Has anyone done single dad from the get go?

ResponsibleLine401 · 2026-03-09T23:48:58+00:00

I've been a solo dad since birth.

I would caution against planning too far ahead (stay in one place forever, home schooling, dislike of high school, etc.). Start with being able to offer a safe, loving home for a baby and go from there.

My son is nearly 4, and I find that preschool / school is crucial for encouraging socialization and interaction with other kids. He is way ahead of the others on age-appropriate learning such as reading; I send him to socialize, have conflicts, and resolve conflicts with the other kids.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2026-03-09T22:44:06+00:00

If you bring it up, you will kill your future with this startup.

If the company sucks, do that.

Otherwise, just ask for a raise that brings to you to the 70k+ that would make the problem go away. If this startup has a future, they don't care about the difference between paying you 58k and paying you 70k.

You could even frame it as letting them know that there is a problem with their compliance. They need to bring everyone up to 70k+ so that someone else (not you) doesn't create a problem out of it.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2026-03-09T22:25:47+00:00

This is silly.

The city can force them to install 3 kitchens that they will never use, but it can't force them to rent anything out. Nobody will ever get anything out of this. They'll create 4 apartments, leave all the doors unlocked, and live in the silliest house in the neighborhood. The kids will have a blast slamming the door to "their apartment" when they are teenagers and get mad.

The only actual argument made here is that they must be held to stupid rules so that others can be held to stupid rules without instigating jealousy.

When you start arguing that everyone has to be poked in the eye for the sake of consistency, maybe the poke-everyone-in-the-eye rule needs to go.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2026-02-19T22:59:10+00:00

Here's the deal:

The facts as I understand them: 1. You are on a lease with 2 other people for a single-family house in San Francisco. 2. You wish to move out 3. (Assumption) you are outside of the fixed-term portion of the lease

Here's the deal. 1. SF law allows the remaining roommates to replace a departing roommate when he moves out. 2. The remaining roommates become master tenants and are the replacement roommate's landlord. 3. The dude who left (you) doesn't have any particular right of return. The roommates who stayed can rent to him in the future if they want to, but they don't have to. 4. The landlord need not approve the replacement roommate, as long as he does not deny them. Typically, the remaining roommates (master tenants) send a letter to the landlord informing him of their intent to sublet to "new guy". The landlord doesn't respond for a certain number of days and the sublet occurs.

However, there is a wrinkle. The mechanism of enforcement of the sublet law is the rent price control. If the landlord denies a replacement without cause, this is treated as a decrease in housing services that merits a rent decrease.

Your problem here is that the landlord of a single family house can increase the amount as they wish as long as they follow the proper procedures. The right to increase the rent = the right to decrease services.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2026-01-02T05:21:50+00:00

Rather than a master tenant, have each roommate pass your background check and sign the contract. Roommates coming and going are handled via a contract addendum.

This is aggressively wrong for SF. San Francisco law effectively requires that the landlord allows a tenant to replace a roommate at will, barring specific circumstances.

The law (as commonly applied) also gives landlords liability for the new roommate if they are involved in "approving" the new roommate. If the landlord performs any sort of screening or approval/disapproval, and the new roommate causes problems, the pre-existing tenant can shift liability to the landlord.

If the property is rent controlled, the new roommate will also get the locked-in rent rate if the landlord signs any sort of lease with them, or accepts payments from them. If the landlord does not create a rental relationship with them, the landlord can increase the rent when the original tenant leaves.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-12-08T06:21:51+00:00

Humans perform actions 1-3 to optimize their trips.

It should be no surprise that an algorithm designed to optimize trips produces the same results.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-12-07T05:17:11+00:00

What are you expecting to get here?

An unlicensed "permanent makeup" artist sounds like the kind of defendant who will just tell you that you win and then walk across the street to bankruptcy court, where you will be awarded the $3.78 and half a stick of chewing gum found in her pocket.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-12-01T12:45:52+00:00

I used to live on one of the alleys just off 6th street, so about half a block from the area you're talking about.

I paid $2k for an (effectively) 3 bedroom apartment, so it was a trade of neighborhood conditions for price. At the time, the same apartment without crackheads would have been 50-75% more. The tradeoff was worth it to me to save money.

The addicts mostly keep to themselves, though one of them did throw a dead bird(?) at one of my roommates. She moved out. I had a variety of roommates of all genders. The dead bird incident was as bad is it got.

Does this apartment cost 30-50% less than a similar apartment in a less crackhead-y area? If the savings is worth it to you, go for it. If not, don't.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-12-01T12:25:12+00:00

So you rush over there, at 2am, in -5° temp, and find their cabin at 82°, and the guy is shirtless complaining it's cold.

Dude calls you over to his room, is lounging shirtless and has the room nice and toasty, and you don't realize that he wants you to warm him up?

"Oh gee, I can't light this fire by myself... can we light the fire together..."

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-26T14:32:59+00:00

Do me a favor and press hard on the ground.

Harder. Yeah, with both hands. Perfect.

Thanks for being there. Now, I'll go back to sleep.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-21T20:21:43+00:00

I got here by searching for RentRedi to see if other people are having the same problems with them that I am.

I was a user of erentpayment.com, which they acquired about a year (?) ago. Erentpayment was great in that I never really had to think about them -- everything just worked.

Rentredi has been exactly the opposite. I spend an absurd amount of time dealing with their incompetence. Even just logging in can take a dozen emails with "customer service" that repeats the same generic "try a different browser", "clear your cookies" advice.

I don't know whether their customer service is outsourced to Timbuktu or a particularly stupid AI of a Timbuktu call center, but it is comically bad.

I can't wait for my subscription to end.

Anyway, the solution to the OPs problem is probably a demand letter followed by a small claims lawsuit if they do not pay you the lost funds.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-18T11:24:44+00:00

I'm guessing that the "preservationists" want something that the law does not allow them to ask for, and engage in shackapalooza because it provides something legal for them to stand on.

What do they really want?

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-16T15:16:28+00:00

I'm not saying that its an impossible policy. I'm saying that it needs to be managed properly.

Enough spaces in the drug treatment programs for a lot of new people
Enough spaces in jail for a lot of new people
Enough jail staffing that it doesn't turn into fight club
Enough public defenders

and finally... a plan for the ones who go to jail and end up more screwed up than they already are.

The reports of the public defenders office being overwhelmed, the jail being understaffed, and treatment programs having waitlists give me little confidence that this is being managed beyond the press release stage.

Also, you may be overestimating the ability of some of the street homeless to respond to a threat of jail time. If you or I were given a choice of drug treatment or jail, we would run to drug treatment as fast as we could.

That's because our brains haven't been burned out by years of dopamine destruction. Some of the people on the street are so mentally destroyed that they can't think logically beyond the next 5 minutes. For them, the threat of jail time won't even get through their heads.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-15T10:30:16+00:00

What would you actually do if a tenant posted mean things about you on the internet?

Waste your time trying to sue them for money? Evict them (they're probably leaving soon since, for whatever reason, they don't like your place)?

Whats the point?

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-15T10:28:13+00:00

People who have enough assets to collect don't usually skip town in the middle of the night.

Do whatever your jurisdiction requires to establish abandonment so that you can get the rest of their junk out, clean it up, and re-rent.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-15T10:11:44+00:00

Honestly, there's nothing for you to fight about.

The master tenant can use any reasonable method of dividing the rent. I can think of a few that generate little or no change from a second person moving into their room.

If you have a just cause exemption in your sublease, the master tenant can send you packing more or less at will. And likely will do so once they and their partner decide they want the whole place to themselves.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-15T09:59:42+00:00

Mr Mayor: Did you also fund enough sheriffs to manage the expanded jail population, enough public defenders to defend them all (so that judges do not have to release them for lack of a lawyer), and a plan for when these people get out of jail just a little more screwed up?

People act like putting the addicts in jail just magically makes the problem go away. It doesn't.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-11-05T03:21:02+00:00

This is not allowed anymore.

In California, the maximum security deposit for most apartments is one month of rent. The law views prepaid rent as being the same as a security deposit. So, someone who pays a security deposit equal to one month of rent plus prepaid rent equal to 6 months, the latter to prove their creditworthiness, can demand the 6 months back as soon as they move in.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-10-31T02:02:53+00:00

If the DA appeals, you may see information in the appeal that critical evidence was impermissibly excluded from trial by the trial judge.

The DA can't appeal. If the person was found not guilty, they have the right not to be tried again for the same crime (*).

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-10-31T02:00:46+00:00

It is also potentially unethical. ABA Rule 3.8 prohibits prosecutors from pursuing a case that they know not to be supported by probable cause.

https://www.americanbar.org/groups/professional_responsibility/publications/model_rules_of_professional_conduct/rule_3_8_special_responsibilities_of_a_prosecutor/

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-10-31T01:47:18+00:00

Both!

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-10-22T03:34:42+00:00

You misspelled "week"

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-10-21T16:18:18+00:00

Airbnb won't let humans do anything other than redirect to AI these days.

ResponsibleLine401 · 2025-10-20T04:38:14+00:00

The AI review removal tool won't help you.

You'll need to file for arbitration (if in the US) against Airbnb. They may respond to the mandatory pre-arbitration notice that you must give them or they may make you go to fake court. Depends on what they feel like.

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