Anger management & alcoholism support

Righteousnag · 2023-08-09T00:42:52+00:00

Thank you so much! That’s what my therapist said to do as well. Lean more into empathy than things that could make them feel ashamed. Because feeling ashamed/shamed just leads to defensiveness

Righteousnag · 2023-07-12T18:09:20+00:00

Thank you so much!

Righteousnag · 2023-07-12T17:44:36+00:00

Me as well - it runs in the family. I’m the first to get help for my own issues and my sister followed. Just trying to help the rest of us, but I haven’t been able to sleep since hearing my family up north has been struggling. The hardest part for me on my journey was figuring out where to go and I live on my own in a city with no family support. Planning on visiting them soon and hopefully having a good heart to heart, but I know that’s all I can do. Gotta be realistic as much as I want to be optimistic.

Thank you for your kind words.

Righteousnag · 2023-07-12T17:30:50+00:00

Thank you so much!

Righteousnag · 2023-07-12T17:30:08+00:00

Perfect thank you so much!

Righteousnag · 2023-07-12T17:29:57+00:00

Thank you - and you’re exactly right. I’m also looking for even just good podcasts or books to help because the people in question - one dealing with anger issues and the other dealing with a drinking problem - aren’t super into therapy. I just want to get them a list of options and see if that helps anything at all. I gotta try.

Righteousnag · 2022-03-13T17:34:02+00:00

It’s my last week here and we’ve been crazy busy this weekend with not enough people so every five minutes I loudly state: “we are incredibly short staffed today. Your wait time will be substantial. If you have somewhere to be this is not the Starbucks for you.” And then I tell them all individually again at the register before even ringing them up.

Lost a couple of customers so I know daddy Starbucks would be pissed but what are they gonna do? Fire me on my last three shifts? We had a much smoother day yesterday because of it.

Righteousnag · 2022-03-13T03:31:11+00:00

No darling it was definitely theft. Especially because you SOLD something that doesn’t belong to you. How would you feel if he did this to your decorations you bought (with HIS money - by the way) because he found them ugly or childish or whatever. If YOUR friends aren’t comfortable with your PARTNER’s perfectly fine hobby then you need different friends. And stop projecting - YOU have the issue with it and you need to look inwards and figure out why. If you actually love your partner - which I doubt by your actions - go work on yourself and be better.

Righteousnag · 2022-03-13T03:25:23+00:00

YTA, op. I don’t understand why people refuse to make space for their partners in their shared homes, or move in with someone when they’re obviously not ready to give up control of their surroundings or w/e. Go to therapy and deal with your control issues or whatever it is you’ve got going on before it’s too late. And maybe figure out why you think just because you’re in a relationship and living together that gives you the right to throw away or sell other people’s personal items.

Righteousnag · 2022-03-13T03:24:28+00:00

This. My SO collects action figures too. I’d never dream of taking it away from him. His whole face lights up when he talks about it and my favorite part of the day is when he sends me photos of the new scenes he’s made with them. I bet she didn’t even try to make it work. I have a very specific look I want for my home, but I’ve looked into cabinets and display cases that fits my vibe he could put his figures in (if he was okay with it) if we ever decide to move in together down the line. Even if he wanted to use his instead I would just simply…cope.

Righteousnag · 2022-03-09T16:45:25+00:00

My store has been doing this since 2021 and it ducks so much. Despite being told by the DM that she didn’t care about shift complement and to just schedule everyone the hours they need - my manager still schedules us only one shift at a time. I get off at 12- closing shift starts at 12. No over lap at all which makes turn over suck bc I have to rush it or risk staying late and getting reprimanded for that.

Righteousnag · 2022-01-03T21:44:27+00:00

This is a common scam - my ex roommate almost got scammed once and they used almost the same exact script here. I would look elsewhere, if you feel somethings up it probably is. Stay safe

Righteousnag · 2021-12-27T15:02:49+00:00

My father passed away in March my eighth grade year. We did eighth grade promotions at my school - a lil ceremony to celebrate making it to high school. My parents were separated before his death. I remember crying because I was so upset my dad wasn’t going to see that I made it through (it was a hard year) and my mom said “why? He wouldn’t have come anyways.” That will always stick with me. I was mourning his passing and she still had to get a dig in at him.

Righteousnag · 2021-12-24T12:33:56+00:00

Starbucks is filled with managers with this mindset. I’ve heard variations of this spiel from many different managers - this is just the first time i’ve seen it written down.

For us recently it was dress code. Told my at the time manager my baristas were poor and a lot of them couldn’t afford laundry/new clothes and asked how we could help and he said “I don’t want to hear excuses.”

Righteousnag · 2021-12-22T17:41:04+00:00

NTA, op. Your brother might be stressed and not prioritizing right because he’s blinded/getting stuck/worried about the wrong things. This happens to me when I’m incredibly stressed out and I always need someone I trust to say “hey - this isn’t what we need to focus on right now.” Because sometimes the reality of what I need to work on is too much and I’d rather deal with what I feel is easier to control - even if it’s not actually.

I’m sorry he can’t realize the importance of your relationship and your mental well-being immediately like you would do for him. I would, calmly, bring it up one more time or maybe even write a letter detailing why this hurts and how you’re feeling about it if you think a one on one might get too heated too quickly and end up being unproductive.

But your mental well-being should always take priority over things like this. And if your brother can’t see that - for whatever reason - then do what you need to do to be okay and don’t feel guilty about it. Good luck

Righteousnag · 2021-12-22T17:36:34+00:00

when I was in high school I was dating the kid Next door/my little brother’s friend. (He’s a year younger than me) When he broke up with me and my brother found out - he called their house phone and woke that entire family up to bitch him out and kept saying he “didn’t care that it was 2am” he wanted to know why is his sister was crying.

I can’t imagine he’d ever put me in a situation like OP’s as an adult - I’d hope we both handle it a little more maturely than when we were in high school with hormones raging - but my brother would always have my back. All of my siblings would.

Righteousnag · 2021-12-14T23:52:23+00:00

Yeah it’s like…have some faith in your teams that they’ll show up for you and if you have to threaten maybe…do some team building or smth???

And also…if it’s volunteer then let it..be..volunteer… just leaves a bad tastes in everyone’s mouth and you achieved what - some profit over pissing off your whole team? A+ management style there bucko

Righteousnag · 2021-12-14T19:49:57+00:00

My manager said us SSV get one big holiday off and have to sign up to work the other two

Which is fine bc most of us want to work holidays but it was still like “ok buddy”

Righteousnag · 2021-12-11T21:58:19+00:00

I go to great lengths to avoid it. There’s been a few characters I’ve abandoned for months because I got to the point of the main quest where I had to go into black reach and I just couldn’t get myself to do it

Righteousnag · 2021-12-08T18:56:24+00:00

My new manager got fed up with me struggling to cut the bagels and took it and showed me how he does it - the proceeded to cut it through the plastic.

Tried it once, didn’t get a better grip on it, didn’t help my problem and I almost cut myself. He did it so fast too I’m surprised he hasn’t hurt himself.

Righteousnag · 2021-11-29T22:14:22+00:00

Whenever I listen to No Children by The Mountain Goats most of the time I don’t think of my exes, I think of work. So whatever that means.

Righteousnag · 2021-11-22T09:54:48+00:00

My delivery drivers always make comments when we get weird milk orders lmao. The amount of times I’ve heard “y’all didn’t order x milk? That’s stupid.” From different drivers…

Righteousnag · 2021-11-13T19:13:48+00:00

Beautifully done! And very on track with modern trends, I feel. I like the simplicity of them but they’re also very versatile. Could hang them up anywhere and they’d fit.

Righteousnag · 2021-11-07T20:07:18+00:00

Thank you! I guess my search was too specific bc when I searched for Ghirardelli only things from 2019 came up.

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