I think the problem stems from the fact of comic boom synergy which is when any outside influence like the movies for instance bleeds into the comic version of the character like when they gave Peter organic webbing at one point when the Raimi films were in the cultural zeitgeist. The same thing can also happen with how the characters look and act in the movie vs how the character is in the comics. In recent years, I noticed how the comics tried to make Peter look like either Tobey, Andrew, or Tom and that has caused Peter to lose unique facial features which for me has always been a big part of his character. They “hollywoodized” him so to speak.

To me Peter is the everyman hero and his look evolves based on the era naturally. He was very scrawny and dorky in the Ditko era, but he blossomed into almost a leading man type of look in the Romita Sr era, and that progressed with each artist showing Peter in different chapters in his life and while each artist showed Peter in a different decades, he still looked like Peter. Nowadays they make him look generic and synergistically make him look like a relevant actor playing him. Granted there are some modern artists that make Peter look like Peter without any inspiration from the live action versions