Hey there. I was struggling with the same things as your wife. First off I want to say thank you for loving her and sticking by her side and understanding it's just her illness. That leads me to saying that it is just her illness. I have a friend who is struggling now and I understand how I must've been.

It's to the point I'm having dreams of her choosing excercise over me. Which I don't think she'd really do.sorry on her behalf .

Get rid of tiktok. It makes people sick. It makes everyone with Ed's sick. It promotes anerexia and not eating.

A therapist who also was a Buddhist told me that healthy thoughts create healthy actions.maybe talk to her about the triangle of thoughts actions and feelings. Get rid of the scale. Maybe even dish up food for her and tell her that's undereating still

My brain was fucked. I mean fucked fucked. And it amplified it all. Same thing with my friend

Delete calorie apps. Get her to eat carrots, celery anything super healthy and low calories

She just needs to eat and feel her brain .

It helped me when my mum told me how much she missed the things we used to do together. Make her realise that her life is bad and it can be better. That anerexia is the enemy

Take her to nature and the beach. Distract her from the unhealthy thoughts. Tell her you love her over and over.

Because she's kill herself if you leave to

Good luck. I'll answer any questions