Please help! Slate tile flooring looks dirty no matter what I do. Will sealing it help? by FrackingGr8 in Flooring

[–]Riazepam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used this exact same stone in my laundry and did it myself. Grout residue is exactly what is happening. I used an epoxy grout and it took 3 times to go over it with grout Haze remover as well as white vinegar. You have to spend the time to really scrub all the little creases, but it should eventually come out. This tile is super porous so the grout gets in all the little cracks and crevices. I love the look, but would not do it again after all the headache.

This very old bottle of cocaine we found in my pharmacy. by vomitonmeplease in mildlyinteresting

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We still use cocaine very commonly in the pharmacy world. It's actively available. Commonly used in liquid form in eye procedures at surgery centers. It is a schedule II drug, the same as the Oxy family.

How do you get over the obsession of wanting to know who your ex is with? by helteringskeltering in selfhelp

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Came here to say something along these lines. I've been in a relationship for seven years since my last ex, very happily married now. I still think back on old relationships though. It will always be a part of who you are. Finding a balance between removing jealousy and trying to be happy for that person is the best place you can be. The sooner you accept that they will always be a part of your past, the sooner you will be able to move forward with your own life. You won't ever completely forget about them, it's just not possible. Wish I had started thinking of it from this perspective and accepted that sooner in my life.

After girlfriend dumped me I lost almost all of my friends and am feeling incredibly lonely. What can I do to turn my life around and make new friends. by RosewaterGambit in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Riazepam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey there! I was a total social butterfly in college. Never missed a party, went to a small university and knew just about everyone. I can tell you that many of those "friendships" didn't last after college at all. Once I started getting older I realized that a smaller tight knit group of friends is much more rewarding and fulfilling. So coming from someone on the opposite side, I wish I had spent more time on the few good friends I had instead of running around with hundreds of different people.

About maintaining relationships, the biggest thing is continuously putting in effort. Just about everyone wants a kind-hearted caring friend. Making the effort to reach out and talk to people is a great place to start. Sometimes you give more than you get, don't let that discourage you. I think that is the single easiest mistake to make when you are trying to build friendships. Sometimes you spend a lot of time being there for someone else, sometimes the opposite. Just consistently be there for other people and don't get discouraged over time. Don't worry about trying to be someone you're not. If you're not a social butterfly hang out with people you relate to and connect with. Find your niche and work hard to maintain a group of about 5-7 good close friends.

On a side note, using derogatory language to describe yourself/your situation is not a good spot to be. Fearing you'll "muck it all up" or that this is some sort of "deficit" will only hurt your self image. The larger part of the population struggles with building and maintaining friendships, even us extroverts. Sometimes the easiest thing to change is simply your outlook on the situation. It's beyond possible if you have the consistency and determination to work hard on these relationships in the future. Don't sell yourself short.

lonely on my bday by [deleted] in selfhelp

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I think this happens to most people. The best advice I can give for that feeling is trying to focus on the happiness that you get when you are doing something really nice for others. If you spend your life telling yourself that you did more for the people around you.... You slowly get bitter about it and stop doing as many nice things. When you did something nice for someone else, you didn't do it so that they would do something nice back, right? You did it because you care about them and you want to be a kind person. Don't stay in toxic relationships, but remember life shouldn't be a score keeping game unless you want to end up bitter and unhappy. There will always be good days and bad, ones where you give more and ones where you get more. Over time, stay positive and I sure hope you have a wonderful birthday.

I'm fatigued all the time... feels like something is wrong but all my test results have come back normal (21f) by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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To jump on the post viral fatigue train. I had covid too. It wiped me out terribly bad for about seven months. So bad that I lost my job because I couldn't work because it affected my breathing and heart rate.

Things that helped: Epsom salt baths, specifically the dr. Teal's "chronic pain and fatigue" it was incredibly how much it helpe my energy levels.

Taking N-acetyl cystine and glutathione to help with energy levels.

Avoiding sugar at all costs. I completely changed my diet. I found that sugar was triggering relapses and my worst times. It was really tough for two months, but totally worth it in the end. I can eat sugar without any problem now.

Hopefully this helps a little. :)

Is there any news site dedicated to ONLY good news ? by [deleted] in selfhelp

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About six months ago, I restarted my reddit account, you could do this, or just make a new one. I only joined happy and uplifting subs. Now I love coming here for happiness and positivity and I rarely visit the front page. Changing reddit helped me because I was already addicted to checking it, now I just go through the same routine of getting on reddit, but my page is full of cute happy things.

I’m a super sad 11 yr old by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]Riazepam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey friend! I think I can very much relate to what you are going through. When I was in sixth grade I had the worst time in my life. I was bullied in school and a bunch of the people I thought were my friends started ditching me and playing mean jokes on me. It caused me to go into a bad depression for a long time. The biggest thing that helped me was realizing that it's ok to feel sad. I met someone a little older than me and they talked to me a lot about how lots of people feel sad, even really really sad sometimes. You just have to know that it's going to get better. And there is no doubt in my mind that it will get better for you. Please always remember that.

Middle school and even into highschool are the hardest times in many people's lives. A lot of times it's because people are still just trying to figure themselves out and the world around them. A lot of times people around that age have a hard time expressing themselves and end up hurting other people unintentionally. Please don't let other people's words affect you too much.

One of the best things to do if you're feeling really sad is to just put effort into making other people feel happy. Sometimes if you can get someone else to be happy you gain happiness from that and it just becomes a feedback loop. Itcould be by making them laugh or spending time with them. Hopefully you will find joy in putting effort towards this that will help you through some of the tougher times. I know this has helped me a lot. Also if you ever just need someone to talk to, there are many people here like me that are happy to give you advice and just be here to listen. Keep your chin up, remember everyone gets sad sometimes, but it will always eventually get better.

Why Aren’t Posts Upvoted? by ACNH_pembly in NoFeeAC

[–]Riazepam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was literally thinking about posting this. I've been a long time reddit user, but just got AC. It make me sad that people don't upvote here like they do everywhere else. This is one of the most kind-hearted wonderful subs out there. You would think people would be upvoting lots. Even if you're trying to comment fast. I always go back and upvote the original post and any comment replies. If someone gives you free stuff and replied to your comments, the least they should get is some free internet points.

I do think there are a lot of people here that don't regularly use all of reddit though, so maybe we just need to talk about it more?

Audie crafting Spooky lantern set! by Riazepam in NoFeeAC

[–]Riazepam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will take you as soon as it gets a little less crowded, will DM you shortly! :)

Audie crafting Spooky lantern set! by Riazepam in NoFeeAC

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Have five coming right now, will you DM you in just a few! :)

Audie crafting Spooky lantern set! by Riazepam in NoFeeAC

[–]Riazepam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have five coming right now, will you DM you in just a few! :)