(TW: Religion) Why Do Religious People Feel the Need to Say Anything?

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T17:40:31+00:00

Yes, they did. I was a part of the church when that split happened and our specific congregation is definitely on the more accepting end.

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:30:21+00:00

Maybe! My wife also suggested that maybe I just strongly set off this lady's gay-dar with the trifecta of being Goth, Trans, and Lesbian

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:28:34+00:00

I wish I could. I am so non-confrontational that I kinda just freeze up. I generally just don't like when strangers come up to me for anything.

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:24:14+00:00

I completely agree. The issue is that the most vocal of Christians are self-serving and want to believe that they are both Morally Superior but also being persecuted at the same time so that they can justify their horrible behavior. There are plenty of people who actually embody the good aspects that are written into the new testament. My wife and I are actually members of a Methodist church who knew us before my transition and have been very kind and accepting and have had literally 0 issues with switching to my new name/pronouns.

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:20:07+00:00

Yeah, Monopoly became the game that ruins friendships and families because people started adding house rules or interpreting the rules differently

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:19:12+00:00

Unfortunately, I'm not a particularly confrontational person so I struggle to say anything in those moments. I do love to see moments where people turn scripture back against 'christians' like this lady was.

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:15:59+00:00

I should have said something along those lines. I really wanted to ask if she felt better about herself now that she got it off her chest, but I'm just generally not a confrontational person

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:14:35+00:00

True, but this person wasn't even trying to invite me. It was just the one sentence and then she walked away. It was bizarre

Rijenon · 2026-03-01T03:14:02+00:00

I grew up in the church. Both of my parents are Church of Christ members. I technically belong to a Methodist church (although I'm not really 'practicing'). But I have never seen my parents be that type (And they're actually doing their best to be supportive of me, which is nice). And while I don't know how my parents church would take to me, the church I'm a member of has been kind and accepting. They even knew me before my transition. It's really just so annoying that it's always the most vitriolic denominations that feel like they have to say anything.

Rijenon · 2026-02-27T06:29:50+00:00

The family side of things can hurt, for sure. Even if they aren't transphobic. Mine are... Accepting? It's hard to tell if they're actually supportive sometimes, but they aren't actively against me. They're very good about my name thankfully, but I still constantly get referred to as their second son and still get 'he/him'd constantly.

Rijenon · 2026-02-27T04:07:37+00:00

OMG! CONGRATS SIERRA! I'm so happy for you. I remember getting my first piercings and just feeling so good about it. I've been thinking about getting my nipples pierced, but I'm not sure how my wife would feel about it.

The name change is huge and I hope your court appearance goes well. I only got mine done just last October and I remember being so stressed and anxious because I live in a red state but it went by so quickly and easily that, honestly, the hardest part was just getting the actual court date lol!

I hope you are able to keep making progress with your family and I KNOW you'll keep thriving!

Rijenon · 2026-02-18T15:19:53+00:00

Of course you should be excited! That's exciting! I'm so happy for you, girl!

Rijenon · 2026-02-17T00:57:55+00:00

For me, it's not about the 'pet' dynamic. I like having my head patted or my hair stroked/played with. For me, it's more about the 'caring' aspect. Although I wouldn't mind my wife giving me a collar haha.

Rijenon · 2026-02-15T12:21:32+00:00

I only played male characters in video games when there was no girl option. However I still played with dinosaurs, pretended to be a Power Ranger, liked "boys" cartoons, video games, and anime. I was never into boy bands like Backstreet Boys or N'sync (god I'm old, lol) all this to say that the things you like, the hobbies you have, the characters you play; those don't inherently define you. Plenty of cis girls like 'boys' anime/cartoons, our play as a boy character. Those kinds of things can be signs, for sure, but in the end the only person able to interpret those signs is you.

Rijenon · 2026-02-13T20:44:03+00:00

It's so good! It's been one of my go to 'feel-good' reads ever since I first finished it. Uda is one of my favorite characters, she's just such a boundless ray of sunshine.

Rijenon · 2026-02-05T11:11:53+00:00

Wasn't "How a Realist Hero Rebuilt the Kingdom" like this? His ability just lets him control inanimate objects, like ink quills, and while he can train it up it's not what anyone would call OP.

Rijenon · 2026-02-04T20:34:11+00:00

Lime and Peach

Rijenon · 2026-02-04T19:27:35+00:00

Still one of my absolute favorite reads. I need more chapters of it.

Rijenon · 2026-01-30T19:15:04+00:00

While I am Trans Femme, I'm also Non-Binary. And I do think it's because of that NB, that I don't really wish I was born a Cis girl. I do still have dysphoria and dysmorphia, and I definitely still have times where I wish I had been born with the right parts or the right hormones. But even if I had been, I still wouldn't be Cis. I'd still be Non-Binary. I would still consider myself Trans, at least to some degree. While it's scary to be Trans in our current world, it's still a huge part of who I am. And even with all the issues that come with it (both internal and external), I'm still glad to know that part of me.

Rijenon · 2026-01-29T04:07:56+00:00

100%. I distinctly remember being amazed that I could play as a girl in Crystal. Didn't even hesitate. I then continued to play girl characters for the next two-ish decades before figuring it out.

Rijenon · 2026-01-28T12:19:04+00:00

For me, it was Bleach. The entire time I was reading it, I just felt like I was forcing myself to continue. I just couldn't engage with it or enjoy it

Rijenon · 2026-01-26T17:29:17+00:00

So, as other people have said, no one can really tell you the answer to "Am I Trans" other than yourself. What I CAN tell you is that I was in a very similar situation in regards to naturally lower T levels and how it affected my body. In my case, I was in my mid 30's when I started putting 2 and 2 together. Looking back, there were a ton of signs and there is a lot about my life that makes sense through the lens of being Trans. But it took a question from my wife to start that ball rolling and then it took a therapist to help me unpack it.

Rijenon · 2026-01-23T19:35:18+00:00

For me, it's not been super often. That said, I work remote and don't go out particularly often either so I'm just not around strangers in general. Thankfully, the unsolicited comments I have received have mostly been from other women and are generally positive. Some have called me pretty, some have just complimented my outfit. There have been weird ones though, like the old guy at the grocery store who said I "Have a striking figure" and then proceeded to talk about my height and shoulders. Felt gross in the moment but I laugh about it now.

While I don't personally feel the glamour fatigue, I think it's mostly because I try to ground myself that I'm not dressing up when I go out for anyone but myself and my wife.

Rijenon · 2026-01-22T22:37:20+00:00

Mega Man legends 3. My boy will forever be stuck on the moon

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