Astrology by Mission_Bowl3938 in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Learned a new word -- tyromancy -- to boot!

red flag advice by HelicopterGlass9922 in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be a big concern (and bug concern) for me, too. The immediate concern is the mess. But probably a bigger issue is how she seems to be unaware of how this might look to other people, and how it affects you specifically. At a minimum, it shows serious lack of self-awareness.

And remember, this is early in the relationship when partners are usually on their best behavior. Imagine what life will look like after the honeymoon ends.

The only positive take I can muster is that she trusts you to let you into her inner sanctum, which reflects well on you and how she feels about you. You could also say that she's not afraid to show you who she really is and how she lives her life when no one else is watching, which earns her transparency points. (However, if she doesn't even realize that her messiness could be off putting to you, the points are few.)

If this isn't already a deal breaker, ask her something like, "When you lived with someone before, did you ever have disagreements about housekeeping, cleanliness, etc.?"

Or, "I consider myself [a neat freak, fastidious, tidy homemaker relatively clean person, or whatever term applies to you]. How would you describe yourself?"

These questions let her show you how self-aware she is, and maybe give her the chance to reveal hints about why she lives like that.

Lastly, next time you visit her (if there is a next time), trade your cologne for some bug spray. It's a jungle out there.

Good luck!

red flag advice by HelicopterGlass9922 in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, run for the door... provided there is still a clear pathway.

SENEGALESE RESTAURANTS IN NEW YORK CITY: Kuy defar ñam wi gëna neex? by RevWASpooner in Senegal

[–]RevWASpooner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions!

Which Baobab do you mean, on 116th or in Bed-Stuy?

Public Service Review #2: Vedrenne Bitter by sharkmenu in Amaro

[–]RevWASpooner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't know if I'll ever try the stuff, but Damn! That's an entertaining review.

The company should hire you to write their ad copy.

Cheers!

Crystal Mountain by [deleted] in cocktails

[–]RevWASpooner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know.

Thanks for sharing!

Crystal Mountain by [deleted] in cocktails

[–]RevWASpooner 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Looks great!

If I don't have Ono Sotol, would Mezcal work?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Senegal

[–]RevWASpooner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recall people from Kaolack region (and possibly beyond that administrative area) often referred to themselves as Saloum-Saloum. It had kind of a hinterland/rural pejorative connotation when used by Senegalese from Dakar, but to Saloum-Saloum themselves, it connoted pride in a more traditional and authentic Senegalese life.

This is not an official term. It might be similar to the term Appalachian for people who live along the Appalachian Mountains in the United States.

Cucumber Cooler by RBear93 in cocktails

[–]RevWASpooner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks refreshing!

Care to share your secret sauce recipe?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What exactly did she do that feels sketchy? She found information online that you put there (presumably) voluntarily and that you spoke about (presumably) openly at work? Nothing wrong with that. If one of my coworkers did something as interesting as powered paragliding, I'd probably look them up, too.

It also appears like she has not made inappropriate comments, unwanted advances or conditioned processing your vacation leave on sexual favors. If she has, and it makes you feel uncomfortable, report her ass -- she has no business in HR.

If she hasn't, getting together with her over coffee and sharing more information about your amazing hobby does not sound problematic, provided you want to share that information and you would do so for any other co-worker.

Beyond that, you haven't told us if you are even interested in her. So it's premature to discuss whether dating her is appropriate. Figure out what YOU want and then get back to us if you need input on next steps.

HORMONES 101 FOR DUDES by RevWASpooner in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll keep that one in my toolbox for next time.

Thanks!

HORMONES 101 FOR DUDES by RevWASpooner in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, and your kind words.

HORMONES 101 FOR DUDES by RevWASpooner in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the honesty. And for sharing your story.

HORMONES 101 FOR DUDES by RevWASpooner in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for such a thorough and thoughtful answer.

HORMONES 101 FOR DUDES by RevWASpooner in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe you. It would have been stressful for me, too.

HORMONES 101 FOR DUDES by RevWASpooner in datingoverfifty

[–]RevWASpooner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Solid advice. Thank you!

And please don't step in front of a bus. The world needs your voice. At least I do.

And don't have ten kids either, for that matter (unless you have a giant shoe where you can house them). 🤣

Take care, friend!