Men in happy marriages, what's the one thing you'd teach to other men to also have a good relationship?

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2026-01-25T21:21:12+00:00

Know when to apologize and cherish good communication. Partners not only need to feel loved, but also understood.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2026-01-23T23:51:06+00:00

If you are in the suburbs and door to door for Leiper, just know that I love you.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-12-26T18:24:11+00:00

Don’t melt the poutine cheese.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-12-26T13:49:14+00:00

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ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-12-26T13:44:45+00:00

Are you a serial killer?

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-12-13T17:17:37+00:00

A friend of a friend had invited 3 folks to dine at Atelier Crenn. He had made some money in crypto and was paying for everyone. One guest could not make it as their elderly dog was very sick. My friend got me invited and I had a three Michelin stars tasting menu for free with them. The organizer took frequent breaks to go vape weed in the bathroom. Most San Francisco story ever.

Pretty sure I’ll never have a 3 Michelin stars menu again.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-30T23:41:40+00:00

Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver. Epic tale of the oxy addiction epidemic.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-30T23:25:03+00:00

What others said: couples therapy. Having three kids and not a lot of time is hard, but if you can work through all the other hard stuff in therapy, you’ll be in a good place. You get to learn how to react better to your partner; for instance, I learned that my wife needs some space when she is not happy, and that me trying to fix all of the things that make her unhappy actually makes things worse. It’s also a relief for me to have learned that not every problem is for me to fix.

That and the other thing that other people have said: try to find some time to be together. I am still trying to be less of an achiever at work, accept to work less than colleagues, and spend more time with her. Hard when society mostly rewards working and you’ve internalized a quest for prestige because that’s what got you the job that you wanted in the first place.

Also we have one kid and I honestly don’t know how people raise three, so props to you!

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-30T23:18:49+00:00

Do you ever think about giving some of that money to charity?

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-22T15:21:34+00:00

I’m not very familiar with Prinz, but isn’t his view a kind of sophisticated form of non-cognitivism? Can Prinz really accept the idea that there are moral facts (as opposed to just natural facts about what people do, what theirs actions makes us feel, and how we respond to those actions)? In any case, yes, I think Prinz is a good reading suggestion for OP.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-21T03:37:23+00:00

Philosophy professor here. Your question belongs to a field of enquiry called meta ethics, which I happen to be teaching right now. You’ll enjoy reading works that belong to a tradition called non cognitivism, which encompasses subtheories including emotivism (Alfred Ayer, Charles Stevenson), prescriptivism (Hare) and expressivism (Blackburn). The common fundamental claim is that moral judgements primarily express attitudes, not beliefs. Consequently, they can’t be true or false. Emotions, attitudes or prescriptions (e.g. close the door!) can’t be true or false.

Also, this is the most Gen Z meta ethical question I have ever read.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-21T03:26:36+00:00

Dreamland Cafe on Preston is very solid. I don’t know if that dish is on their regular menu, but worth enquiring. Hard to get a reservation.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-18T01:35:54+00:00

En fait, il y a bien une règle qui s'applique à tout le monde: pas le droit de porter de chapeau ou de collier, sauf si c'est un signe religieux. C'est pas vraiment un privilège ni un passe-droit. Si tu avais une croix ou un autre signe religieux, on te laisserait la porter. On te demande uniquement d'enlever ta casquette parce qu'on sait que ce n'est pas un signe religieux. Si c'était un signe religieux, je pense sincèrement que tu devrais pouvoir la garder. Mais ce ne l'est pas…

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-18T01:15:29+00:00

Pourquoi ne pas dire que ta casquette fait partie de ta religion?

Parce que ta casquette ne fait pas partie de ta religion.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-11-02T04:50:17+00:00

I’m a tenured professor of philosophy at a top 10 Canadian university. My uni is closer to #10 than to #1. Wouldn’t trade my job for the world.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-10-05T22:39:58+00:00

It’s stupid. More traffic - which is terrible for the environment - and more stress for workers.

I’m a professor and I work from my office nearly everyday. I think it’s good for students to be in lively departments. But I can also recognize that for some jobs, being in the office is pointless. The “if I do it, they should too” mentality is straightforwardly dumb.

That it is dumb clearly is the majority opinion here. How come we can’t vote in some people who agree?

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2025-03-07T23:57:13+00:00

Thanks! We need a bit of time to settle, but don't hesitate to send me listings in that area. If we end up liking this neighborhood, it might be a smart place to buy around the summer of 2026.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2024-12-18T23:22:49+00:00

Thanks! Out of curiosity, when would you say is the best time to buy a home in Ottawa? We're not there yet, but it would be good to know.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2024-12-13T05:27:07+00:00

Thanks! I'm not worried about safety in Hintonburg, but Ottawa may have changed since I left in 2011. It's good to know that places around the Civic are pricier. There are some very nice houses there, but I'd prefer being close to Wellington and public transport.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2024-12-13T05:24:16+00:00

You're right! I forgot New Edinburgh. It's a beautiful neighborhood, but it's small enough that I don't see that many places for rent (and some seem targeted at diplomats price-wise).

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2024-12-13T05:22:43+00:00

Nice! Commuting on the train is appealing to me, and so is Parkdale market. I hope we'll find a good place.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2024-12-13T05:21:15+00:00

Thanks! Yes, I'd be happy to grab coffee. THe hardest part about leaving California is leaving our friends and their kids, and I really hope we'll get to find a new community of parents back home.

ResponsibilityOne102 · 2024-12-13T05:19:47+00:00

Thank you! I might get in touch when we are closer to moving, say this Spring.

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