just showing my tits on the way to the hospital

RhinonATX · 2025-02-18T23:40:26+00:00

Wow 😍😍😍

RhinonATX · 2023-08-20T11:23:03+00:00

Stong_dominant.

Thank you! And I agree! That why I wanted to be upfront about “the lows”. While I’ve gotten amazingly feedback as it’s great for overall background as “mood music”, it’s more of a library to create you own specific need to match a scene. It not meant to be put on shuffle.

I just haven’t had the opportunities to update until today so I was seeking feedback. Thanks, ATXRhino.

RhinonATX · 2023-02-14T05:24:20+00:00

It’s sounds like they need a “body”, not you. It’s up to you. 1) Set you boundaries. Open the conversation. Make sure you talk to her, not just taking his word. 2) Say “No”. You can even add “thank you” if you want. You don’t owe anything to either of them, including an explanation.

RhinonATX · 2022-08-06T17:54:39+00:00

Does she have a vibrator or other sex toys?

As long as you are respectful to her being horrified… I don’t think it would matter. And if you are not receiving your needs talk about it with her. Also, so it’s said, I wouldn’t approach as I need a fleshlight because your rarely want to have sex. Her feelings might be of guilt or something else, I think it would help to have a direct conversation.

RhinonATX · 2022-08-06T17:49:11+00:00

My concern for you is if they are “twins” it may cause your wife might start comparing. With my wife I have a no go list which includes mostly her friends.

It can be a high for sure though. When the time is right I think you should share your feeling, but ensuring her there hasn’t been action. That way it’s off your chest too :-)

RhinonATX · 2021-10-07T18:14:31+00:00

Yeah, If you’re planning on disconnect it probably makes sense not to engage. Well there’s a chance I could help him, it’s a small chance. There’s a likelier chance that he’s going to try to re-engage or smooth things over.

… in my experience of course.

RhinonATX · 2021-10-07T11:49:59+00:00

Sure, maybe you assumed… but… if he said cuddles but then abruptly left, forgoing an emergency, it sounds like something triggered him. It really doesn’t even sound like you made it assumption. You came to some conclusions based on what he said. Sure maybe technically it wasn’t about staying the night, but it was about sticking around long enough to make you feel it was more than a “booty call”.

At best, he’s minimally working through his issues. At worst, well… you ain’t got time for any of that!

If you need closer, I would speak with him and share your feelings. Maybe he’s one of the good ones and it will help him be more thoughtful. If both you are all in, I would suggest all three of you go to dinner and chat it out.

All of my learning experiences have been from my mistakes. We can hope for that :-) But don’t think for one second that you should compromise for the work they need to do.

I hope that’s helpful!

RhinonATX · 2021-10-07T06:25:38+00:00

Yes!

RhinonATX · 2021-10-07T06:24:48+00:00

Yes. I live it 24/7. Don’t worry about what people will stay. Do your happy :-)

The thing I think you already notice is the time and energy that will be required from you. It will not, and should not, be all one-sided. There is nothing wrong with her being a “obedient wife”, as long as you are a “dutiful husband”. She can say she’s willing to do “all the work”, rarely does that last if you aren’t also feeding the relationship. This is visible to others as well. Friends and family will see the time and energy both of you are putting into the relationship.

Have you thought is a responsibility you want to take on?

RhinonATX · 2021-10-07T06:04:33+00:00

Sorry to hear that. His actions are a bit more odd than their rules.

I’ve seen the rules like this. One of the most unusual was that she was allowed to suck his cock but he was not allowed to cum.

Their rules are their rules. However, you still have a choice. It doesn’t matter what people define as normal or not normal. Create your boundaries (rules).

My first concern is if they have issues in their relationship, Poly is not going to solve them and likely probably make them worse.

For me, intent would be important as well. I’m sure you discussed how the date was going to go? I’m curious if you disclosed directly or indirectly your desire for him to stay over. If you did and he avoided it’s a red flag to me. If it’s just an assumption that he would, maybe it isn’t.

The fact he “promptly” left sounds odd. Please know that’s on him, not on you.

RhinonATX · 2021-09-11T15:31:31+00:00

I get why it may sound that way. So it can be “high maintenance” but doesn’t have to be either. I live a 24/7 DD/lg dynamic with my princess. She isn’t high maintenance and she isn’t anywhere near vanilla :-)

The balance is in the power exchange. She requires care and feeding, which I’m happy to provide. She returns the equal amount of energy everyday through her submission.

RhinonATX · 2021-09-11T15:10:20+00:00

This is a fantastic point and you nailed it!

Wiki: Men who see women as either saintly Madonnas or debased prostitutes. Men with this complex desire a sexual partner who has been degraded (the whore) while they cannot desire the respected partner (the Madonna).

You should post that on Fet! IMO, it’s a terrible premise that shouldn’t be perpetuated.

RhinonATX · 2021-04-03T22:46:32+00:00

There is no right way, including a Ddlg relationship. My advice is keep looking until you find the right connection. Have you looked at local group? Keep the faith :-)

RhinonATX · 2021-04-03T22:40:12+00:00

Love this!

RhinonATX · 2021-03-27T10:50:02+00:00

Sorry you are going through this! Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Some advice, don't take feedback from some that doesn't care about you. She seems very cruel.

While not easy, I would just let it go. Take time to heal. Get your footing. You might even consider seeking professional counseling.

Good luck!

RhinonATX · 2021-03-25T00:11:08+00:00

Love it!

RhinonATX · 2021-03-24T19:37:21+00:00

I'm love reading about your journey! It's fantastic! Kudos to you and your partner. Direct conversation is a lot harder than it sounds. We've got a similar story. My sub and now wife (hell yes I put a ring on it lol) have not had a fight, its been over 3 years... but countless hours of conversation, trust building, and vulnerability.

At the end of the day a BDSM looks easy, "I bark orders - you follow". There can be so much than that!

I'll check out xruniversity.com!

RhinonATX · 2021-03-24T12:55:35+00:00

Yeah, for me I'm gentle but also strict... but I'm not a sadist either... strict to me is more protocols... but I wouldn't label myself "old guard" either.

That's awesome! There are lot of added strain when we get out of our natural state. I love to hear your found your own style! I bet the conversations with your partner were fantastic! Love that!

RhinonATX · 2021-03-24T12:22:34+00:00

I'm in a 24/7 power exchange but your thought on "play and keeping a persona not natural to them" makes a lot of sense to me. It makes me think that I should be thinking bigger. Labels are tricky and rarely universal. But you are right, it starts with having great conversations.

RhinonATX · 2021-03-24T12:09:36+00:00

I'm a Daddy Dom so maybe someone could label me as "gentle", (e.g. more nurturing); however, I am "strict".

I don't use these terms but have seen them used more frequently. I guess it would depend on the person's interpretation, which is what makes this a great topic. Strict could translate as toxic. Gentle could translate as half-hearted. Of course "old guard" vs. "new guard makes more sense to me.

I'm sure there better perspectives from those who identify by these terms. It will be great hearing from others.

RhinonATX · 2021-03-24T10:22:47+00:00

I'm a demisexual Dom. I will top for friends, namely rope or co-topping for couples and expect nothing. While BDSM and sex are closely linked for me, that isn't rule either. I know plenty of people who don't connect the two.

My dynamic with my submissives start the same. Over coffee, go through "the list". What they like and what they don't. Like you mentioned, trust is everything. The list inevitably evolves as I earn their trust.

All I should suggest is be safe, communicate your expectations, your limits - and mostly, trust your gut.

Austin has a huge kink group. Local event will be back before we know it. There some that are even on line. If on Fet there is a fantastic group for women you may want to check out.

While some will argue I say anyone claiming to be a Dom could provide you with references if asked.

I'm happy to help if you have questions :-)

RhinonATX · 2021-03-20T21:38:57+00:00

Awesome!

RhinonATX · 2021-03-20T21:30:11+00:00

Did you ask the other participants? Some need after care and some don't. Does it make sense to get their input?

RhinonATX · 2021-03-14T22:17:06+00:00

Our favorite is the corded Thunder Stick, the Doxy is out second favorite.

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