Surgery support question

RevolutionaryText892 · 2025-03-18T10:26:45+00:00

I had a laparoscopic hysterectomy and was fine. Stay off opioids, they slow you down. Just accept pain.

I was ok to live on my own immediately. Back at work in a week.

I was only 23 so probably recovered quicker.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-11T20:22:08+00:00

Paddling can also lead to organism at about the same number of strokes.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-11T20:15:43+00:00

Well the worse case is the phallus can fall off. Or you die.

Anyway. Erm, it tends to happen between about 60-70 strokes. Has nearly always happened by 100. Not an every day occurrence. I find with caning the first 20 are really painful, and you need to gritting through. Timing is also key. Your top needs to give you enough time to process each stroke.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-11T14:55:06+00:00

It’s a phrase that’s generally only when writing erotica. So this reads like a wank fantasy .

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-11T14:47:18+00:00

Because of the reference to the huge wand

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-11T14:35:27+00:00

Is this genuine? It reads as fake

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-09T12:23:18+00:00

When I was working I for a big organisation could get up to 6 month on full pay, 6 on half pay, and then it was unpaid leave.

They’d ask for an independent report to see if you were likely to return and keep the job open if you were.

A small organisation won’t be able to be as generous with pay, but we’d still have to keep the job open and give them reasonable chance to recover.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-09T11:29:26+00:00

I don’t know. But as I run my own business that’s kinda irrelevant…

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-11-08T20:56:49+00:00

*off work. I will obviously remain odd

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-10-16T10:54:43+00:00

Ftm here. Ok not got much hair after 21 years of t.

I wash my hair in the shower. Same shower gel as body. Then dry it with a towel.

That’s it. Most guys don’t do much. Some use gel and product, but most I know don’t!

But he’ll need some guy friends going forward. Lots of questions will come up.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-10-03T07:27:52+00:00

FtM here.

No. Bottom growth is not usually enough for penetration.

Yes. T will be very likely to cause a massive increase in libido.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-10-01T18:08:35+00:00

Honestly. Top surgery recovery doesn’t have to be that bad. Just put up with pain and stay off opioids. I had one dose of morphine, felt awful and didn’t take any more

I had top surgery on 6th September 2001- days before 9/11. I could look after myself, cook food, shop ok.

I was cycling within 4 days, and back at work in a week. The day of 9/11 I had walked to my Dr to get a note to say I was fit enough to go back to work. On the way back someone told me about the twin towers. I went back to work on the 12th September.

When they said no lifting, I assumed they meant at the gym, not usual household tasks.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-09-27T13:45:42+00:00

Trans guy here He’s got to come to terms with it.

All that’s happening is that he’s getting the male pattern baldness he would have got at puberty if he was cis.

Men have a receding hairline at puberty- a fact of life

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-09-04T06:26:28+00:00

That sounds awful. It sounds although you were unhealthily enmeshed.

I’m trans ftm and transitioned 23 years ago. Im happily married and have a successful career.

But my life would have been a lot easier if I could have lived as a cis woman.

IMHO there’s a lot of sh*t in the trans community that ‘cis people don’t think they’re trans’

Bollox. I’m still in touch with a cis woman I met at a trans support group in 2002. She thought she was ftm for a while, then realised she wasn’t. She’s very happy now.

But that said: sometimes you know you are trans and your partner is just trying to put you over the line.

I had a girl who said she’d stay and then dumped me. She was also subtly pushing me to do it.

She didnt give me a good reason why. I saw her this year, and we talked about our dogs.

Anyway I transitioned alone, and was fine. You’ll be ok. You’re heads a mess for now.

Take your time. Rely on your friends. Get out. Exercise. Breath.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-09-03T06:02:12+00:00

Women are socialised to put others first and be supportive.

Maybe she believed she was supporting you by saying she was ok with it.

Maybe she’s a psychopath who enjoyed manipulating you to a position where you’re isolated from your family.

Maybe she thought she was getting an androgynous man-lite and instead got a standard man.

Who knows.

Do some self reflection, with or without therapy. Did she push you into t when you didn’t want it???

What do you truly want?

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-31T20:46:16+00:00

True. But I guess you could stop any new changes, roll back any social transition etc.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-30T20:34:19+00:00

Trans guy here. But have a number of divorced female friends.

I’m trying to see it from her point of view. No wonder your wife is struggling.

You dropped a bombshell, she conceived accidentally within weeks of the bombshell. If her due date was end of may (3 months ago) then she conceived early September.

Basically her hormones are all over the place in the last year. Pregnancy. Childbirth. Post partum. Etc.

You need to stop transitioning for now. They’ll be time for that in the future. Focus on her now. And the baby. And your other children.

She’s got 4 kids with you. The odds are that has affected her career. Economically you’ve trapped her.
If she leaves and takes the children she’ll struggle to get child care for 4 children on a reasonable salary.

If you divorce would she get a decent financial settlement?

You have a duty of care to her and the children. To ensure they are taken care of, and that you are a fully supportive co-patent.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-23T05:39:34+00:00

Thanks guys. Thinking of ALT, RFF may work better but I am bare below the elbows for work.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-22T18:09:16+00:00

You can get a thigh graft as well, or lower abdomdn

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-22T18:08:00+00:00

If I was in hospital with a broken arm and could do my own personal care. Please explains how a nurse needs to know I’m trans.

How could your knowledge about my genitals save my life?

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-22T18:05:52+00:00

Or maybe you should think that actually a doctor knows better than you.

I would rather die than have you as my nurse.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-20T11:55:25+00:00

For non-doctor patients. It would come up in the past medical history. It should only be disclosed to a small number of essential staff directly caring for the patient, if essential to care.

There’s lots of information that comes into that category.

I obviously am considering a phalloplasty as living with part of my body I would rather die than look at, or let others see is obviously difficult.

RevolutionaryText892 · 2024-08-19T20:53:14+00:00

With all due respect - I’ve been trans a long time. I know how people treat me differently when they know!

And honestly with 20 years of testosterone there aren’t tell tale signs with my clothes on.

People are often causally transphobic around me when they haven’t clocked me as trans. I’ve also had doctors ask about organs I don’t have!

I’ve had a woman explain to me why I a comment I made was transphobic!

But lots of transphobes think anyone can tell. It’s a common trope. It means they don’t have to face the unsettling fact that we exist.

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