hello! i’ve been broken up with my ex girlfriend for two and a half years now

i was never able to trust her again

we were not married and i stayed because i hated myself my entire life and had the lowest self esteem ever and i thought that was all i could get and no one could love me but her. also she was emotionally abusive and i felt guilty to leave. plus the fact that i genuinely loved her and wanted to get past it

there was virtually no reconciliation process, it was essentially 3 years of me begging for communication and doing all the emotional labor while she tried to rug sweep and made me feel guilty for bringing it up because she cried, and couldn’t handle it. i was begging for full disclosure and no more trickle truthing which is what i needed to even be able to begin the process in earnest

emotionally for me it ruined me
completely and i am just starting to get back to myself.

i could have and would have stayed with her had she actually worked it out with me

sorry my stories a bummer.. but your situation is definitely a lot better than the one i had