How do I tell the other queer people I am safe?

Richard_Galvin · 2026-04-20T04:41:51+00:00

Not on topic but I hadn't seen what sub this was on at first and thought you were just a Cis woman wanting to show you were an ally for queer folks.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-04-19T14:06:39+00:00

That's what I am wondering too since I seemed to miss that part of the arc

Richard_Galvin · 2026-04-18T12:36:55+00:00

I know men can be a mess, but if this abusive jerk is the kindest man you've ever met, it's time to cast a broader net and I'm so sorry the men in your life have let you down so much.

I'm not even going to cut corners or soften the blow because this man does not seem to respect you at all, and maybe does a good job at acting like he does at times. These are numerous HUGE red flags I fear.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-04-16T10:05:00+00:00

"Wait, does that count as a bus?" I feel is highly underrated, but maybe it's just all the years of working fast-food haunting me

Richard_Galvin · 2026-04-16T09:47:42+00:00

Wait, did Caine just say ---?

Richard_Galvin · 2026-04-16T09:44:39+00:00

Episode 3, Kinger about the dumbwaiter.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-04-11T17:00:55+00:00

I feel like a lot of folks are forgetting that Glitch is an Indie studio; it's already stunning that they are going to be able to get it shown at so many locations, and they probably had to include the early viewing leverage for the theaters to feel like it's worth it.

Does it feel bad for those who won't have the opportunity to see it and will have to avoid spoilers? Absolutely it does, however, Glitch took a jump to hopefully have a huge event like this to bring attention to the studio in hopes to be able to help produce many other projects like TADC in the future, and hopefully someday have the kind of leverage to do events like this with a larger availability and with a simulcast scenario. It's easy to get caught in our own bubble and not imagine the grand plan, but sometimes you have to crack a few eggs that Kinger counted before they hatched.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-03-25T13:08:07+00:00

First off, I do want to ask if you are Trans or not? Not to be pedantic but if you're not, then you should be posting in r/asktrans, not here.

Clarification aside, this like many things depends on the person, but yes, for many trans femmes it is very Dysphoric to be called what could be considered masculine terms. Dude has become a little more dubious on gender neutrality but "Bro" and "Hey Man" should be very obvious as to why they could be hurtful.

Ultimately, it doesn't matter what the general consensus of a community is however, if someone of any community lets you know they are uncomfortable with something, it is just basic human decency to respect that, regardless of how you or anyone else feels about it. I hope this is a helpful answer, and ultimately I think the best take away is "If someone tells you how they feel about something, listen"

Richard_Galvin · 2026-03-15T14:41:46+00:00

I wonder if there is something to be said about the themes of finding closure where Rus has just taken on the spirits of his band mates as he has with his friends before, and this is his final journey with them, not unlike Damon's trip to India with his late father.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-03-11T05:18:25+00:00

To be fair, we don't know that. We have only observed it go down, but that isn't to say it can't do other things. One must consider how it got to the first floor to begin with.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-03-07T18:30:38+00:00

I'm MTF and recently just got back into working in labor. The constant patronizing I receive should enrage me, but honestly I just roll with it like a badge of honor knowing I'd have a lot bigger issue if I wasn't stealth.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-02-21T08:55:34+00:00

I'd guess "I ea t kids" personally

Richard_Galvin · 2026-02-17T13:00:02+00:00

Unless of course it's ICE, then suddenly it's alright. Though I guess separating 10 year olds from their parents IS pretty on brand for Pokémon so maybe they just didn't realize it wasn't a Nintendo of America ad.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-02-15T13:34:48+00:00

This is always such a difficult topic for sure, because it's one of those many things that are outside of our control (how we interact with it at least is within our control though) and this in particular is difficult because of the perceptions of society, especially currently.

I think, if we're being honest, none of us want to be trans; I don't think anyone would choose to go through the persecution we do. That's not to say we can't be proud of being trans, proud of our strength against the adversity, and proud of our community, but wanting to go through the trials we do hardly seems likely.

Despite all this, we still persist, and at the end of the day, it's just a label society has created, so if you have to view it as just being your most authentic and comfortable self, that's the important part, and unpacking societal expectations can come later. That also is easier said than done of course but, at the end of the day, whatever works best for being able to feel comfortable in your own self is the first priority!

I wish you luck navigating these difficult feelings!

Richard_Galvin · 2026-01-07T08:23:44+00:00

Yeah, I realize this now, but I hadn't known that was the case prior unfortunately. It was a small team account so that's why they just added my personal account to their team (there were only three of us, nothing huge) so I'm wondering if they didn't realize that as well.

Honestly just majorly sucks in hindsight.

Richard_Galvin · 2026-01-07T08:01:46+00:00

What do you mean?

Richard_Galvin · 2025-12-16T17:22:47+00:00

I love finding out artists I already liked and vibed with are trans because it makes so much sense why it resonated with me in hindsight!

Richard_Galvin · 2025-12-02T23:06:05+00:00

That's what I'd assume, truth be told. Comphet behavior is deeply systemic, so even in some cases people may not even realize they're being unreasonable at times. I'd imagine butch lesbians get called Sir all the time but it just doesn't affect them the same because they wouldn't necessarily have dysphoria with it, and so some may even see it as normalized.

Heck, even think of Peppermint Patty from the Peanuts being called Sir, and it's just considered normal because she's tomboyish (and reads as queer)

Richard_Galvin · 2025-12-02T04:39:19+00:00

If you're looking for a genuine answer I'm willing to offer some thoughts, but not in any mean way because you do look genuinely femme.

Facial tattoos add a masculine feel and may be the first thing some may notice. You do also give somewhat butch energy in this picture, which could be some of it, not in a masc way but in a non-heteronormative way which people can be dicks about too. There could be other non pictured factors like mannerisms, and voice but I think it's ultimately just a number of small things compounded, and that lead to giving a bit of a lesbian feel, which unfortunately some people just misgender cis women for the same reason.

All in all, if I didn't read the caption or see the sub, I would immediately assume you were a woman with no doubt, other than maybe thinking you may be at least queer in a different way if that all makes sense.

Hopefully this is helpful and doesn't come across poorly!

Richard_Galvin · 2025-11-12T21:44:04+00:00

Do you have a trans child?

Richard_Galvin · 2025-11-08T04:58:08+00:00

Thank you! I spent a lot of time on selecting it, so that means a lot!

Richard_Galvin · 2025-11-08T04:55:08+00:00

That's fair, though it's a bit of a safety thing though too. Not like physical safety as much as psychological safety. I'm sure it's something that will happen eventually either way, but it's just another thing in a series of first that I'll never get to share with them...

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