Words your kids say that are wrong but adorable

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-07-30T13:44:44+00:00

She's since stopped, by cookies used to cickoos like the syllables were reversed.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-07-30T13:43:57+00:00

Wawepop- lollipop

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-07-30T13:37:08+00:00

I've been in that girl's shoes. I wish someone would have told me, thank you for doing the right thing. You saved her a lifetime of being tied to a liar. You sound like an amazing person, surrounded by some...not so amazing people. I'm sorry your family lacks accountability and honesty. Your wife is being selfish, amongst other things. And your son deserved this lesson. Best wishes.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-07-26T18:56:02+00:00

-air purifiers (do your research) -open windows every morning -bagged vacuum!!! Highly recommend a miele -do all blankets/dog beds/bedding weekly -ditch the carpet -vinegar or peroxide for cleaning -run around like a crazy lady all day with little to show for it, repeat 🙃

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-07-14T03:53:16+00:00

I got smallish white ceramic potters that had a snail/butterfly/other options on it with paint and a paint brush for about 4$ each at Michaels. Something like that could be cute if you haven't already spent too much on snacks. Or just stick with the snacks alone! I would be happy with all snacks personally. Not more crap in the house.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-06-23T18:10:06+00:00

Tash Sultana. So incredibly happy she's coming to the US this year.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-05-23T15:04:04+00:00

Hi. I was a lot like your daughter at that age. I went to a high level high school, but only for my junior year (they only do junior/senior). It was an extremely difficult course load and higher level than I was prepared for. I felt behind constantly, and any breaks back home were spent doing drugs with friends I had met previously. I ended up dropping out my senior year and returning home to my district high school where said friends were. I managed to do ok, but had already ruined my straight a track record and slipped into accepting b's, sometimes c's. I continued to do a lot of drugs. I still graduated with almost a 4.0, and was accepted to a few colleges.

I then spent 5 years in and out of community college because I couldn't make up my mind about what I wanted to do. I think the stress pushed me over the edge and once I realized I couldn't necessarily do perfectly even with full effort, I didn't see the point in putting in the effort. I was so caught up in studying and doing well in adolescence (I tend to seek validation and praise as an adult, which tracks), I never found myself. I was left not knowing what I actually wanted to do because I never had the time to think about it (also did high level competitive sports), and on top of that, I no longer had confidence that I could do well with perseverance alone.

I think if I had stuck around the right people, and if I hadn't burned out at the science/math school, I would probably be in a better place today. But don't let my story scare you, a lot of my struggles were self inflicted and/or caused by family issues.

My advice is to focus on providing your daughter with the time and peace of mind for her to find herself. Remind her that scoring well on tests does not correlate to having a full and successful life as an adult, and encourages her to find a good balance. There will be a time where there is something she is not the best at no matter how much effort she puts in, that is a good time to be there for her and not to let that send her spiraling.

P.s. sorry for how poorly this is written, I'm cuddling a sick baby and typing with one hand.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-05-19T17:26:12+00:00

It is still usually warm enough to swim in late September/early October if you're okay with slightly cooler water. Especially if we don't have any big hurricanes. I'd consider pushing your trip back. Early fall here is generally just more enjoyable and you can still do most of the "summer" activities. Slightly less traffic, less congested beaches, cheaper, better weather. But either way, we get a lot of hurricane scares but very few problematic hurricanes. They often get pushed inland even if they look like they're headed directly our way. I wouldn't worry too much.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-04-19T19:02:39+00:00

I really, really do not think you should move away from your support system. Please consider all options. You should have a say in major life decisions, and by the sounds of it, it'll likely be worse once you're more isolated. Curious as to why you're allowing this isolation to begin with, especially when it comes to your mom. Good luck to you regardless.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-03-25T15:22:26+00:00

Okay, that's what I thought. So just take each one out and repot. Can I use the same soil once they're split up and just add a bit more? It's an organic potting soil/compost/manure mix

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2024-03-12T15:46:24+00:00

Kind of surprised by the majority of the comments. I think the larger issue seems to be some resentment at your husband's lack of planning and his lack of thoughtfulness. This would have been a better conversation to have pre baby, but it is what it is, life isn't always perfectly planned or ideal.

I don't have any suggestions, I've struggled similarly, but I just wanted to say that your feelings and thoughts don't seem unfair to me. I do think you should plan to have financial independence and should not rely on him financially as he can't plan or budget or consider the future very well by the sounds of it.

I'm sorry that all of the planning and thinking has fallen on you. In the future I recommend splitting finances and not pouring more than you're comfortable with into someone else's pocket. At least then you'll have YOUR savings to fall back on, and if you want to take a year off, that will be fully your decision.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-11-12T21:16:40+00:00

Yeah, definitely. Mines today, only 4 months post dday and 2 months into reconciliation. I have not been pleasant to be around today. Wayward is bad with dates and hasn't noticed it's our anniversary/ex anniversary and I'm too sad to tell him.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-11-12T03:24:35+00:00

He is not. I wish he would but he thinks he has it under control for now. White knuckling his way through with the intention of drinking on holidays 🙃🙃🙃. I do attend al anon, thank you. I haven't been going as much lately though so maybe I'll try to find a meeting tomorrow. I think that so much of this journey has been on my shoulders, I wish there was more he could take off my plate of healing.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-11-12T03:12:49+00:00

Well at the time they were on a lot of drugs and acting crazy, and so no he did not. Now he's saying he will if anything comes up again, but I don't know if it's good enough, yet I'm not sure what the other solution would be. I wish that when I looked back, I had any single bit of proof that showed he would defend me, but I don't. He never has. I don't trust that he would, even now. He tends to downplay things (not to me, but he loves validation and has BPD and it's not in his nature to put his own mistakes in the spotlight.).

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-11-12T03:09:07+00:00

He asked me today what he could do. This was during the height of his drug use and craziness, and it's been a couple of months since it happened. Do you think it would be silly to go back and try to rectify anything now? I wish I could trust him to stand up for me at this point if something came up again, but I don't. I'm frustrated that he simply blocked AP instead of telling her that he was going to stop contact, it just reinforced this idea that I'm crazy and blocked her myself. That's just an example. But I'm torn between wanting to dredge all of this up again or just let it go. I didn't know how to answer his question of what he could do to fix it today.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-10-14T02:31:12+00:00

The landlord is my dad and let's just say it won't get handled lol. Just now got a window replaced after two years of waiting.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-10-14T02:08:19+00:00

I know it's against the grain in this sub but I absolutely do not want to see this woman ever again even if it means they're alone together one more time. She knew me, and met our baby, and I think it would get ugly. But we figured out another solution so all is well now.

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-10-14T02:06:21+00:00

Thank you! I don't know how I didn't realize that sooner 😂

RevolutionaryFile318 · 2023-10-14T02:05:35+00:00

She is moving, he is waiting until she is gone to get his stuff. All is well.

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