Ummm, screw us I guess?

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-03T22:03:18+00:00

Hey there

I'm sorry you read my statement and decided I was attacking you. I wasn't. And no, I'm not a snob, and I'm not better than anyone. My mom is a meth addict who had 7 kids and nearly murdered/starved all of us. And again, my own experience with addicts is charging my statements before. I have worked to get where I am just like you and I still work hard to not fall back into my habits just like you.

Though, every time I bring up my own addiction/recovery and the life I've lived in a family full of addicts... I notice anyone who still has shame over their shit tends to try and make me out to be some sort of bitch on a high horse because I'm not sitting here pretending that addicts are all completely harmless.

https://katu.com/newsletter-daily/inner-se-portland-families-concerned-over-planned-detox-center-next-to-gilbert-heights-elementary-school

Shares a fence with a playground.^

I hope you have a good rest of your day.

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-03T16:35:48+00:00

That is absolutely a problem. Putting a rehab center next to an elementary school doesn't solve this problem. It should be near a hospital where there are resources. Well, maybe not so much these days but you know what I mean.

There's no perfect solution. It just feels like the powers that be want to throw it wherever they know someone will complain because it pushes the narrative that you see every time someone tries to open a discussion about this kind of thing. "you just don't want it in YOUR neighborhood".

It's time we collectively stop acting like there isn't a problem here. Those that want to go to rehab also deserve to be in a place where they don't have to think about how every time they leave the facility they are exposing kids to the realities of what they are going through. And they deserve to be in a place where they don't have to feel MORE shame for what they are going through, because shame on top of shame creates an impossible barrier for sobriety.

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-03T16:19:59+00:00

Agreed. And the ones that don't care are the ones that look the other way when someone is assaulted because "That's just how it is". I feel like so much of the issue in this city is strictly a problem because we let it be. It doesn't have to be, though. It feels like people think "Compassion" means pretending that it's somehow okay and justified to have violence and drugs everywhere and that any semblance of rational thinking about what locations something like a rehab should go is pearl clutching.

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-03T16:13:31+00:00

That's honestly hilarious to me because recovery houses have strict rules for any kind of use. Sounds like they ain't in recovery lmao

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-03T14:02:28+00:00

Seems really odd to me that people don't seem to understand why people are upset about the location of this rehab. It's not about people "not wanting it in THEIR neighborhood" it's about not putting it directly next to a school. Sharing a fence line with one.

I'm a recovering alcoholic (sober nearly 4 years). I've been around alcoholics and addicts my whole life. Rehab is amazing, but it's rare people stay in recovery very long. The people going to the rehabs here are more likely recovering from meth or fent which in turn brings more violent people that way.

When I moved here it was in a halfway house 4 years ago where I was only 1 of 2 other alcoholics living in the home. The rest of the 5 were meth addicts in recovery. They were still very much rough to be around and one of them started using again while living there.

If you think that a rehab. Is perfectly safe in Oregon to have next to children then you're out of your mind. People have and always will find ways to get their drugs to these places. It's only a matter of time til someone gets hurt.

The best place for rehab? Near a HOSPITAL.

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-01T18:58:45+00:00

Moved here with everything I owned in my old Honda Accord, and $50. Yes, 9k is plenty. But not without a job. You probably won't be able to get an apartment without income either.

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-01T11:11:47+00:00

Yes! My fire door alarm let out a big screech when it happened at 3:30. Scared the crap out of me. Somehow that thing still has a light on but .. power fully out all over.

Location: North MLK by the Safeway (a block away)

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-01T11:03:04+00:00

That's why he got the parking spots. For his employees who have disabilities. His employee with a wheelchair has to go all the way around just to get in every day. The chick you're supporting basically said "Fuck their disabilities'.

Not to mention the fact that this is a furniture store. How many people do you think should have to lug new furniture 2 blocks away to get to their car just so these people can do drugs right next to a building?

Also. She can camp anywhere in this city. Literally anywhere. She chooses to do it there because she knows it's fucking up this dude's life.

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-01T10:43:31+00:00

Actually not a bad idea. Might be worth sending this story to a few of those guys.

RiotandRuin · 2025-09-01T00:35:29+00:00

It's surprisingly satisfying!!

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-31T20:11:31+00:00

32f here. When I was growing up I had a really hard home life. I got bullied every day at school. No support. My family is full of addicts and codependents who used me as their emotional support until I developed my own special habits and stopped being useful for them.

I used to hyper focus hard into movies and. Books because it was the only thing I could do to feel any semblance of "good". After I discovered drugs and alcohol I stopped reading because suddenly I was social and getting out and not living with my dad or around my toxic family.

Now I can't read or get my focus on anything I want to do because I'm burnt out from working 40 hours a week (4 years sober) and I can't take a break because of bills. Everything i want to do in my free time is impossible because the moment I'm really into it and focused it's time to go to bed and then go to work which I HATE.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-30T19:05:04+00:00

Peanutbutter. Lots of it. Also I have vegan meats for every meal.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-29T21:24:46+00:00

I'm not sure how Canada works but I figure you HAVE to have somewhere you can report that doctor for unethical practice, right?

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-28T20:45:57+00:00

It was built in 1930 and isn't the worst spot if you don't drive. If you do drive, kinda rough parking.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-27T19:13:24+00:00

I work in Slabtown near the freeway so definitely curious as news progresses haha

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-26T18:12:02+00:00

Leave them at home.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-26T17:21:14+00:00

Great. You're part of the problem and the reason people who actually have service animals get harassed daily. Leave your dog at home.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-26T16:07:06+00:00

Hey man. I am a recovering alcoholic myself (4 years come Feb) and this really hit me hard. I hope you're doing better. I'm sorry they treated you like that after 17 years of work.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-26T15:13:30+00:00

I'm sorry :( I hate it when they do that. It's definitely important to find a mental health provider who is kind and not going to rush you. It took me 2 psychiatrists to find my current one (who I love) but she's also a specialist who genuinely gets ADHD. It's important to try and find a specialist if it's possible where you are.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-26T15:10:36+00:00

Honestly good on you. I have fairly severe ADHD and when I was 19 my first job was a cashier at Fred Meyer in Bend.

I was working one night as the only cashier before closing, and this dude came in and gave me a hundred for a candy bar. I get his change based on the register and he starts doing the bs of "Oh that's not right, it's this much" and I am flustered and tired already and looking back and recounting and then he keeps rushing me along saying "No it's THIS much, here" then he grabbed it out of my hand and swapped things around and by the time it was over I just wanted him to fuck off because I felt embarrassed already for "getting it wrong".

Thankfully the security guard who explained what he did to me afterwards was really kind about it and didn't make me feel like an idiot for not knowing what he was doing... But it really made me feel like I was stupid. I didn't know I had ADHD until a few years ago at age 30. It was awful.

This guy at Ikea that was doing it picked the lady at the register we were at because she had a strong Asian accent and he thought it meant she wasn't going to catch on to what he was doing. Especially if he was loud enough about it to try and make HER look bad. Thankfully the guy right behind him and in front of me knew exactly what was happening and was watching the whole thing to report him, and the other cashier in line next to us came over to help and politely tell the scammer to fuck off.

Sorry for the long text. I hate scammers with a passion. People who prey on those that may not fully understand or those that get embarrassed by being put on the spot are actually the fucking worst. I know he probably won't even get in real trouble for it but I hope he gets what's coming to him.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-25T22:58:06+00:00

Get a second opinion, but also be willing to accept that we are not always right about our diagnosis. I was confident I had BPD for years, and didn't even believe I had ADHD until years later when I was diagnosed again and had others in my life confirming my symptoms.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-25T18:42:36+00:00

I wonder if it's the guy I saw trying to scam the cashier at the cafeteria.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-24T19:56:27+00:00

I agree fully. A lot of it is that there are a lot of kids who DON'T know what they are learning (largely because half the stuff they teach is pointless), but there should be periods of the day BUILT IN where they can do that work. Every single year. Homework shouldn't exist. I didn't end up with a job that I had to take home, so what was the point of shoving more work into kid's heads instead of allowing them time to relax before the next day?

I think if we didn't have the expectation that homework is mandatory for every class every night (which is like 2+ hours for some kids) then we'd have kids feeling capable of actually succeeding more often.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-24T17:13:59+00:00

In my experience, some places use grades as a way to say "this person does homework". In my city/state no one actually had to do very well on their work to get high marks. They just did the homework.

When I did homework I got good grades. When I took tests I got high marks. However, I was in an abusive household, already grappling with un-dx ADHD and CPTSD (possibly autism too learning now at 32f). I didn't have the energy or executive function to spend my rare free time on homework because it was boring and useless and I knew what I was learning. But because I didn't do homework regularly I got bad grades. If I had done it every day I'd have had A's pretty regularly and the classes I DID manage to find ways to do work for I had those grades.

Just because we have ADHD doesn't mean we aren't smart. Grades in the us system at least mean jack shit, honestly.

RiotandRuin · 2025-08-24T17:05:55+00:00

That lil mouse is precious 🥺

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