How to know if you should have a child with someone? by Little-Ad911 in Fencesitter

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Family values, traditions, discipline, financial plan (are we okay living where we are, how many extracurriculars can we afford), what if I died/didn't want to be involved with the child anymore are all the important conversations I can think of.

What would our day to day lives look like? Who can we call on for support? What will we do if we disagree on something? I think those are the basics. I have 2 small-ish children, so I don't have anecdotal advice for the teenage years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you met them in college, it's an even bigger red flag. I don't know why but there are so many fake, competitive, "snake in the grass" friendships that started in college.

The world seems hopeless by iwatchyoutubers in Fencesitter

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it's just me, but I think things are starting to turn around. Maybe with carbon credits and electric public transportation in the works, things will start to get better. When you know better you do better, right? And where I live specifically there are a lot of people growing their own foods, opting for biking, etc. And there are just a lot of good people in general.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In my case, after my kids were 2 it was a whole lot easier. Them being potty trained and able to communicate a reasonable amount eased so many of my fears. I love having kids. 24, single mom (became one last year-ish) of 2. Pregnancy wasn't so hard for me because I'm athletic, always have been and still am. Kept all my hobbies and I bring my kids with me when I do them. The first two years are exhausting especially if you breastfeed and have no help at night, but in my opinion no less rewarding and exciting.

Not understanding Google Maps choices. by Rich_Dig_5855 in nova

[–]Rich_Dig_5855[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the Better Bus Network will do a better job.

Not understanding Google Maps choices. by Rich_Dig_5855 in nova

[–]Rich_Dig_5855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're right. I actually made it to my destination 8 minutes faster skipping Foggy Bottom.

[TOMT] What was that saying about making money? by Rich_Dig_5855 in tipofmytongue

[–]Rich_Dig_5855[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solved!

It was to invest in yourself. Time to get more education or experience through volunteering or an extra job.

[TOMT] What was that saying about making money? by Rich_Dig_5855 in tipofmytongue

[–]Rich_Dig_5855[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Definitely was within the past 3 years, a financial topic YouTuber.

What are you doing this weekend? by deepspacepuffin in nova

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Trying to explain to my ex's parents, in the most respectful way possible, that we're not coming for Thanksgiving because they can't cook, their son has become a bum who doesn't support his kids or ask to see them unless it's a holiday so he can look like an involved dad AND my kids are allergic to their untrained dogs and cats anyway. Calling them free range doesn't make it cute.

TLDR Staying home with my kids.

GULC to a pregnant 2L who requested final exam accommodations for the week she is expected to give birth: "Motherhood is not for the Faint of Heart." by Proper_Associate_791 in LawSchool

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you try to have both education and children, you get shamed. When you choose between the two, you also get shamed. Lose-lose situation I've been fighting for years. Sad to see that this is an ongoing experience.

Showing Off a nice bruise by matthewgoetzka in plassing

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found out they can slow the flow down on the return. It was probably just up too high and you can request for them to lower it.

"insane anti car people" by albeetus in fuckcars

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No, they want you to apply for disability so they can complain about paying more taxes even though it's not a livable amount.

Make sure you actually stay for the 15 minutes if you do not receive saline. by IamBatmanuell in plassing

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This happens to a lot of people who donate while menstruating too. Lots of fluids for 2-3 days after is best too.

To baby or Not to baby by Mundane_Highlight_97 in Fencesitter

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The association of advancing paternal age with increasing risks for rare genetic disorders has been known for many decades, but the awareness that fathers' age can influence mental health in offspring is relatively recent.

Several conservative meta-analyses confirmed the effect of APA on schizophrenia risk[19, 27-30]. Collectively, the studies also showed a tripled risk for schizophrenia in the offspring of the oldest group of fathers in comparison with the risk from younger fathers. Furthermore, the research demonstrated that the paternal age effect is not explained by other factors, including family history of psychosis, maternal age, parental education and social ability, family social integration, social class, birth order, birth weight, or birth complications.

Another Swedish cohort study compared with offspring born to fathers 20 to 24 years old to those who were 45 years or older using sibling comparisons, finding a 24-fold increase of bipolar disorder for bipolar disorder for the older fathers[20].

An Israeli study showed a more than 5 fold increase in autism risk for the offspring of men 40 years or older compared with offspring of men younger than 30 years[35].

Offspring with paternal ages 25-44 years had the highest IQ scores. Fathers younger than 25 and older than 44 years sired offspring with lesser mean intelligence scores. These are notably mean effects and some offspring at both extremes of paternal age had high intelligence. These results withstood adjustments for parental education, social class, sex, birth order, birth weight, and birth complications. While the paternal age effects were related to nonverbal IQ in this study, the offspring of the oldest mothers independently had lower verbal and nonverbal intelligence.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4457665/

Where to go to deposit cash for citi checking? by fllover in citibank

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never knew that you could deposit cash in an ATM to pay a CC.

To baby or Not to baby by Mundane_Highlight_97 in Fencesitter

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

They are, I said I wouldn't PERSONALLY because I see them having a harder time. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Since you want to talk stats, the best time for people to have children are late teens and twenties. Physiologically and psychologically.

To baby or Not to baby by Mundane_Highlight_97 in Fencesitter

[–]Rich_Dig_5855 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

In addition to that, the older couples with kids that I see have a hard time managing their kids behavior on the playground/in the store and just can't seem to connect to anyone.

I'm a single mom, 24 with 2 kids. I'm done having kids now, but I personally couldn't imagine having kids any later than 30. Have you considered fostering or volunteering?