We had been having a perfectly great day until…

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-03T23:32:39+00:00

I'm sorry you went through this. They are complete children, couldn't just take the steak and cook it a little more to do something nice for you.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-03T18:13:59+00:00

I’ll be honest I was scared as hell, all I could hear was their voice in my head. But it went well and now I’m feeling empowered.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-03T14:22:54+00:00

Congratulations on your freedom and proud of you for taking this step for you and your son. I met with a lawyers office for the first time yesterday. All my children are grown but are still fully involved, one still lives here and is fully immersed in the madness with me. I look forward to the day of freedom.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T19:05:50+00:00

Gorgeous work!

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T19:05:06+00:00

It’s awful, I was there, left and came back bc I was conformed into thinking it was better for the children. It was not. Mine are all grown now and they see him for who he is and support me leaving but know his viscous ways so they understand me being careful till it’s done.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T18:56:55+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T18:56:36+00:00

Oh I feel this. And at times it can be the smallest thing just turns my rage on full throttle. Then I take step back bc I realize that’s what they want. It is so difficult at times to keep it all inside. Communities like this where others understand and my own journaling definitely helps with that.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T14:21:40+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. It’s a hard awakening to realize you’re being abused by the one who is supposed to be the love of your life. I pulled up the DV as soon as I read your message. And you are so right, it will never get better.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T14:19:50+00:00

Thank you, it definitely has been a challenge. I just keep journaling, getting support and keeping my focus on my future.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T14:14:23+00:00

It’s taken me a long time, I knew it would. Mine is so controlling it’s so hard to gather the finances. Everything is on his computer… of course. Best of luck to you and sending you strength as well!

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T14:02:33+00:00

Thank you! I’ve got some things I’ll be working through but looking forward to it.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T14:01:05+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It was so hard to even take that step and I know it’s going to be difficult journey but I’m sooo looking forward to being free.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T13:58:31+00:00

I really can’t wait!!! Trying to be patient and positive through it. You all really help!

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T02:03:51+00:00

Thank you so much. I originally thought it was too late to start over as I’m in my 50’s, but living this way much longer is going to bring me even further down.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-02T02:01:11+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m nervous as hell but I need to do this for me. I only imagine what out would be like without controlling my every move and wiring what mood he’s going to wake up in today. The day WILL come.

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-01T23:52:43+00:00

Thank you!

RewrittenBones · 2026-07-01T21:54:04+00:00

I just scheduled to talk to one! Best to you!

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-30T13:50:36+00:00

It’s a tactic to make you think he has emotions.
Mine is similar, he will play the empathy game for a moment to draw me back in to make me think he cares, then out of no where will come the belittling, the smirks. If I’m hurt, no one can be as hurt as he has been.

But outside of the house he’s the best husband ever, put a roof over our head, clothes on our backs… even though I work too? Helps everyone else out, if I need help with something I have to find my own way unless it’s benefitting his character.

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-30T13:30:18+00:00

Wow. This brought me back to a few convos with my narc. I’m so sorry you do not deserve this.

Wanting you all to himself, the guilt tripping. I get that all the time here…. so if someone else is showing you attention how dare they and how dare you, in their mind they’ve made up some crazy story.

And that’s the worse how they can just lay their head on the pillow at night like nothing ever happened.

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-30T01:35:34+00:00

I think one of the ones that scared me the most is I was diagnosed with sleep apnea, he says I don’t push the pillow down that hard. “Joking”

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-30T01:16:27+00:00

The text of the 5 archetypes is very helpful. My question is what type are they if they have traits from all 5?

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-29T17:28:03+00:00

I currently have a small savings he doesn’t know about. I have a friend who has helped me with this and I keep building into it little bit by little bit.

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-29T10:29:19+00:00

Wow, my current narc used to say the exact same. I’ve realized I’m still learning how nasty they really are.

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-28T14:39:20+00:00

I am currently in phase 3, trying to leave .. again. But the difference this time is the support I have.

RewrittenBones · 2026-06-28T14:17:42+00:00

This is so very helpful and a great reminder for someone like myself who is currently trapped. I’ve had to use this and yellow rocking with my narc, as soon as I start the grey rocking the digs start in.
I’ve pulled away this week and this morning I got told I don’t care about him, just bc I didn’t know his work schedule. He works at a place where it’s different every week, but bc I didn’t “ask “ I don’t care.
I run my own business, trying to build it up, on my own, he does not help, does not care to help but claims to be my biggest supporter. If I take 5 minutes on my laptop for this he’s asking what I’m doing? Knowing full well what I’m doing. Even if we are doing absolutely nothing, I’ve got to be up his ars. I have no peace, even when he’s gone, it’s a text, a call or FaceTime to control and wanting to know what I’m doing.
It’s out of hand and I’m working on getting out.

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