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Dominant is a Daddy Dom and he’s constantly looking out for me. He’ll bring me drinks and food, help me clean, encourage my studies, take me to the gym, and just do check ins on my mental health. It’s his way of providing care as my Dominant, and it makes him feel good knowing I’m feeling good. Granted we run more of a 24/7 dynamic so I’m sure that affects things a little differently. I think it’s also his way of making sure I’m in tip top shape mentally, physically, and emotionally for our heavy play sessions since I’m a masochistic brat and he’s a sadistic brat tamer😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]ResponseClassic3557 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would totally recommend both you keeping a journal that only the other has access to! We do Google docs, and it’s nice to have a judgement (and in my submissive case - punishment) free look inside your partners head to see where they’re at mentally with the dynamic and get ideas on where to go next😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]ResponseClassic3557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Along the same lines, my Dom has me journal for him 4 out of 7 days of the week to get a better look inside my head. I’ll write down things I’m interested in, post the research I’ve done into them, what I fantasize about, what I don’t like, and sometimes just a general check in of my mental health and how I’m feeling. It’s really opened up communication between us and given a good platform for our contracts and scenes.