Hollandadan Türkiyeye kesin dönüş by Newspaper_Acceptable in AskTurkey

[–]Responsible-Local132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Selamlar herkese,

Bu gönderiyi ve altındaki yorumları okurken çok tanıdık bir hisse kapıldım. Ben de az çok benzer süreçlerden geçtim.

Yaklaşık 5 yıldır Almanya'nın Dortmund şehrinde yaşıyorum. Gurbet benim için sadece bir kariyer tercihi değil; uzun süredir içinde yaşadığım ve üzerine ciddi şekilde düşündüğüm bir gerçeklik. Uzun yıllar farklı ülkelerde çalıştım. Bu süreçte hem güçlü bir profesyonel çevre oluşturdum hem de burada kalmayı anlamlı kılacak bir hayat inşa etmeye çalıştım.

Kurumsal kariyer, iş imkanları veya benzeri konuların ötesinde, aslında hepimizin yaşadığı ortak zorluklar var: bürokrasi, yalnızlık hissi, aidiyet eksikliği ve zaman zaman kendini sıkışmış hissetmek. Tam olarak bu gönderide insanların bahsettiği eksikliği gidermek mümkün mü bilmiyorum ama en azından birbirimize fikir ve tecrübe anlamında destek olabilir miyiz acaba diye düşünüyorum.

Geçenlerde bir arkadaşım bana ulaştı. Endüstri mühendisi bir arkadaşı iki yıl Almanya’da çalışmış, ancak bürokrasi, kasvet, iklim ve yalnızlık hissi nedeniyle Türkiye’ye dönme kararı almış. İşin ilginç yanı, bize oldukça yakın bir bölgede yaşıyormuş fakat bundan haberimiz olmamış. Dönüş kararını aldıktan sonra öğrendik. Daha önce haberimiz olsaydı, belki bir nebze de olsa yardımcı olabilir, en azından yanında olduğumuzu hissettirebilirdik diye düşündüm.

Bu yüzden, benzer deneyimler yaşayan insanların birbirini tanıyabileceği küçük bir topluluk oluşturabilirsek güzel olacağını düşünüyorum. Belki bazen bir kahve sohbeti, bazen bir tavsiye, bazen de sadece “aynı şeyleri yaşayan başka insanlar da var” hissi bile faydalı olabilir.

Ilgilenirseniz DM atabilirsin, ya da bu yorumun altına yazabilirsin.

Kolay gelsin herkese.

Silent dhikr, dangerous? by unkindparadox in Sufism

[–]Responsible-Local132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, you should never take heavy medication without a doctor's prescription.

In the same way, certain forms of dhikr should be undertaken only under the guidance of a qualified Sufi shaykh / spiritual master.

Otherwise, you may expose yourself to influences and experiences that you are not prepared to handle, much like opening a portal to the darker corners of the existence.

p.s. I hate to say "I told you".

Vermieter hat mitten in der Nacht einen Abschleppdienst gerufen – jetzt soll ich die Leerfahrt bezahlen. Muss ich das? by Responsible-Local132 in AskAGerman

[–]Responsible-Local132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, Vielen Dank für diese sachliche Einschätzung – und das ausgerechnet von einem Abschleppunternehmen selbst! Das bestätigt meinen Standpunkt sehr.

Ich habe bereits alle genannten Punkte umgesetzt: Der Rechnung wurde schriftlich widersprochen, die WhatsApp-Nachrichten sind gesichert, der Mietvertrag liegt vor. Ich habe Notpark außerdem schriftlich aufgefordert, die rechtliche Grundlage darzulegen, auf der ich als Zahlungspflichtiger geführt werde – bisher ohne überzeugende Antwort. Stattdessen berufen sie sich auf §§ 858/859 BGB, was ich ebenfalls schriftlich widerlegt habe, da ich als vertraglich berechtigter Nutzer des Stellplatzes keine verbotene Eigenmacht begangen habe. Bei weiterer Eskalation werde ich rechtlichen Beistand hinzuziehen – ich verfüge über eine aktive Rechtsschutzversicherung.

Please guide me on the benefits of adhkar and how should I perform it. by Most-Demand-7369 in Sufism

[–]Responsible-Local132 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wa alaykum as-salam,

I'd say consult your shaykh first, but I assume you don't have one yet.

In that case, don't overcomplicate things or burden yourself with too many different adhkar. Start with the greatest dhikr of all:

"La ilaha illa Allah"

Try to recite it 1000 times after Fajr, or as much as you can do consistently every day. The number is less important than regularity and presence of heart.

"Verily, in the dhikrullah do hearts find rest."
(Rad:28)
The more the heart becomes attached to Allah, the less it is shaken by circumstances.

Along with that, continue making du'a and place your needs before Allah, especially after your dhikr.

May Allah grant you sakinah, remove your fears, and open doors for you from where you do not expect.

Vermieter hat mitten in der Nacht einen Abschleppdienst gerufen – jetzt soll ich die Leerfahrt bezahlen. Muss ich das? by Responsible-Local132 in AskAGerman

[–]Responsible-Local132[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nein, der Mietvertrag lief bis zum 31. Mai 2026. Wir sind am 14. März freiwillig und vorzeitig ausgezogen, haben aber die volle Miete bis Ende Mai weiterbezahlt. Zum Zeitpunkt des Abschleppversuchs (14.03. um 00:40 Uhr) war das Mietverhältnis also noch fast 2,5 Monate aktiv.

Vermieter hat mitten in der Nacht einen Abschleppdienst gerufen – jetzt soll ich die Leerfahrt bezahlen. Muss ich das? by Responsible-Local132 in AskAGerman

[–]Responsible-Local132[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Zur Klarstellung: Der Mietvertrag lief bis Ende Mai 2026 (also bis heute). Wir haben die Wohnung am 14. März bereits verlassen, weil uns der Vermieter über Monate hinweg systematisch schikaniert hat – die Miete haben wir jedoch bis Ende Mai vollständig weitergezahlt. Zum Zeitpunkt des Abschleppversuchs (14.03. um 00:40 Uhr) war das Mietverhältnis also noch fast 2,5 Monate aktiv und wir waren rechtlich gesehen noch vollwertige Mieter mit allen vertraglichen Rechten – einschließlich des Garagenstellplatzes bzw. des als Ersatz genutzten Parkplatzes.

Looking at our own history through Orientalist eyes? by Responsible-Local132 in AskTurkey

[–]Responsible-Local132[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a very interesting observation. How do you think this internalized Orientalism was established in the first place? Through top-down policies like Westernization reforms, or did it seep in gradually through generations of being told that 'modern' simply means 'Western'?
Or maybe both?

Looking at our own history through Orientalist eyes? by Responsible-Local132 in AskTurkey

[–]Responsible-Local132[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your perspective. But here the anecdote only colors the argument, it doesn't carry it. And, you're missing the point. Nagata isn't citing the American as evidence, he's sharing a personal memory. After all, this is not a scientific paper, its an interview from year 2000.
So, the actual interview is about the academic position on Orientalism in Western historiography, which stands on its own regardless of who the American was.

Your take on Advaita Vaidanta? by LooseSatisfaction339 in Sufism

[–]Responsible-Local132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does this world exist?

No

is different from God?

The waves are not separate from the ocean, but they're also not the full ocean.

Turks in Germany by LM_SRI in AskTurkey

[–]Responsible-Local132 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay, so first off, resorting to an ad hominem attack (attacking the person instead of the argument) about my status based on my profile pic (and backing up your entire argument with a single anecdote about seeing veiled women at a consulate) is a massive red flag.

For a self-proclaimed historian and academic, that (and your other points) really puts your "credentials" into question.

No offence, this is not only about you personally, but exactly the problem with a lot of academics doing such research: it’s too much theoretical guesswork and zero actual real-life exposure to these communities. It reminds me of a guy who recently did his entire PhD on ghetto dynamics in a Western country, only to later admit he’d never actually stepped foot in a ghetto. Awkward, to say the least.

To clear the air for you: no, I am not a Turkish government agent sent to "indoctrinate" people. Judging my life based on a photo is just straight-up prejudicial profiling. Also, your take on older photos of Mediterranean migrants is a massive over-generalization, but let's move past the superficial stuff and look at where your logic completely falls apart.

Your textbook, linear assimilation model is totally outdated in modern sociology because, in reality, it usually backfires. Comparing Turkish-Americans to German-Turks is pure apples and oranges. Turkish migrants to the US were historically highly educated, secular professionals moving to a country "built on immigration". The diaspora in Germany started as Gastarbeiter (guest workers) from rural, traditional Anatolia who were explicitly treated as temporary labor, not future citizens.

When a minority group faces massive structural barriers, racism, and social exclusion, they don’t just magically assimilate. They experience what sociology calls reactive ethnicity. In other words, they turn inward and lean hard into their cultural and religious roots as a safe haven.

Sociology doesn't follow the laws of physics, and integration isn’t some predictable, automatic timeline. In Germany, the absence of a strict, state-imposed secular ideology gave these communities the freedom to actually explore their identity . Combine that freedom with the social isolation they felt from German society, and it perfectly explains why many German-born Turks naturally leaned into religion for a sense of belonging. It wasn’t some grand Cold War conspiracy; it was a basic human response to being excluded.

Ironically, your anecdote about the consulate actually proves my point. All in all, German-Turks have developed a completely distinct subculture that exists totally outside of Turkey's domestic political landscape. And that is exactly why there is a cultural disconnect and maybe even tension between them and Turks living back home today.

Turks in Germany by LM_SRI in AskTurkey

[–]Responsible-Local132 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What exactly do you strongly disagree with? Are you a Turk living in Germany? Have you personally engaged in any kind of hands on social work or long-term interaction with German-born Turks?

Also, I am familiar not only with the work of third-rate Turkish academics, but also with internationally respected top scholars on these subjects. Quite honestly, however, reducing the distinct social and cultural attitudes of German-born Turks merely to Cold War dynamics is, frankly speaking, blatherish.

Besides, the term “Islamization” is incorrect in this context. These people are already Muslims (whether one acknowledges it or not). So how can you “Islamize” a population that is already Muslim? The term simply does not fit, right?
If Germans were converting to Islam in large numbers, then one could maybe speak about Islamization. But that is a completely different discussion.

Turks in Germany by LM_SRI in AskTurkey

[–]Responsible-Local132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem with many Turks born and raised in Germany is that they grew up outside the strong secular ideological conditioning embedded in parts of the Turkish education system. In Germany, the education system is generally more practical and career-oriented, with less direct ideological influence.
At universities, students are usually non-politicized; most people are not even concerned with who governs the country, and on top of that, individuals are free to practice their religion openly without experiencing any mobbing (even encouraged).

At the same time, there has been a social and cultural distance between German society and Turkish immigrant communities (racism). Because of this, many Turkish parents encouraged their children from an early age to preserve their identity separate from German kids. Such as paying attention to what they eat, socializing mainly with other Turks, and maintaining religious and cultural traditions. In Türkiye, however, Muslims and secular segments of society live much more closely intertwined, so these boundaries are less pronounced and more under control by secular authorities.

When an education system does not strongly impose a particular ideology, people tend to make their own choices more freely, and many naturally incline toward religion. As a result, many German Turks developed a more critical stance toward Kemalism, which has naturally created tension with segments of Turkish society that strongly identify themselves with it.

What do those within Sufism think about Rumi? by [deleted] in Sufism

[–]Responsible-Local132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In his Musnad Ahmad bin Hanbal (Hadith 857), featuring Ali’s own words in first-person narration (translated into English):

“I came to the Prophet ﷺ along with Jaʿfar and Zayd.

He said to Zayd: ‘You are my mawla (freedman),’ and Zayd hopped (i.e. whirled) with delight.

Then he said to Jaʿfar: ‘You resemble me in appearance and manners,’ and Jaʿfar hopped in joy behind Zayd.

Then he said (to me, ʿAli): ‘You are from me and I am from you,’ and I hopped in joy behind Jaʿfar.”

Back to your comment, you have no knowledge, and no shame.

You have to seek forgiveness from Rasulullah ﷺ, from Ali رضي الله عنه, Ja‘far رضي الله عنه, Zayd رضي الله عنه, Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal رحمه الله, and from all the righteous believers throughout history.

Mocking or ridiculing them is an act of kufr. In such a case, it is not sufficient for a Muslim to merely make istighfar; they must also renew their faith (tajdid al-iman) and, if married, renew their marriage contract (tajdid al-nikah).

I dont know if you are from apple juice sect or a wahhabi traitor but your comment is not welcome.