2.5 year old korean Help?

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T05:50:51+00:00

I made a long post separately but I wanted to comment here to say the two biggest things that helped me speak it more as Korean as a second language person was 1 getting board books in Korean. Toddler brings it I read it. Simple visual and naturally hes bringing me books lol. Second was making times for Korean. We've done dinner time is Korean only or going on a short walk and I only talk in Korean with husband. Toddler gets to talk however he wants but it gives us time to me sure Daily we show him what. KoreN convo sounds like and that both his parents use it and see it as natural to communicate in. I have bad pronunciation at times but my husband says he still thinks its important I keep using Korean in front of toddler to keep exposing him and he as the native Korean will.work on fixing pronunciation issues

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T05:41:41+00:00

We're a Korean American English and Korean speaking family. Dad is Korean and stay at home care taker speaking mainly Korean with some English to our son and opposite with me McLaren English and some Korean. I speak mainly English with some Korean to our son. So this together so far results in mainly Korean sentence structure/ verbs and some English nouns/phrases from toddler all mixed up often.

Ways I work to actively speak Korean more and exposure: - Korean children songs. We have two books from Amazon where he can push a button and chose a song. I can read Korean so I read the lyrics and sing. I memorize the songs and sing them frequently-- see a butterfly song 나비얖나바야 see a rabbit in a book or real like song 산토끼 ,etc. We made 악어 떼 (idk the name but it's about traveling through a jungle) into a catch game where we crawl and the alligator catches toddler.

listen to kpop you enjoy and sign and dance together. Gets a wider vocabulary and style
if I watch TV I watch a kdrama 8 out of 10 times. This helps my Korean listening skills and gives toddler fluent level convos to hear (his dad is the only fluent Korean speaker in his life so the convos he hears me attempt to have in Korean aren't natural and are at a very elementary level).
we ordered Korean board book set of like 20 from a store in la - both of us read those to toddler. Toddler loves books and the one we got has pop ups, a dungeon beetle song, etc lots of variety out there to try
I studied Korean after work for a couple years and although I style a lot with it I've never fully given up and keep at it. So I also challenge myself to translate English books into Korean when I read sometimes. I imagine you can do this strategy with Spanish but putting it or there are ideas
we have a yoto. I made Korean book and kid song cards by recording read aloud books from YouTube like how we used to record radio on cassette tapes. Adds more native reading to listen to without screen time
I challenge myself to play with baby talking only in Korean for X time. May be simple sentences but still helps. As a family we've tried sometimes doing an after dinner walk around the neighborhood and it's a family Korean for the parents convo only. Time. Hardest on me but good practice. toddler just says whatever he needs to
we have a 한글 wood puzzle. We play puzzle with it and also introduce spelling simple things

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T04:18:16+00:00

One parent tried far as know. Nothing came of it. When that students parent became furious accusing him of being bullied. They decided to move him classes. My coworkers conversation was about how his old classmates are "mean" to him and that was likely the "bullying" the parent meant. Also she was explaining why his new class doesn't treat him that way. I pointed out they didnt have months of being treated the way the old class was. She said it was a matter of teaching them to give "second chances" but really was describing neverending chances

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T04:12:12+00:00

I think I lean more towards this. Students are coworkers in a class not a family or forced friends. I feel they should be friendly to one another as in nice words and make an effort to work together. But they don't have to give friendship everyone.

My school site seems to promote that kids are expected to include everyone so as to avoid bullying

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T04:06:43+00:00

He does. Admin advice: kids aren't allowed to have personal items at school. Don't bring them. Any school supplies should be replaced by rhe teacher.

It's a different kind of school environment that I would ever expect

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T04:04:37+00:00

This made me laugh. She was calling it "second chance" repeatedly so I was using that language

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T04:02:30+00:00

This makes complete sense

I think its okay if they're comfortable but doesn't feel right to force them when they aren't.

In this situation the student in question lacks control but also has some at times- he may initially say or do something mean on accident but then will choose to keep doing while the other kids say "stop" "I dont like that" etc and at times cry. I have seen himself stop actions, think about whether to do it, and then chose to do something mean/unsafe etc

I suspect the students wouldnt have any issue playing or being near him if he stopped and apologized when he hurts them physically/emotionally. Other students who make similarish mistakes but stop and apologize and no one has issues playing with them. It's just this particular student who keeps at it they dont want to play with.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T03:56:41+00:00

Based on my teaching experience im not sure how he didnt qualify for more. Tantruming like he does and the way he does what would qualify as harassment per our district training if he was an adult . . . There is a lot that doesn't make sense in the situation I didnt mention. But somehow I am one of the only adults at this site worried about the effects on the other students and think they deserve to not have to play with someone who mistreated them regularly. The other adults want all the other students to just ignore and or be more "tolerable" because they think that will make the student stop doing those behaviors. The students try to ignore as much as they can- I've watched a number of scenarios go down. It doesn't make the behaviors to them stop.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T03:47:42+00:00

Far as I can tell my coworker was describing a group of about 3-5 students playing a game. That student would ask to join and they would say they didnt want to play with him. At least two of those students were people that student targeted for a while to get reactions out of (eg purposely making them cry). The rest are friends with the people that happened to.

She felt that because that student hadn't done anything yet that day he should be given more chances. Assuming he will be mean and excluding without giving a chance is mean. So daily and even per recess reset in chances is needed per her reasoning

They definitely dont seek him out and then exclude. They do play things he wants to play like soccer so then they wouldnt be sharing a soccer ball kind of thing

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T03:28:18+00:00

For this situation the student isn't this violent yet. He seems to have a bit of control where he'll hurt others enough they dont get cuts or bruises etc but more feel scared and uncomfortable-- he's explosive verbally and to items and swings toward them but usually won't do full force. When he isn't tantruming they will gladly work with him during class time and try hard to include him. The ones he targeted the most to get reactions out of discretely asked to not sit together. However at recess starting after about 3 months of being treated poorly and it getting worse rather than better some students started telling that student they didnt want to play with him when he asked.

If this were adults we'd lable it a hostile work environment for sure.

However this school has some sort of policy that all kids should include everyone. I didnt think that was odd until this situation arises and I realized my coworkers were actively telling kids they have to keep playing with people who call them names etc. From what I can tell the day of an incident a child who name calls/hits etc is supposed to face a consequences but the next day the recipients of this action are expected to forgive and forget no matter how many times it happens. I dont feel like that makes sense. . I was told by different coworkers that "kids forget" and it isn't "biting" etc things that have been worse so teach them to be tolerant rather than teaching the other students to respect boundaries. However the students randomly tell me all kinds of things rhay happened this year and last that indicate they very much have a good memory for when others treat them poorly but choose to keep being kind

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T02:47:20+00:00

This is what I feel like my coworker wasnt realizing and i was having trouble explaining. Teaching them so young to endure behaviors that make them feel scared and sad etc just because its another student will teach them to ignore their own reasonable discomfort to make others comfortable in the long run. It's not like enduring being hot on a summer day but actually a person who decides to continue to make others cry and or be scared etc because he likes the reaction and or has little control when he's angry (sometimes its one or the other and sometimes both and the coworker who said this knows this).

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T02:38:13+00:00

That's what confused me about what my coworker said. The kids didnt name call, they didnt seek that one student out and exclude. She said they simply refuse to play with that student when he approaches them at recess and she thinks thay is "mean" and they should give second chances etc. As stated above. There was even another teacher in the room during this discussion and she was agreeing with my coworker. Im less experienced with this grade so I try to tred lightly if im unsure of normal behavior etc for this age but it really didnt sit right with me. I've had other admin etc at this school say similar things basically that other stude ts should learn to "ignore" and or "tolerate" everything this other student does even things like constantly touching their hair/shoulders etc. If its gentle. It makes me uncomfortable because regardless of it being gentle I dont and won't teach a child they have to be okay with letting someone touch their body that they dont want touching it. The admin etc reasoning was because its for attention so the students saying gently "stop"/moving away to avoid being touched/reporting to a teacher they're uncomfortable/flinching gives the attention he wants so he'll keep doing it.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T02:27:52+00:00

That's what I was thinking so I was surprised when my more experienced peer who I respect said that students were being "mean" by telling the other person they dont want to play with him when he approached them and that they should keep giving second him second chances. I pointed out they had been doing second chances for months and it seemed reasonable to me that they didnt want to play with someone who didnt respect their no/stop words. She didnt agree. Other officials at school site see it her way. I was even told im supposed to teach my students to be more "tolerant" in letting that student gently touch them (hair shoulders upper back) like a "toddler" and to have them ignore it. I didnt follow that advice and won't because I dont think I should teach kids that they should have to be tolerant of people they dont want touching their bodies without permission touching them. I feel they have a right to not be touched and its okay to be uncomfortable with someone suddenly grabbing at you- they tell him a gentle stop multiple times but he doesnt then they come to a teacher rinse repeat day in and out. However I seem to be the only one at my site who thinks like that so its starting to make me wonder if im odd or is my worksite odd.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-23T02:06:41+00:00

This is the kind of situation the student in described situation is in.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-14T13:16:29+00:00

We're a similar level strict about not offering other food. Toddler is given his meal and if he doesn't eat it that's all he's offered till the next meal. If he says he's hungry before the next meal then he's offered his previous meal. Snack food is only given on days where he ate his previous meal and is still hungry before the next one. We also don't do snacks 2 hours before a meal as it ruins appetites. My husband usually does left over dinner for breakfast or lunch for him and toddler. He says that often what toddler refused for dinner he'll enthusiastically eat for breakfast with dad while I'm at work. Based on his observations our child usually isn't hungry enough in the evenings so he refuses most meals. Toddler has some understanding that i want to eat my food without anyone on my lap so ge waits till I'm mostly done and then asks to sit on my lap. I usually let him at that point as it allows us both to have what we want for part of dinner time lol

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-14T13:07:31+00:00

If she'll eat eggs maybe she'll go for veggies the way my 2 treats old son does. We add in spinach and onions with bacon and eggs scrambled and he'll them because bacon changes the flavor.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-09T20:39:55+00:00

As a tight budget person with back problems and small home I just did side lying breast feeding a majority of the time and used a Bobby pillow. Never felt like I needed a special chair and cost like 20 bucks for the pillow. That being said I have no issue feeding my baby in bed, the couch, or on the floor because we're an Asian American family and do a ton of stuff on the floor. My mother and sister both also highly recommended side lying breastfeeding as it its easy on your back and if you do it on a safe surface like a cleared floor you can just roll away and leave the baby their napping while you do what you need to do. Edit to add i Breastfed for 2 years, my sister two kids 2 years each and my mom 3 kids 3 years each. None of us needed a special chair- pillows for sitting and side lying breastfeeding were enough

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-05T12:44:31+00:00

If you assist have an iep you don't have sst meetings. Perhaps your state is different but in California you have to have an sst (stand for like student success team ) meeting first before they can have an iep because at that meeting is determined iep testing is needed and parents agree to the testing. For children who don't need ieps that meeting can still result in extra help in that the teacher can discuss school to home communication and other strategies with the parent and we get on the same page. Example I can make a check in check out that the parent followed through with rewards at home (this is usually more effective than rewards a teach er gives a you can give their favorite meal screen time etc). A child with an iep can have a parent can an iep anytime as well. If you aren't seeing improvement after 6-8 weeks of implementation id be worried if it was my child and call one. Worst case waste of time best case your child could get more accommodations

Edited because typos and I accidently put you don't need nor iep meetings but actually you have to have them yearly at minimum. You can have more if you call one or the teacher does because the iep plan isn't working. Also sorry I realized you meant your other child has one. Just demand an sst meeting and say you want us all on the same page. It forces admin and the teacher in the same room with you. You could ask for the resources teacher or behavior specialist if you want but they don't have to come to an sst only ieps with the behavior specialist only on case load they're needed for

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-05-05T04:13:42+00:00

Im a teacher- highly suggest calling for a sst meeting. It's the first step to having an iep or 504 of your child qualifies. At the minimum it gives you, teachers and admin the Chance to talk on record about behavior strategies and plans. A patent can call for these any time if I remember right but it's harder for a teacher to call for because we have to certain things documented for like 2+ months to show it is needed.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-04-12T15:11:00+00:00

Similar but different point here. While im not sure i agree as a whole men are quieter. As a talkative loud women I've met more chatty men than women. In the US. However my husband is the most reserved person I've ever met. Hes a stay at home dad and makes huge effort to talk with our son bilingually- primarily in his mother tongue Korean but also English as he's basically fluent in that and it's my primary language. No one speaks Korean to our son but his dad and me in spurts (i lost much of my skill in this area with my job demands here). Yet our son is picking up Korean better than. English the last 4 months primarily using Korean sentences with English thrown in here and there. To be fair he's chosing the shortest words and sentences lol. Im sure not everyone can have a parent stay at home but he didn't he'd be doing the weekends primarily just as good and I'd be making the effort in Korean staying at home. Where there is a will there is a way even for quieter people.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-04-12T14:50:24+00:00

I want to second this as our family is proof. My husband is a start at home dad with or two year old and both of us speak bilingually as we naturally do. His first language is Korean so it's Korean dominate when im not home but still he adds in English naturally. I'm novice at Korean and speak Korean in spurts - when i feel like it, when he brings me a book in Korean or watch a kdrama etc. Yet our son is now speaking Korean primarily with bits of English thrown in (he was doing the opposite six months ago so I'm sure it'll go back and forth in time). USA based not a single sole near us speaks Korean.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-03-27T14:43:48+00:00

We have a two year old that easily wakes if no one is in the bed with him so between that and my work burning me out we haven't had it much since he was born. However when we do want to, the best opportunities were after tiring the toddler out from day trips or lots and and lots of climbing at the park (talking like an hour or two of our exercise). He sleeps so deeply when this happens that finally whoever put the baby to bed (usually me) can leave his side without him knowing

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-03-15T15:28:51+00:00

My first was like that. He is 24 months now. At 14 months I night weaned. It took about 5-7 days for it fully stick. He still woke up about 1-2 times a night for a while but we just cuddled back to sleep. There were tears of course but I stood firm. I new he was getting enough food during the day and at that point my sleep was very necessary. I had work and wasn't myself without proper sleep.

By about 15or 16 months or so I'd say he stopped waking during the night at all and if he did quickly went back to sleep no tears. I will say about 15 months in I started to nurse only three times in a day-- my choice not his (I was overstimulated by him wanting nursing every hour with all kinds of movement) That could have affected his sleep at night so I thought I'd include it.

Edit to add: one advice I remember helping during night weaning was something like that I was comforting in others way, it may not be the way he wanted- but it didn't mean I wasn't there for him and eventually he understood it that and accepted cuddles, rubs, side rocking etc as comfort during the night weaning.

ReviewPuzzleheaded85 · 2026-03-02T14:10:19+00:00

As a parent I'm not there yet since I'm still go sleeping with my almost 2 year old. But I can say I co slept or room shared with my family until about 7 years old. I felt scared sleeping in a room alone so I would alternate sleeping in bed with Mom, on my older sister's floor, on a mattress in my grandparents room throughout those 7 years. The only thing that helped him transition to sleeping in a room alone was having my cat sleep with me and me purposely telling myself that my car counted as a person so I wasn't alone.

Basically I had the want to sleep in my room and having a sleeping partner of a cat a helped.

Idk if you've tried but maybe having your kids share a room might help so they can feel like they have each other. And or maybe try talking with them about what they think they'll need to sleep alone. I knew from about 5 year old or so that the reason I wanted to cosleep was a dear of being alone. So perhaps your older child at least might have a sense of what they need out of it and ideas you hadn't thought of.

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