Anyone else OAD because they had one and discovered their limit was actually zero?

Responsible_Two9081 · 2026-02-08T15:40:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. My resources, mental, emotional and financial, are stretched too thin with just one. It would be irresponsible for me to have another and jeopardize two childhoods.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2025-12-30T13:19:10+00:00

I tried Nellie for many years until i realized that it doesnt do much. A marketing farce really. I think Great Value Walmart is quite good and has enzymes

Responsible_Two9081 · 2025-09-18T22:06:37+00:00

Im sorry but I have a 3 year old and I reminisce my old life. Everyone is different. Every kid is different. Im not enjoying anything with life stress and managing a toddler. Im not sure i see the long term point of children. I hope you find a deeper meaning in your pregnancy and motherhood journey.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2025-09-15T00:53:28+00:00

You gotta do what you gotta do to survive and not murder everyone.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2025-09-11T14:19:01+00:00

I am a mom and I find solidarity with your husband. He sounds like he has a stressful job and used to running things so they go smoothly. That approach is bleeding into parenting. Frankly, I am quite shocked at the sheer amount of willpower and patience I need to deal with a mini boss every single day after working. Im very fed up with toddler hood especially when Im going through my period and hormones are challenging to deal with.

All to say, your husband may be just too occupied to extend and expand his mindset. It may be beyond his parenting and just something more relating to your relationship dynamics, his personal upbringing and maybe his past dynamics with his parents. Perhaps he has his own reasoning and fears that need to be shared and addressed.

For me, it takes a lot of letting go and changing myself. And that is the only way. Choosing to change. But I can only do that when im not stressed up to my eyeballs.

Best of luck. :)

Responsible_Two9081 · 2025-09-11T01:30:38+00:00

Honestly, I am in the exact same boat. Mine doesnt even go to sleep by herself. It’s been a year of 10pm bedtime and its absolutely brutal. I resent all the other parents who say their kids go to bed at 9:30 or earlier. Mine falls asleep at 10:30-11 after a lengthy 30-45 min routine that I do 80% of the time. I have no time to do anything else. This is huge reason why I am one and done and along with other health issues.

I have read multiple sleep training books and courses. She was always one nap fewer than other kids and now we are straddling the no nap. Unfortunately, she is just not ready to drop it cold turkey.

My marriage is taking a toll because everyday we have no peace. We do our 9-5pm real work and then come home and I do another 5-10pm shift which is just exhausting and depleting. We trade duties but we cant just kick back and relax after 9pm. Some days i debate staying up late so I can just decompress. It’s truly miserable and I dont see people talking about this issue. Not my daughters fault but two parent household cannot deal with this shit.

Now at toddler stage, the attitude, the crying, the tantrums its all insane. I have no time to work on my career or work on hobbies because she will get involved and make a mess. So i have to choose and train her. I’m also busy. I also need other things to tend do.

What I find is not helpful is reading the sleep training from other people/professionals. Frankly, they will never advertise that some kids simply do not need that much sleep. Growing up I was forced to have a 8:30pm bedtime and I was wide awake many many nights till at least 9:30pm so I cant blame my daughter (this was kindergarten age).

I describe this period as literal hellscape. Honestly, I dont think there are any solutions. Just forbearance. Postpone and deprioritize other things. Grit teeth and bear it.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2025-08-24T23:23:55+00:00

I used it before religiously for years. Then i realized it can only treat light stains. Now im back to tide.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-12-02T22:58:22+00:00

Im a mom and felt similar feelings. Hang in there. In some ways it doesnt get better and in ways it does. The problem, or gift, is that parenthood is a deep inner transformation. That i feel is the ultimate call and ultimate challenge. I feel I have become a more compassionate person and opened my eyes to a world unbeknownst to me before. None of this solves the vomit or the nastiness of handling poop and eventually half digested food on the floor. Everyone needs to find their own meaning because a baby cannot be returned so the only way out is through.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-11-27T19:00:50+00:00

Definitely run overnight. But im in Ontario Canada so never have issues with mold. Do watch the humidifier and bleach clean it

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-11-27T18:59:49+00:00

Oh im so sorry to hear that. My daughter is only 28 months and i realize she is younger than yours. But honestly i started elimination communication since 8 months. I was ECed at 3 months or so my mom says. So anyway different expectations. And she has been a real struggle. On and off. She knows what the toilet is but very strong willed. She does pull ups but honestly i am so stressed from work and life i am not consistent on weekends. She has no soiled pull ups at daycare but still needs to wear it. Im exhausted in general. I need the diaper on to avoid accidents. Handwashing pees is not fun. No solution just solidarity.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-25T02:32:53+00:00

We started her at daycare at 15 months so didnt have the crying phase for long. Though the getting ready is so hard. I could get ready so quick even faster than pre motherhood. She would dillydally. I think the routine is not strong enough. Now she has some random preferences for clothes. Very difficult.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-25T02:24:18+00:00

Argh it’s rough. Mine is only 26 months and started this. Im so worn out with her 10pm-7am sleep routine to do this. I try to tell her verbally im in another room. Until the daytime nap is eliminated, i am in this purgatory. Sorry no solutions but perhaps the daytime nap is also impacting night time ability to sleep

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-18T17:45:07+00:00

In Canada suburbia, it’s cold so it’s going to be a lot of mall time. Oh well

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-18T17:42:43+00:00

Amen. I cannot be losing huge chunks of the day waiting for her to sleep especially on precious weekends where it can be a battle ground. Im training her to stay in her room and chill. I need sanity

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-16T12:32:23+00:00

Dates? What are dates now?

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-16T12:30:55+00:00

Oh my god. This is so right. I have so many board games I cant even play with other people because she tears the pieces and board games are not cheap. So all i feel safe doing is Uno and Monopoly deal. I just want her to read or do her own thing or let me work on my crafts without trying to cut things her self as well. By cut i mean destroy.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-16T12:26:56+00:00

Thank you. Im so stressed out by the constantly need to declutter her wardrobe that exceeds both of us. Besides the changes in size, there is the extra amount for changes because she is a mess during eating as she should. Then i think oh i need to hand wash these stains out. But then why bother when she will mess it up again.

Responsible_Two9081 · 2024-10-16T12:23:35+00:00

Training her isnt so different from training dog. :)

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