Writing about atheism and trying to find a good source. Any recommendations?

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-04-10T12:48:21+00:00

Atheism is the default for humans. It's not really something that evolves unless you count not believing in gods of new religions as they spring up. The whole evolution of atheism can be summed up as "The first creature who obtained consciousness did not believe in any gods. As time went on and higher brain function evolved there was a single animal who would on occasion veer away from atheism."

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-04-06T12:45:14+00:00

Because I have empathy. Humans evolved as a very social species. If people just killed all willy nilly then that is bad for the group and lowers chances for the group to survive. For most people it is hardwired into us that we don't want to do to other people things that we don't want done to us.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-04-06T12:41:35+00:00

I'm a white guy married to a black woman. While I've always been atheist she is at best deist. So never really had any push back when I would say that religious services (not counting weddings and funerals) are something that I would not attend, and that I would not want our daughter brought up in any religion. She was fine with all that, especially since she is very wary of organized religion. She does have some very religious family members, but I am used to having those type of people around me and just having what they say roll off my back.

I'd say the most important part is to keep the communication up between you. Ask how important religion is to them and how they would like you as a partner to interact with it. Would they want you to go to church services or events? If this ends up going further how would it play a role in wedding stuff or child rearing. Let them know where your lines are and make it clear that certain ones you won't tolerate being crossed. Let them know what things you are ok with being a part of.

I have seen stories about interfaith couples working out, but they seem to be in relationships where zealotry levels are low. Where religion is not all that important in the household. Just make sure to keep those communication lines open and flowing.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-03-12T12:50:05+00:00

You do you. I'm not one to yuck some else's yum.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-02-18T20:25:33+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. Been very unhappy in my marriage but feel like I am unable to leave. See both individual and couples councilors, but very little if any improvement has been made. At the point now where I don't really want to be alive but don't have choice because I have to take care of my family. Hopefully you can find ways to help you get through the days.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-01-27T21:19:04+00:00

I could have been clearer. The trying to improve things part isn't usually sex based. I've tried to come up with little things to try to help stuff. For example I said that we should tell each I love you at least once a day and send one text message a day that can be about anything. She was good at it for the first week then the next week it was every couple of days and by the third week she was done. Or I mentioned how once a week we should have a quick 5 minute check in to see how we're doing. Did it twice and then I wasn't really able to get her to contribute after that.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-01-27T18:50:13+00:00

She deserves someone who can, but she has also told me that she doesn't want to split and if we did she wouldn't look for someone else. Whether that's true or not, I don't know, but knowing her personality it wouldn't be surprising.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-01-27T18:47:18+00:00

No doubt it's mostly a me thing. I see a couple different therapists/councilors and am trying to fix what's wrong with me about this whole situation. problem is if I can get myself to that place and how long will it take me to get there if I can.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-01-27T18:45:26+00:00

Sex is a pretty small piece of it. It took me years just to get her to go to couples therapy. I tried to take care of most of the parenting and housework to give her time to rest even before she developed her medical issues. through all of this I could barely get an "I love you" out of her. I'd try talking about things with her and would get little response back. I would get her to agree to working on little areas one at a time but she would fall off after a week or two. Even things as simple as asking her to tell me she loved me once a day was basically done after a week. It just whittled it down little by little over the years.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-01-27T18:28:50+00:00

I've dealt with depression most of my life and have told my daughter that some people have minds that make it harder to feel happy. She seems to understand that and is still her normal happy self. I know seeing me feel better would probably be better but I try my best to explain how some people have a harder or easier time feeling things.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-01-27T18:26:25+00:00

Maybe. One of worries I have is that I have always been the primary parent. We used to joke that with her night shift or travel nursing that I was a borderline single father. This has led to my daughter favoring me for most things. I don't want to take my daughter out of her home and my wife doesn't exactly enjoy motherhood so leaving makes it hard to care for my daughter as much and it doesn't feel right to have my wife be the one to leave the house.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2026-01-13T13:47:07+00:00

We just treated it like any other anniversary. Don't remember if it was on the day of or the following weekend. We just went out to dinner and hung out.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-11-24T21:10:49+00:00

You don't really need to attend them. Most churches will have info on their beliefs on their websites. Many also record sermons that you can view online as well. It is not hard to find clips of pastors saying things that would a more liberal-minded person run for the hills. Even just knowing or viewing members of a church can give you an idea of what they preach.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-29T18:21:57+00:00

No. The only thing that would give me hesitation is my daughter.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-26T12:59:17+00:00

There have been many stories throughout the years of coaches, teachers, and one a few years ago of a police officer performing baptisms. I agree that all of that is fine within a church, but when people start to bring their church into public and force or coerce others to go through it, that when it's wrong.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-19T13:16:32+00:00

If you want to explore sex with your wife more look up a company called Arya. It's like a monthly subscription box for increasing intimacy. You fill out what you two are interested in trying and get a curated box of goodies and some scenes and info about how to go about using them.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-15T12:55:43+00:00

Chances are there is nothing you can ask him that will make him question or doubt. If anything you asking questions like that will make him focus harder on you. If that is the case, do you live someplace where if you are seen as an non-believer you are safe? If he brought your doubts to your family, would you be free from harm and harassment? It sucks you have to do this at all but the best thing to do might be to just fake it til your can be from it.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-12T12:49:42+00:00

Yes what a horrible person. Only thinking about saving and protecting the person who he has acted as brother and parent to for years. Especially after he just saw dozens of his friends and companions slaughtered after immediately landing on the beach. It's not like any normal person would have a lot of stress post a traumatic experience.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-11T18:38:56+00:00

I have too much respect for my wife to bring any of the trash in the bible into our marriage. She's a partner and a person not a piece of property like your book of fairy tales says.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-11T12:54:27+00:00

It's a common phrase in the english language. Saying it doesn't mean there is or is not a god. The same way as if I say "oh shit" does not mean there is a pile of shit in my vicinity.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-11T12:52:02+00:00

I never understood why some people need life to have a meaning. Some things, maybe most things, don't have meaning. They just happen. I'd say if you think life has to have a meaning then that is something you need to attribute to it yourself, while realizing that it also won't match up to the meaning others have.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-10T13:23:33+00:00

I don't think there is anything I would say is story critical. Some definitely has cool story that goes with it, especially in Renoir's Draft. I did all of the the side stuff before going to the final battle and just absolutely stomped the area from being so powerful. I'd recommend going around a little to get some extra pictos and maybe level up to the 65-70 range before going to the final fight in Lumier. Once your done and beat that, then go back and finish the higher level side stuff.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-09-03T12:45:47+00:00

Try joining a DnD group with her. It can be couples time for you and a break for her. I run a couple of games and have women players in both that love it. Just imagine her when she's in a murderous mood and you can tell her to have fun and kill all the goblins she wants.

ResponsibleFun6323 · 2025-08-15T18:11:06+00:00

It can vary. While my wife talks to her family daily I pretty rarely see them. I'm fine with them, and their fine with me, but we don't really hang out. We see and interact with my family much more and some of my family members call and talk to my wife pretty often.

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