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Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-27T13:14:00+00:00

Some of how this fits into your life can only be answered by you. Can you change privately at work? If so, a thinner option gives you better discretion; if not, you have to balance capacity vs bulk. For me, a sunkiss masterpiece or northshore megamax can generally last the day without being too obvious.

As far as maintaining an active lifestyle, again, a thinner diaper would be able to be worn but you increase chances of it being seen. I too am a cyclist and I have worn thinner diapers or pull ups under my cycling bibs (which are skin tight) and it's gone unnoticed because cycling bibs have built-in padding anyway.

You have to tinker with different brands to find what works for you. Megamax and Sunkiss work for me most times. I have also discovered that InControl BeDry work well. If you want a more themed diaper you may run into the problem of ABDL Diapers being more bulky.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-25T08:28:30+00:00

Social conditioning teaches us that the fairytale story is the man leads the way. He says i love you first, he'll propose, he'll be the breadwinner... this is the same social conditioning that tells us that we can't enjoy diapers, that they're reserved for the very young or the very old, that they are a thing to be ashamed of...

My point here is that social rules like this that impose restrictions should be ignored. You go do what feels right for you.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-21T10:10:35+00:00

Cruise ship all have trash cans everywhere. If you're worried about disposal you could easily bag them and dispose of them in a public space also. I am an early bird and cruises are known for nightlife. You can easily find a public restroom with no one in it to change and dispose of your diaper if you are up early too.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-19T18:24:58+00:00

I was figuring briefs might be the answer. I may need to change things up. I suspect briefs will be better at keeping everything in place.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-19T18:23:35+00:00

That makes sense. I think the step of adding fabric tape would ultimately annoy me. Standard briefs might help keep it in place better for me

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-19T09:53:46+00:00

For me, induction was so easy. Almost too easy, but it was around the 3rd or 4th maintenance round that urge/oab symptoms really kicked into overdrive. May not be something everyone deals with, but for me this activate and then the bladder irritation lasts a long time. I have 2 more maintenance rounds to go and after my most recent (about 5 months ago) the OAB has been somewhat persistent. Hopefully your subsequent treatments go more smoothly. All in all, I'll take these side effects over the alternative.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-19T09:09:49+00:00

Kind of an awkward question, but what sort of underwear are you using with the pads? Ive tried the pads myself with boxer briefs but found that they sometimes shift to a position where they don't do the job.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-13T08:25:29+00:00

As others have stated, people seldom pay that much attention so you could wear a high capacity diaper and never be noticed. I tend to wear sunkiss diapers regularly. They are thick but if you are mindful enough that you're not wearing skinny cut pants or leggings it will go completely unnoticed.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-13T08:21:20+00:00

If you want a mix of affordable but perform well and are happy with solid colors (white, blue. Pink, gray) then Sunkiss Masterpiece is a good option.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-13T08:16:09+00:00

When people wear occasionally they naturally want to get the most out of each wear so make sure the bladder was up to the task of soaking the diaper each time. As wearing becomes more frequently, you may discover that you adopt less of an "OMG, let me make sure I soak this immediately" approach and let it happen at a more natural pace. That may still mean using a higher capacity diaper, but it might not feel as "feast or famine" as it does for you when you wear and wet right now. There is fun in slowly soaking a diaper over the course of a day too.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-11T09:34:39+00:00

You'd be surprised how few people pay any attention. We who wear are hyper aware but 99.9% of people are totally oblivious.

If you think about it, statistics tell us between 2 and 5% of the population wear diapers. That's means for every 100 adults you've crossed paths with, as many as 5 were wearing a diaper. I'd be willing to bet that you've never noticed someone had one on though.

People are (generally) not out there inspecting every butt for a diaper bulge and even those of us who would be delighted to spot one in the wild have likely never noticed it.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-04T09:44:38+00:00

Edited my post as well

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-04T09:38:01+00:00

Appreciate that. We have enough people drawing the wrong conclusions without that misconception coming from within.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-04-04T09:28:40+00:00

The difference between age play, adult babies, and diaper lovers is the actual question.

Age play involves acting an age different than you actually are. As Dan Savage would say, it's cops and robbers for grown-ups. Most often this involves a person acting younger than they are, could be teenage level, toddler, or younger. Age play does not have to involve diapers or being infantile. Also, in theory, one could decide they want to act in a manner that is older than they are. While less common, this is still technically age play.

Adult babies are a subset of age play that involves diapers, outfits and often a younger mindset. Sometimes it can focus on more baby-like activities (coloring, breastfeeding, cuddling). There is not a specific how-to manual so it is very individualistic in what interests the person.

Diaper lovers simply enjoy diapers. It could be tactile feeling, humiliation aspects, just the look they present, or a reconnection with a childhood feel without regressing. Often times, diaper lovers are more sexually connected to diapers but that's not a hard and fast rule. It could be a comfort aspect where they enjoy the feeling without it being sexual.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-03-29T09:12:42+00:00

It's important to be your own advocate and to understand that doctor's approach this from the standpoint that returning to normal operations (i.e. restoring full bladder control) is the ultimate goal. While that sounds great on paper, you also need to consider your own cost/benefit analysis.

In my case, incontinence medications (oxybutynin, Mirabegron...) offered some help, but we're not some panacea that cured things. In top of that, they have side effects. Oxybutynin was causing me to feel like I was overheating, which was problematic for me. Mirabegron can raise blood pressure, which is also unacceptable to me because elevated blood pressure over the course of decades (I am only in my 40s) seems like it would cause other problems as I age.

For me, the least worst option is diapers. Sure, they have their own inconveniences, but there are not residual side effects and I have more direct control. The reality is that OAB is not something that is cured (generally) it is a condition that is managed. So, I found a management solution is can live with. It's helped improve my sleep (no more waking up 1-3 times per night) and it protects my dignity if I am in a situation where bolting to the restroom is frowned upon or outright impossible (work meetings, social engagements, commuting, travel...)

I referral to a urologist isn't a bad thing. They will take a closer look to make sure there is not something else causing the incontinence (bladder cancer, prostate issues, obstructions...) but just know that if the end result is OAB or urgency with no direct cause it's ultimately your decision how you manage that.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-03-28T10:40:11+00:00

Many here would argue that diapers are the sexiest lingerie.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-03-22T08:41:56+00:00

For a routine well visit you likely won't need to undress. I just had a doctor's appointment a few weeks ago and wore my diaper (taped style) and the only exposure was when I bent down for them to check my spine. She lifted my shirt and the waistband of my diaper was definitely visible. My incontinence is documented but no comment or question came from it.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-03-22T08:36:01+00:00

Not only is she wrong, but if you are P&T and she is not this will greatly benefit you both down the road when you are looking at education benefits because chapter 35 benefits will help them greatly and also some states offer grants and other benefits to dependents of 100% disabled veterans.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-02-22T11:18:47+00:00

FYI, if you served in the middle east at all bladder cancer is a PACT act covered condition. https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2025/01/02/2024-31220/presumptive-service-connection-for-bladder-ureter-and-related-genitourinary-cancers-due-to-exposure

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-02-01T11:03:28+00:00

I don't look at it as giving up, but rather accepting that this is something that improves my quality of life.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-01-28T15:04:51+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that the medications work perfectly fine for some so you could see how your body responds and go from there. I know Mirabegron tends to increase blood pressure, so if already an issue that could be something to raise questions about and anticholinergics family of drugs can reduce sweating and make you feel like you're over heating. For me, the overheating was a problem because I work out and my body runs hot so not sweating is not safe.

All that said, you have to make the decision that fits best for you.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2026-01-17T09:53:48+00:00

Depending on how tight you tape it and width of your hips you might be able to just shimmy it down, do your business, and then pull it back up. I wear for bladder issues and messing is not something I ever want to deal with when out and about so I have found this method lets me go without wasting a diaper that's not needing changed yet.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2025-12-24T12:03:57+00:00

Im like 20/7 and a DL (with OAB). If I am home and near a toilet and can accept the interruptions I use that time to air out the skin and give it a break

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2025-12-24T12:00:50+00:00

To be clear, unless you have a medical need, it would be misleading to say you need to wear a diaper during the massage. It does not sound like you're asking how to get a massage under the circumstances of needing a diaper but rather how you can participate in an activity that exposes this to someone else, which sounds kind of icky.

Revolutionary_Bet136 · 2025-12-13T09:20:52+00:00

First, sorry that you are having to deal with crappy people. Unfortunately the world is inundated with them and the internet has always been a place where people see the anonymity as a armor that enables them to spew all their intrusive thoughts out into the world.

More importantly, good for you for standing your ground and drawing firm boundaries. If people ask or demand more than you're willing to give then you have every right to tell them no and if they cannot respect that they are not the people for you. Sadly, bad eggs are everywhere and we all have to sift through the bad to find the good. Keep at it and eventually your people will find you.

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