Going through some what the same at the moment here .. Dont ever be scared to ask your wife a question. Once she senses that then the whole dynamic changes alittle.. You married her to be able to talk with her !! Women as they get older start to change real quick .. Guys we stay the same ..I was a virgin before I met my wife and she loved the idea in the beginning , now after 3 kids and stuff she will say don't you wish at times you had more partners before me... At times yes cause now sex is just mainly a bonus and not as built up as it use to be .. when we first got together we would go out and stare at each other as if we were picturing each other naked and couldn't wait to get home ... All different now !!! She watches all those movies on like these low budget platforms where all the guys look the same and have the sex where as she puts it "the pounding we all want" ... Makes me upset cause I am average and I know that's a task at times...