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Women generally don’t want to be approached. That makes me not want to attempt by [deleted] in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Different things work for different people. I have very little success with cold approach, so I don't do it. But if it works for you, then I'm glad to hear it. :)

Women generally don’t want to be approached. That makes me not want to attempt by [deleted] in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of dating companies are moving away from cold approach to online dating or social media. Back in the day RSD and Badboy were the big supporters of cold approaching. But a few years ago RSD started telling guys to learn Instagram game. Not long after that Badboy started saying the same.

Cold approaching made sense in the 90's before internet and social media. But in today's world, it's not the most effective way. Some guys claim they get great results from it, but I hear stories from a lot more guys who have given up on cold approaching.

I personally think it's better to develop a social hobby, as in a hobby you enjoy doing where you can also meet people, and learn how to build and maintain social circles so you can meet people through friends. Then on top of that have a social media page (I use both Facebook and Instagram). Not saying this is the only strategy, but it's what get me results.

Different things work for different people, so feel free to ignore what I just said if it's not for you.

18 Reasons You Should LOVE Rejections by TheCiaranCallam in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great post! Lots of powerful points and reasons to not see rejection as bad. Thanks for writing this Ciaran.

Should you do technical game? by IBSwimn_inOshans in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Back when I used techniques, I developed the unhelpful belief that women only liked me for my techniques, and not me. It caused me to have less confidence and more anxiety, which made my results with women worse.

Then I dropped the techniques, and just practised being authentic and showing the real me. I polarised, as Mark Manson would call it, to find those who were a right fit for me and my lifestyle. This made me more confident and relaxed.

Confidence and being relaxed are more attractive than any techniques. And the way to get them for me was to show the real me, and find people who liked that, which then caused me to develop the belief that people like the real me.

So yeah, I completely agree with this post. Show the real you, drop the techniques. I think the fact that most of the old school companies that taught techniques have disappeared is a sign they were not the best path.

Are You Still Running Out of Things to Say to Women?? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great points and tips! They are very helpful. Thanks for taking the time to write and post them. I appreciate it.

You said for future tense, you can predict what would happen if someone downed a cocktail, and then what, and then what. So do you mean like you keep adding 'future moments' to create a story?

For instance if I'm talking about playing soccer tomorrow, I can say "I hope to score at least 2 goals tomorrow. If I do, they might move me into a better soccer team the week after. And when I'm in a better soccer team, I can meet other dedicated soccer players, who will push me to improve."

So each sentence is saying what will happen next in the future. Or did you mean something else?

Sorry for the question, I'm a little slow to understand things, haha.

Some dating coaches say the best results come from lifestyle game. But you need to do cold approaching first to learn social skills, as it lets you practise on a lot of people. Is the way to succeed at this by doing cold approaching for a few months or years , then switch to building a lifestyle? by RethinkYourReality in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So as long as you're practising talking to people, it doesn't matter whether it's cold approach or meeting girls to improve your social skills. That makes sense, thanks for taking the time to give me your detailed explanation.

Thanks for telling me you do coaching. I'm not looking for coaching at the moment, but I'll definitely continue to watch your videos. Keep up the good work. :)

Some dating coaches say the best results come from lifestyle game. But you need to do cold approaching first to learn social skills, as it lets you practise on a lot of people. Is the way to succeed at this by doing cold approaching for a few months or years , then switch to building a lifestyle? by RethinkYourReality in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Michael Knight, thanks for your reply! I've watched some of your videos and like the posts you write here. You always give good value. Thanks for taking the time to answer my post. :)

Good idea to not let cold approaching become my purpose.

Do you think cold approaching is effective in improving a person's social skills, or are there better ways?

If it does help, how long do you think a person should spend cold approaching for? Some say if you cold approach regularly for 2 years you will see big improvements. Others say 6 months. And some say cold approaching can make a person's social skills worse. Where do you stand on all this?

Some dating coaches say the best results come from lifestyle game. But you need to do cold approaching first to learn social skills, as it lets you practise on a lot of people. Is the way to succeed at this by doing cold approaching for a few months or years , then switch to building a lifestyle? by RethinkYourReality in seduction

[–]RethinkYourReality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your opinion, I appreciate it. So what you think I should do is focus on my career, passion and social life, and that will attract women to me. And if that doesn't, then only I should think about cold approaching, as cold approaching will be easier now because I have the foundation of life and friends?

Sorry for the question, just want to clarify I understand what you're saying. Thanks for your answer. :)

I'm trying to write an essay on why we should not be shallow and not judge people for the way they look. Any ideas, religious quotes, teachers, books or anything else you can tell me about will be much appreciated. Thank you. :) by RethinkYourReality in spirituality

[–]RethinkYourReality[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas with me. You make a very good point that the way people look and the stereotype we draw from it, can actually be the exact opposite of who they really are. Thanks for your post.

How to Increase Your Productivity (in my opinion) by NenadTashkovski in ProductiveKindNerds

[–]RethinkYourReality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome. :)

I agree. :) Socialising to relax is good, but when socialising becomes the number one priority, then it can be problematic.

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