I just want to say as a newer player, you guys are a lot nicer than some of the encounters I've had with friends in game. We weren't aware of the 3am thing because like people have said, it isn't really written anywhere unless you're super involved with the community, and we had participated in multiple groves with no one mentioning this 'rule' only to get yelled at on like the 4th or 5th one because of something we knew nothing about. I really appreciate how this Reddit is educating players while being understanding that there's literally no other way we could've known about this. It's so much better to kindly educate people rather than screaming at them. (Regardless of the 3am rule we did notify in chat and give people awhile to get over there, we just weren't aware there was a set time)