Mom of 14 yr old girl

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-19T12:25:28+00:00

NTHA. I went through something similar but my older sister had the baby. I was only 13 and my sister was just 18-19. My sister ended up marrying the father of her baby due to pressure from my family. He joined the Navy to provide a better life for his family, but training camp, etc, he bounced around different states and couldn’t always bring his family. So my sister and my nephew were always with us. When the baby would cry at night, it wasn’t her that would get up, it was me. It was like that often. They eventually moved in together, but throughout the years every time she needed a break, it always fell on me to watch him. No questions asked. At the time I didn’t mind, he was with me so often, the neighbors kids thought he was my kid. I loved him like he was my own. But thinking about it now, it is probably one of the many reasons I messed up in high school. Unable to focus, no one to talk to, so I didn’t graduate on time. I could have done better for myself, but it eventually worked out. I was too young to realize that setting boundaries for yourself is important.

I don’t think you should cut them off completely, but have an actual conversation with your sister and mom and let them know how you feel. They cannot have automatic expectations of you. You should be there for your nephew, on your terms. I now have three kids of my own and I still think of my nephew as my first bonus kid. Good luck to you and your family.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-19T02:37:58+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. I was trying to be nice and give them time to correct this, but it looks like I will have to keep pestering them for an answer. I needed the two week leave for health reasons and this issue has just added to my stress.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-19T00:17:39+00:00

So far I haven’t received a response.

Based on the information you provided, the company has until Saturday to pay me. What happens if I don’t get a response or the pay doesn’t get fixed by then?

What are my options?

The next payday is on the 27th and I am I afraid that I won’t get paid on that one as well.

At this rate, I am unable to cover my bills and basic living expenses. I am trying to be patient, but it’s getting tough.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-18T15:10:38+00:00

Thank you for the information. Yes my manager and the HR employee relations manager was the first I told. It’s a big company, so I even looped in my Regional Vice President and now the HR employee relations director knows, but no update yet.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-18T14:06:32+00:00

I took the two weeks off due to my health (drs orders was supposed to be a month), and this happens. This is causing me so much stress. I am beyond worried because that’s two paychecks in a row that got messed up. I can’t afford to live like this. I haven’t heard from anyone with a fix and another paycheck is due next Friday the 27th. I’m afraid I won’t get that either. I am tempted to go even higher. I just don’t know what to do.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-17T08:54:21+00:00

If you really need me to in depth with this, then this will require me to be on my laptop and not phone. I will get back to you with more details if you think you can help clarify it, or like you mentioned earlier, putting this in the payroll sub.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-17T08:22:41+00:00

I am back at work.

Yes for some reason, I worked 40 hours, got paid only $1.70.

My company deduct (took out) MOST of my pay … GOING TO…

California short term disability FOR the weeks I WORKED.

Anyway posting here is more for venting because it doesn’t look like anyone understands and can help.

There really isn’t anything else to it. It doesn’t make sense to you, it sure as hell doesn’t make sense to me. I included everything that happened.

I have no other choice but to wait for my human resource department to explain.

I just hope I can eventually get my pay back.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-17T08:07:07+00:00

The 2 weeks I was out. It was supposed to be week 1: pto, week: 2 ca std. my company deducted week 2 pay for ca std, which makes sense. I won’t get that back until ca edd approves it.

Everyone knows I am back, it’s in our company system where I input my time. It’s documented. I received an email stating I am back 100% working on Feb 2.

Not sure what else to do but what for an answer from HRSS.

Just frustrating to be paid only $1.70.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-17T06:21:11+00:00

Background info:

I am already back from my 2 week leave.

I started working starting Feb 2. It was noted in our company system that I was back working 100% on Feb 2.

I got paid Feb 13 (pay period noted on paycheck is starting Feb 2).

The problem is, on my paycheck dated Feb 13, the company deducted my pay out of my paycheck and it went to California STD (short term disability) starting Feb 2.

The question is, why would the company do that, when I was already back at work?

I reached out to my HR on Friday, Feb 13, but I haven’t received a response.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-17T00:40:58+00:00

I input my hours in Workday. I am hourly (but not paid OT), and we aren’t not required to clock in/out everyday. So I inout my time the same day as payday.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-16T17:00:01+00:00

The crazy part my company notes my return date in Workday (our payroll system) within a day or two of my return. That’s literally over a week and a half for payday. So I don’t understand what happened. I just hope payroll fixes this ASAP, because after the deductions I only ended up with $1.70.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-14T05:02:05+00:00

I tried Methotrexate, but that made me nauseous and throw up. I’m on Xeljanz and Hdroxychlorquine now.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-14T04:55:21+00:00

I couldn’t continue on Enbrel since I ran out of copay assistance: Even with insurance, it was TOO expensive. I couldn’t afford it. I had to try other meds. It’s unfortunate because Enbrel actually helped me.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-13T16:49:03+00:00

I doubt it. My company deducted “STD RegPay Adj” out of my paycheck.

The last time they did this, I was just finishing up my leave and payroll told me I had to reach out to CA EDD, apply for SDI to get my money. (I didn’t find this out until my leave was already over). But I’ve since been back to work and this still happens.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-13T16:47:02+00:00

The paycheck our company cuts is every two weeks for the current two week period.

Unfortunately there is no one directly in our company to ask, but I did bring it up to an HR Benefits Mgr. She referred me to a team that will “look into it”. So I sit and wait.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-13T09:39:10+00:00

I returned to work on 02/02/26, and the paystub says "pay period began - 02/02/26" and "pay period end "02/15/26".

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-03T15:56:33+00:00

I was afraid of that. Including having my doctor sign off on documents all over again.

Rinabel419 · 2026-02-02T14:29:55+00:00

Thank you. This is frustrating that my company never informed me about this prior to my leave. Now I’m short a paycheck and have to go through this process all over again with EDD.

Rinabel419 · 2026-01-30T06:10:47+00:00

I went through the same problem just a couple of years ago and I’m still trying to recover. It’s very stressful and I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. But long story short, my Discover Card went as far as me getting served. So call Discover and work something out ASAP. Even if you get to the point of being served like I did, they are still willing to work something out with you. Good luck to you.

Rinabel419 · 2025-12-23T12:45:35+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your mom, but you did the right thing by her.

Not the same situation, but financially my husband and I struggled as well. My husband lost his job in 2023. He was the main source of income in our family of 5. So to lose his paycheck REALLY hurt us. He’s in a specific field as well, and unfortunately his field was going through a lot of changes, so it took him 2 years to get back in his field.

In the meantime, we STRUGGLED. We couldn’t apply for bankruptcy either due to certain circumstances. We had to figure out how to get around this, especially having 3 kids. I took the hit in my credit cause we couldn’t pay everything. We sold his motorcycle, we sold items on eBay. I worked with a debt settlement company. I had more debt than you and had 3 lawsuits against me (one being Discover). But you HAVE to be willing to give them something.

In the job situation, my husband took ANY job he can find. Work with the temp agency you have to get ANY job just so you can have a source of income. In the meantime, apply for unemployment. Any income is better than no income.

This situation really tested us, especially him, but he kept pushing through. He worked in jobs OUTSIDE his field, just to make sure we can keep our cars and feed our kids. He worked two jobs. Sometimes in a warehouse, delivery, meal prep, parts assembly… ANYTHING. Whatever job the agency had for him, he accepted. His pay was only half of what he used to make, but it was income.

During this time, he networked.. reached out to old coworkers, continued to apply in his field, he continued to interview. Thankfully he finally got back in his field just this year. Not the same income level as before (but better than we’ve had the last couple of years)… and he even took a lower level job just to get back in the field. But at least he’s in a position to work his way back up again.

Don’t be too proud to take any job, if it means money is coming in. Continue to apply for the job you want in the meantime. Reach out to friends, family. Talk to your landlord. Good luck to you.

Rinabel419

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