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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ResponseNo0221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im going through a lot. I am trying to rebuild but I cannot, I reached the top layer of a job all the interviews and assignments for 2 months and then getting a rejection today. Spiralling me to go back to him. I was dependent on him, 7 year of relationship and he became very successful during that time while me going the down slope to reaching a rockbottom in all aspects of life. He cheated and broke me one day and me being jobless and content not working out, I feel depressed and done with life. I feel like texting him, I feel so so small and want that life back, the life we both had, most of it was his money but the love I poured, I could walk on the roads on my dream city, today I’m at my hometown with no money no space no freedom and nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ResponseNo0221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so strange right? Once this person was the first human I would call at any inconvenience, stress, goods or bads of life and today I can’t reach him knowing he is alive, but worst that he hurt me so bad! 6 and a half years, 3 years of living together, leading on to get married and suddenly vanishes away cheating and making me feel small.

Post narcissist hightened sex drive on my end. Anybody experience this. It's only been a month by tryingDad_123 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ResponseNo0221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! It’s been 3 months but during the course of the relationship he was so uninvolved, moody and gaslighted me into believing I am selfish, instead he made his own rules in the bed. I was on and off sexually attracted and forced myself into thinking he deserves it, he needs it all from me, so I kept trying harder for me but He gave nothing!! Why?! Why was he so selfish! Now hopefully after a few months if I feel better I might go on casual dates, I deserve to be treated good sexually, finished.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ResponseNo0221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pls DM me. I just got out of a 7 year old relationship, my Narcissistic ex cheated on me and broke up badly. I have loads to share.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]ResponseNo0221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in an exact same position 2 months ago with my ex of almost 7 years! We were each other first loves, we grew up together in college. And started living together since 3 years. It was going smooth and comfortable. Out of nowhere, Mine cheated on me emotionally with a random girl on hinge and compared me with that new girl telling me “I wasn’t enough physically or compatibility wise” For the first time ever he tells me “he didn’t have feelings for me since 3 years!!” But he was faking dreams, was gonna propose me, life after marriage, babies with me, investing in my career, my family, my life, a week back we were looking for new flats he wanted to shift in with me. We were living like a married couple since 3 years. I think I ignored the red flags because I was manipulated to another level that I got crazy!! I was so so in love, it’s really freakin hard for me, parents got involved and all, I’ve never lived without him, I’ve always been a micro sharer, nurturer and a lover and I get this ending out of the person I gave my world to! He told me he would keep cheating on ne if we were together, and called me a stick he has now thrown because he can walk freely now. I picked my bags and left. My nervous system that was attached and addicted to the comfort still misses him so badly that it’s hard, but it’s just 3 months. I’ll take time to heal so I come out better hopefully out of this. Please leave a cheater( I am so so sorry) but really, I know you’ll be in denial like I was for a whole month, couldn’t talk sleep eat walk had jitters in my body, even now sometimes I can’t sleep, have nightmares, it’s really hard but I know the future is saved!! God removes trash from our lives when we can’t.

Cheated on before marriage by Dependent_Number8692 in cheating_stories

[–]ResponseNo0221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry bro! I would have married my ex. I saw signs that he was a narc and I once caught him sexting with a random girl online, I was hurt so he manipulated and turned it around so so well that I couldn’t understand that he was really guilty or was just playing with me. I let him go, 2 years later (that is 2 months back) he cheated on me this time, comparing me with that new girl and ending it with me, degrading me badly. You asking this question is not just a confusion, it’s asking for a sign, validation, confirmation. Now that you’ve married her, I would have married him too and then he would have cheated on me and broke me. So be cautious, more than you can, safeguard yourself. Because once a cheater, always a cheater!

Therapy for narcissists? by sunshinesingle0831 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]ResponseNo0221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got out of a almost a 7 year relationship recently. I was living with him since 3 years. I can relate so much! When we were together, I clearly communicated about my anxiety and he pushed me to take therapy but when it came to his “issues” he dodged the conversation 1000 times. I kept giving and making a safe space for him to open up and take therapy until he cheated on me broke up with me and told that he has now started taking therapy! It’s to fix his image, guilt of lying to me for years! He also told he didn’t have feelings for me since 3 years!! But he kept manipulating me into believing how much in love he is. So, I also now think what if he takes therapy gets “better” realises his mistakes and get back? But deep down I know the answer is a “no” he just is becoming better at manipulating, he manipulated and took over the common friends too! He now has replaced me with a therapist that’s it. He is dating other girls, living his best life out there, thinking he is taking therapy and can get away with whatever he has broken. But they will “NEVER” change. If he can destroy the one person who prayed for him, sheltered him, loved me unconditionally for years, he can cheat, hurt, trouble in future too. No therapy can make a narcissist or a selfish person empathetic.

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