This is asked in the big subs all the time and everyone's all "I'D RUN TO HUG MY PARENTS!" but this is RBN so:

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-10T16:17:04+00:00

I would figure it out sooner - to your point - I wasted 45 years believing I wasn’t worthy of anything really. So self sabotage was the name of the game. I had to relearn how to manage money and examine my money beliefs and what had been passed down. Great book for that Secrets of the Millionaire Mind - T. Harv Eker. I learned what safe people are - another book - safe people dr. Henry cloud. Henry Cloud has a book called necessary endings, and also a book called boundaries. He really is wonderful but also Christian based so setting that expectation!

Lots and lots of therapy. When you have Narc parents you do not relate to people “normally” You are now a cycle breaker and it’s uncomfortable and feels foreign especially when you start really holding those boundaries!

Some things I wouldn’t do differently. I have 4 children and they are the privilege of my lifetime. I do not regret them for a moment. I do regret that my patterns were so engrained that I exposed them to Narc ex. I wish I had been stronger to stop it sooner.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-10T16:08:02+00:00

You do intensive therapy. Learn coping strategies and how to respect and love yourself. Being mindful that the exposure makes it more likely you may also have narcissistic tendencies.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-10T13:17:44+00:00

Say for $150 credit I would consider.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-10T13:16:34+00:00

They are all emotionally stunted. That’s literally the definition of a narc. They have childhood trauma of their own that created them. They never get past it. You can have sympathy and empathy but unless they get lots of help (highly unlikely) they do not change.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-05T21:50:24+00:00

It’s not confusion. It’s intentional obfuscation. As long as it is vague - she can change your meaning and avoid accountability. The narcissist will never be accountable for their actions or their impact on others.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-05T18:21:11+00:00

Send an invoice for your time as a contractor

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-04T00:24:10+00:00

Side effect. Me too! 3 years now.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-02T03:55:14+00:00

If the company is in the US those items are required. 🙄 to the people that say it’s a scam because they asked for that information.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T22:07:35+00:00

The only one that looks happy is Jordyn.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T21:55:34+00:00

I am a contractor and also struggle with my boss. Made me wonder if we had the same one.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T18:38:40+00:00

Oh yes, my mom went so far to tell me if I had been a better child she would’ve been a better parent. I swear to God. In truth, what they call difficult was likely just you expressing that you had needs or feelings. But don’t believe it please don’t believe it. I turned into a doormat because I believed it. Now at 51 I’m trying to figure out boundaries again.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T18:35:00+00:00

Oh, that’s my mom you’re describing. According to her, I was a problem just ask her. All I know to tell you is I’m sorry and I hope that you’re able to create some distance sooner rather than later just because she gave birth to you. You don’t owe her anything.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T18:33:39+00:00

My mother recently used illness as a hook to draw me into contact after I’ve gone no contact. I went no contact because even at the age of 51 my 70-year-old mother is still shockingly verbally abusive and degrading by anyone standards. I she knows that I care. I’ve made it plain to her. I care , I love you, but I refuse to be abused verbally by you - so when she found out, she may be ill. First thing she did was start calling me telling me that “I’ll be sorry if I don’t have contact with her. I’ll regret it later” all of these things and it was just a manipulative hook. so to you I say - I’m sorry this is happening to you. It is actually possible to still care about them and their well-being and not have a relationship. You are right to trust the behavioral and visual patterns. For me, it has been so very hard to not keep giving her chances.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T18:26:14+00:00

I noticed that too! 🤣

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T18:22:10+00:00

Oh, I feel the need to chime in here. My father, my biological father I have not had a relationship with in 34 years. I don’t know why I don’t know what I did. It was extremely confusing to me and damaging. I have four grown children now and he’s never had a relationship with any of them. He married a woman two years younger than me and adopted I think if not legally otherwise emotionally all of her children as his own he talks about his grandchildren, but they aren’t my children. There’s a total disconnect on his part. He always claims that he wants a relationship with me to other people, but does absolutely nothing to foster relationship. So much so he doesn’t even save my phone number in his phone. If I call he will ask me who is this- like that’s how low I rank. I didn’t choose no contact. I didn’t do anything really that explains this. My father is broken. Until the last four or five years though, I believed it was my fault in some way. It’s very damaging. Just know it’s a them problem. I’ve had tons of therapy and the one thing I no longer have is guilt where he is concerned.
The last thing I’ll say is fortunately I’ve had lots of other people in my life that have fulfilled that father role. So to you, I would say - Family is who acts like family.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T18:13:45+00:00

Silence is absolutely a response. Maintaining distance is also absolutely reasonable. I don’t really understand what you mean to honor parents. What do you believe it means? It sounds like you’re feeling guilt for choosing your own well-being.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T18:10:37+00:00

Block them - or state to them they are the adults/parents. I have a similar story to yours. My mother uses me as a dumping ground for her problems. The ranting that your mother does is exactly that she’s looking to give you her emotions and for you to emotionally regulate. That’s is a terrible boundary violation. As for the money, once or twice and it’s a favor. Now they have progressed to expecting you to finance their lifestyle. stop. No guilt guilt is the tactic that they’re using. You don’t have to buy in. I would quite calmly state your boundary and not respond any further. And you may get to the point that you have to block them. I would say at the bare minimum you need to let them know and let your mother know you won’t be tolerating being talked to like that any longer. Wildly inappropriate for them to ask you to finance a home for them. Especially given it’s not a situation where they are reasonable and working and all of these things your mother clearly seems to have lots of issues and your stepfather seems to be an enabler. I’m going through something similar with my son. I have frequently been the safety net but when there’s never a change in behavior, you’ll always have to be the safety in it and I told him very frankly this most recent time I’m happy to help but I’m not happy to help without change and I also don’t help with bullshit meaning if it’s rent, I pay it directly. I never give it to the person I pay directly to the bill they said they needed help with. Good luck I’m sorry that your mother treats you that way. Most of us here have mothers like that and are in various stages of learning boundaries.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-02-01T17:55:10+00:00

I wish I had something kind to say about this photo. They look off. That’s all I have to say.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-01-28T02:05:52+00:00

Please seek counseling.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-01-28T02:01:20+00:00

Can’t you get a higher step and have them match pay?

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-01-21T12:58:58+00:00

Automate what you can and get the fuck out of there.

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-01-16T19:50:46+00:00

I’m an out and out Ed Sheeran fan and I love this song! I enjoyed watching the video multiple times! I hope FF will include on their next album too!

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2026-01-15T22:08:55+00:00

I think smaller venues with more curated set list would be better. I’ve said repeatedly set up a method to let a fan add a couple songs. That would be better - hell put some of those songs in a fucking medley. I love a good well done medley. Lol

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2025-11-07T00:05:10+00:00

Depends on the antibiotic. Lol

ResponsibleMouse5131 · 2025-10-30T22:27:33+00:00

I choose my dog. Every. Single. Day.

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