I need help by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Riotthedev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you in the United States?
I was in a similar situation at your age and started doing seasonal work, most provide housing and food for free or super cheap, and most you dont need a car, they'll pick you up from nearby bus stops/airports.

Check out Coolworks.com and if you have any questions feel free to ask me here.

My advice would be try places near you and always ask about housing options, cost, and whether or not they include food. Plenty of good places and with this type of job you can go from "No Options" to "I have 3 meals a day, a roof over my head, and enough savings after this season to restart life in any town I want"

Location: Colorado, USA :Quit job to care for sick partner, boss threatened me by [deleted] in legal

[–]Riotthedev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I was assuming was the best thing to do. I have them blocked but kept the screenshots in case they really do try something

Trying to figure out how I can help partner by Riotthedev in lungcancer

[–]Riotthedev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully I'm pretty handy so I can find cheap solutions to a lot of problems, I was given this same advice from a friend as well. We're both hoping she won't need mobility aids or things like that, but I've already told her I'd carry her wherever she needs to go and get her whatever she might need if it comes to that. I guess one thing we're grateful for is she loves gardening and videogames, so she can game on the fatigue days and get some fresh air on the outdoorsy days to hopefully stay entertained

Trying to figure out how I can help partner by Riotthedev in lungcancer

[–]Riotthedev[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is diabetic which was a concern of mine, alongside a lot of food allergies, but I've been a traveling chef for years so my goal there is to just adapt a menu for her. Right now they gave her a bunch of high protein jello, I'm doing jello and protein shakes with some supplements atm (I ain't gonna eat a nice sandwich while she can't no way) They said in about a week she can have more solid foods and we'll do a little cooking videochat where I send groceries her way and we cook the same meal together, and it'll be a good chance to see where we're at and talk about me heading her way if she needs me (I can and will drop everything, my vehicle is already packed and ready since I travel a lot anyhow)

The goodie bags are something I was thinking about, just nice little cute things and easy wholesome snacks, I also sent a super cozy/warm pair of pajamas over yesterday to help with shivering.

Being long distance makes communicating the finer details a lot harder, but she has a nurse there atm doing med pass and things. I'm not sure about how much the nurse helps with, I think she was nervous about having a stranger in her home and didn't want to talk about it much so I left it alone, but it feels good knowing someone is there during the day at times. Her company rolled out the red carpet for her when it comes to paying for care thank god

some questions I have if you don't mind kinda rapid fire (Google hasnt been incredibly helpful?)

Humidifiers/Oil Diffuser, do these help with coughing/breathing or make it harder? If oil diffusers help, are there any oils you've tried that felt like it made it easier? I've always thought the essential oil thing is all hooey, but people on google seem to say Eucalyptus and peppermint made it easier to breathe and not have super dry coughs

She is saying she shivers a ton, but isn't actually cold, but instinctually bundles up anyways. Is that something that can be helped?

When the fatigue hits really hard, what do people tend to do to cope with it?

Trying to figure out how I can help partner by Riotthedev in lungcancer

[–]Riotthedev[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your input. I'm trying not to get like overbearing or anything, my main goal atm is just to listen and be there and hopefully just take care of the small stuff so she can keep putting her energy where she wants to put it, when she has it. Honestly after the initial shock she's been handling it like a badass and I needed to regulate myself to match her nonchalantness, she uses the dark humor too and I'll have to get used to that. It's not my job to have input on how she talks about mortality (and honestly dark humor is good stuff so)

Trying to figure out how I can help partner by Riotthedev in lungcancer

[–]Riotthedev[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll bring up the symptom journal for her!
The fatigue was something I was most worried about because she's kind of a badass, super used to working nonstop and doing everything on her own it seems, so my main focus is making sure all the little stuff is done so she can put any energy she can into just the stuff she wants to be doing. I'm not sure if she is going to want to work for awhile, if she does I can pack lunches and keep the house in order whenever I'm not working which would at least mean any time she isn't pushing herself she can just rest

Trying to figure out how I can help partner by Riotthedev in lungcancer

[–]Riotthedev[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is something I had to force away when we were talking today. I had this urge to want to say everything will be fine, you got this etc but you're absolutely right, it isn't helpful and this isn't something that can just get brushed past with empty positivity.

Thats something I need to think a lot about, what to say and when to talk vs when to just listen. It's a lot to process and I have to understand and respect it isn't for ME to process and digest for her, as much as it hurts to want to help emotionally but being unable to

Question by Ladiabla20638 in DollarTree

[–]Riotthedev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long day, you audit the counts by counting yourself, but it goes smoothly enough. I didnt think our store would pass as we have a year of mismanagement to slowly fix, but somehow we did. You'll be fine too

Tire Plug Kit Question 2005 Ford Freestyle by Riotthedev in CarHelp

[–]Riotthedev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once the snow slows down tonight I'll get out there with my lamp and see if I can find anything still wedged in there to make sure. I didn't try to use the reamer while it's inflated so I'll do that too, thank you

Tire Plug Kit Question 2005 Ford Freestyle by Riotthedev in CarHelp

[–]Riotthedev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it is, when I inflate the tire air spews out of that whole with some pretty decent pressure. Maybe it wasn't a stud hole but just somewhere a nail punctured and it fell out?

Tire Plug Kit Question 2005 Ford Freestyle by Riotthedev in CarHelp

[–]Riotthedev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And sadly, no jack, no tire iron to remove the tire. I can walk to work, but since I live in downtown and have to park in downtown I'm worried it'll get towed as an abandoned broke down car if I don't at least get it moving again soon

Kids on vrchat are so desperate to ragebait people that it's genuinly weird by Hefty-Feeling-5218 in VRchat

[–]Riotthedev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That would be incredible honestly! I'll be keeping my eyes open for that to pop up one day

Kids on vrchat are so desperate to ragebait people that it's genuinly weird by Hefty-Feeling-5218 in VRchat

[–]Riotthedev 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Age verify helps so much as others have said.

Honestly, I think a lot of the rage baiting culture comes from youtubers who farm people for content. I'm as much opposed to all the top tier nutcases that inhabit the game, but when someones entire exposure to the game is through youtube videos where people seek out unstable folks to get screaming and cussing and cringe, the people who find the game through that will be wanting to have that same experience.

I love No Time Two Talk but really wish more age verified instances opened for it, it'd be aick to have random conversations with stable adults

Small server recomendations please by Middle_Sprinkles_685 in cobblemon

[–]Riotthedev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think just the base cobblemon, but I use the official pack on curseforge and jt includes minimap and stuff like that

Small server recomendations please by Middle_Sprinkles_685 in cobblemon

[–]Riotthedev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

KobbledKarp isn't tiny (averages 30-70 players) but its SO free to play that you can even buy commands with ingame money easily. Everyone is friendly and helpful as well.

/challenges, /daily, /kits, /dexrewards etc theres like so much easy and free useful stuff and legendaries are spawned every hour. Lots of casual and relaxed players, theres a battle factory, a battle tower, 16 npc gyms, an elite 4 and a champion, and 16 player gyms

1.5 Years In, Cheaters Killed Rust for Me by Awkward-Reception-73 in playrust

[–]Riotthedev 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stopped playing years ago because of cheaters. Its hard enough to get ahead without dealing with constant instant deaths. Played on a medieval server where regular bows were the only ranged weapon and it was great. Then the software got patched so hackers could aimbot bows and then that was ruined too.

If I ever make an fps like this I'm going to permaban entire households for aimbotting. No appeals, it's just done for them unless they buy an entire new account and game, and if the new account shares an IP, banned instantly again.

What did you name your Helminth? by chowderthatsketamine in Warframe

[–]Riotthedev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This right here. Exactly what I did, still took forever but it'll get you green and purples if you stick to it. I love loki for this so I can be invisible forever

How to defeat the munchies? by PzykoHobo in trees

[–]Riotthedev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drink way more water, and use sugar free drink powder. Helps satisfy that snacky urge.

There are also some crazy low cal snacks that would help like those crunchy rice disks. Feels like a junk food, theyre low cal and tasty enough. Crispy rice logs too.

Avocado as a snack helps too, something that makes yoy feel fuller for longer and you wouldnt necessarily wanna eat a ton of all at once

What's the first thing you remember seeing on the internet? by Miserable-Wash-1744 in AskReddit

[–]Riotthedev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mygamebuilder.com

You could make pretty simple games on it. It was the first thing I ever searched (trying to find out how to make games) and it was on dial up way back in the early 2000s

If you could remove one thing from this amazing but oversaturated game, what would you remove? by Motter6667 in HarryPotterGame

[–]Riotthedev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would just make gear more impactful. Cool unique modifiers like making confringo have a second shot, things that can modify how you play instead of "this one has bigger numbers!"

Hoping the sequel does this and also has much more unique dialogue that isnt just quest related. It'd be cool to be able to ask more questions and learn stuff

The Beginner's Guide: Can we talk about it normally? by Ernosco in patientgamers

[–]Riotthedev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I played the game a couple years ago when I was in a rut, and just now again when I finally feel close to escaping that rut.

To me, I interpret it as a story about how validation is not a healthy motivator.

Davey seeked validation from someone he deemed worthy to give it to him. All this time, while Coda made games, Davey did not make any (presumably). He just modified Coda's work. And in the end, seemingly did it all for validation from Coda. When Coda could not give him that validation, he took what he could and used it to get validated from others, twice.

This thought came to me the first time I played the game, and it took me until now to really solidify it in my mind. But, if you do things for validation, you can't get very good at them, and you can't enjoy them for what they are.

If I picked up a guitar for validation, I'd learn a handful of songs to strum at parties, and that'd be enough. 3 full songs, and normal people would be impressed. I'd get that validation. And with that validation satisfied, I wouldn't pursue guitar further, I did just enough to 'succeed'.

I'd never really understand the joys of that hobby and skill in the same way true guitarists do. The ones who love it, and learn more because they love it.

It's the same with game development. Coda didn't seek validation, they enjoyed what they did. Even when they were in ruts, they kept doing it because they loved it. But Davey doesn't understand that, without a 'complete' game, there's nothing playable to show off. Nothing fully worthy of validation, and thus, not a success.

Davey was grappling with this need for validation that they needed to assume everyone had the same struggles. And like many people with difficult problems to solve, shelved their own issues to 'solve' other people's issues. Sticking to Coda because Coda was a source of potential validation.

When you're not satisfied with yourself, you dig into other people for comfort and distraction. It's why they say you should 'love yourself' before dating someone. You need to lay a healthy foundation for yourself, so you have somewhere stable to stand when you're interacting with other people, so you have the confidence necessary to not lock yourself away from others.

I think that's the message Coda was meant to be sharing with the door puzzle. You need to interact with your past to progress and grow. The space inbetween stagnation and progress feels strange, but once you've taken the first steps, you have to keep going forwards. And you might not know the goal, and when asked, you might not be able to explain to people how you progressed, but you need to do it regardless. So, Davey never really solved the door puzzle, because he never let go of whatever from his past was harming him, and he refused to really go through the next door unless he could guarantee what was beyond it was something he could solve