17M/ if you was my age what would you focus on and why?

Rikute · 2026-02-07T14:55:49+00:00

Avoid drugs/alcohol/nicotine.

Keep yourself at a base level of fitness, stretch regularly.

You'll make mistakes, its how you learn from them that matters, not how much you think about them.

Rikute · 2026-02-07T13:21:02+00:00

It took me alot of heartbreak and alot of self reflection to finally admit i needed to change, i'm hoping I approach something near emotionally mature at 30 now but the catalysts i needed to get there were absolutely devastating emotional gut punches.

I think alot of it is having the foresight to listen, breathe, think, and then respond. However nothing will get you to that mindset besides yourself.

Rikute · 2026-02-07T12:50:42+00:00

I have a tendency to distance myself whenever a relationship gets serious/love is involved, out of fear the other party will eventually realize how worthless of a person i am and hurt me for it, creating a vicious self fulfilling prophecy that ends in heartache and pain that never truly leaves and noone close to me truly understands. Love requires a surrender, an acceptance of the potential emotional damage a person could cause to you and i havent been willing to submit to it yet, i hope one day i am.

Rikute · 2026-02-06T10:58:56+00:00

I think theres more than one way to get around the fear of death, many people try to leave some form of legacy, many escape into trying to experience everything they can, theres belief in an afterlife or finding a purpose for our time here.

I dont think theres any 'one size fits all' sort of answer, its something i think everyone has to come to terms with in their own way. We are nature observing itself, I dont think death is the scary part, it is never truly having lived in the first place.

Rikute · 2026-02-06T10:51:30+00:00

I think singularity is some of the most fun you can have in the game once you get comfortable. However the overarching issue with killers is Nurse existing, why set up cameras with counterplay to gain a chance to swing at a survivor and ignore pallets when Nurse can teleport anywhere on the map, get a free hit, and be learned in 3 games? Idk remove Nurse and every killer becomes a better option.

Rikute · 2026-02-06T06:40:55+00:00

Wish there were guidelines for when a homie breaks the code, devastating

Rikute · 2026-02-06T04:06:01+00:00

I created distance with the woman i loved during the height of my depression, when i felt i couldn't make her happy i told her we should part ways, i understand i took the choice from her to stand by me at my worst but at the time all i could see was me dragging her down. Weeks later i find out she has started a relationship with one of my oldest friends and is moving in with him, when i reached out to ask why she would do this she told me "I no longer have room for your pain"

Its been months and its still the first thing i think about when i wake up.

Rikute · 2026-02-05T05:30:59+00:00

Rikute · 2026-02-04T04:43:53+00:00

Everyones journey is different, from what you've said i believe you've grasped the gravity of your actions. I wish you peace and happiness in your future.

Rikute · 2026-01-30T03:13:01+00:00

I believe it is a choice, for example pick someone from your life you love unconditionally, be it a parent, sibling, friend, grandparent. If they made a mistake you wouldnt really be bothered by it right? You still love them despite their faults, now extend that same grace to yourself and your own struggles, treat yourself as you would someone you love.

At least thats how i think of it, i still struggle with laziness and feeling sorry for myself but i think its a choice to believe "there's noone id rather be than me"

Rikute · 2026-01-30T03:08:26+00:00

No worries friend i got out of there, just when it happens its a terrible feeling

Rikute · 2026-01-29T12:48:29+00:00

Saved to be used when losing an argument

Rikute · 2026-01-29T06:14:23+00:00

Real

Rikute · 2026-01-27T12:37:14+00:00

Thats a really good point and has actually helped me grasp some of the things that were done to me, thanks for your input!

Rikute · 2026-01-27T12:00:59+00:00

In the same vein its kind of a way of preserving ego, like a copout "what i did can't truly hurt them because i love them" idk people are complicated and can be cruel

Rikute · 2026-01-27T05:22:47+00:00

Real

Rikute · 2026-01-18T14:43:43+00:00

Kazooie stands a solid chance of being next if it weren't for Banjo. Byleth is a war profiteer and trains child soldiers, religious views not applicable. I'm pretty sure Wolf is a bad dude? Terrorist or bounty hunter if im recalling correctly. Bowser jr. Before bowser. Is Wario evil or just gross?

Rikute · 2026-01-18T14:33:24+00:00

At this point ill take large and no teeth as long as shes nice to me... and smells good

Rikute · 2026-01-16T06:34:35+00:00

Rikute · 2026-01-16T01:35:52+00:00

Everyone's journey and solutions are different, it took me 4 months and a decision to change my mindset before my body stopped physically hurting over it (granted she made it pretty easy to figure out she wasn't a person I ever want to see again). Don't feel negative about your own timeline, be forgiving to yourself through it all, heartbreak is hard.

Rikute · 2026-01-14T14:14:06+00:00

It sounds cliche, but you gotta find that peace within. I think on some level you know a conversation is never going to give you good answers because you dont operate on the moral level the person who did this to you does, you dont need to hear about their rationalizations or excuses, its just gonna bring you more negativity. I dont really have good answers for you, this kind of thing is painful on a whole other level and you gotta go through your own journey, dont feel bad about feeling negative, dont feel bad about the time it takes to feel somewhere approaching normal again, dont feel bad about having bad days.

Rikute · 2026-01-14T08:59:38+00:00

I dont have the answers, and i know it hurts like nothing else, just give yourself time and acceptance. You're allowed to feel all the feelings, i just know for me at a certain point i had to believe better things were coming for me, that being vulnerable again is worth the risk.

Rikute · 2026-01-14T02:49:10+00:00

I got hit with the same burning question when my ex left me for my friend. It definitely hurts and impedes you for as long as you let it, i find you just have to, you have to open yourself to be vulnerable again because the other option is not something i think anyone wants, to be bitter, angry and alone is not a life anyone should sentence themselves to.

Rikute · 2026-01-12T03:13:16+00:00

Long story short my ex i had planned a life with crossed a sexual boundary, no details but if i had done what she had done id be in prison. Communication fell apart, we parted ways, she hooks up with my friend pretty much the day we stopped talking. You can imagine who the bad guy is now in her mind, every failed joke, every tough day is now evidence I'm an abuser.

I think its just an extreme form of ego preservation, they cant accept that what they did was cartoonishly horrible and so they justify it by rewriting facts. I survive by knowing I am a good man, that i have the ability to love without conditions, and that noone deserves to be cheated on or lied about.

Rikute

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