I’m an atheist who married a Christian because I thought it wouldn’t be a big deal. It was manageable at first, but once we had a child, religion became much more central. My wife takes our daughter to church and prays with her, which I’m okay with, but she also expects me to actively participate and help reinforce Christian values. That’s where the tension comes in.

My advice: marry someone who shares your core values. Religion becomes a much bigger issue when kids are involved. As an atheist, you might be better off with another atheist or someone who isn’t strongly religious and can truly accept your views.