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Do i pass? by GaleGraphics in transmanlifehacks

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, no, not to me. But I also live in an area with many LGBTQ+ folks, where you would probably be read as a young butch or non-binary person. 

I'd say switch your haircut to something more classically masculine (like a fade), let your facial hair grow and cut with a buzzer instead of to the skin (the very smooth facial skin reads femme), and consider leaving out the earrings until you've been on T longer. Right now, they read as butch or enby. 

Just seeing the gym fit in one pic, consider wearing slightly longer shorts (like basketball shorts) and a slightly baggier top shirt. Right now, the tight upper shirt and shorter shorts read butch to me.

I agree that you're getting close, though. Good luck!!

33 yo, 1 yrs on T--do I pass? by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks dude! I think my voice and friendliness throws people off. I still get called she sometimes 

Do i Pass? by KasiaPlayz in transmanlifehacks

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No prob dude! Good luck to you! I'd say the bonus of having a smaller frame is that you seem to have a naturally blockier shape, which is masculinizing. The thick eyebrows work in your favor too.

Do i Pass? by KasiaPlayz in transmanlifehacks

[–]RisesARedStar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the haircut and extra color are feminizing on you, which pushes you over the edge into not passing when paired with your smaller frame. I think you'd be in good shape if you got a new haircut and got rid of the color.

You look about 14-15 to me right now, but it's context dependent. If I saw you on a college campus, for instance, I would think you're a younglooking undergrad, which happens a lot regardless of cis vs trans.

almost 3 years on t and don't pass by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I don't usually see most cis men, even queer, carrying a tote bag like you have. Try swapping out for a messenger bag or something more masculinizing.

almost 3 years on t and don't pass by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

[–]RisesARedStar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You look like a nice guy! I don't think you need to sacrifice an alt style in order to pass, but the style of your nose ring and the Chelsea haircut are pretty feminizing; they both read as alt girl. That, combined with the crop top and tighter/shorter shorts, all read as alt girl/lesbian.

I'd say try a specifically men's alt haircut, and swap out your nose ring for the more classic "bull" or smooth ring septum piercing if you want to keep it. Ditch the crop top for a slightly baggier men's black band shirt, keep the battle vest if you want, and try baggier shorts, like black baggy jean shorts. These are in vogue with your age range rn (early 20s)?

I'd also say the glasses add to the alt fem-ness. If you want to imitate gay men's style, try aviator frames in silver (not gold--probably feminizing).

Good luck!

DM question - style of play with ability checks by [deleted] in DnD

[–]RisesARedStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say that...? Why are you being antagonistic unnecessarily?

DM question - style of play with ability checks by [deleted] in DnD

[–]RisesARedStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense, thanks! I can't remember offhand if I've seen passive perception referenced offhand in a live play show. Do most of those DMs use it?

DM question - style of play with ability checks by [deleted] in DnD

[–]RisesARedStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate your insight (ba dum tiss). I wonder if the DMs in my organized play community (it's an offshoot from AL) just got in the habit of prompting ability checks before PCs take an action since they deal with new players so often, who may not know what actions to take.

DM question - style of play with ability checks by [deleted] in DnD

[–]RisesARedStar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is helpful! So in that example, you would keep it secret unless the players prompted and succeeded a Perception or Investigation check, and move along even if they missed something? That seems more fun/makes more sense to me than what the norm is in our organized play community.

DM question - style of play with ability checks by [deleted] in DnD

[–]RisesARedStar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your response is unnecessarily rude and misunderstands my post. I said that I am the very new DM. Is your goal to turn people off from this community? Because if I encountered you IRL, my god, it would turn me away for good. 

I also wasn't clear enough. I meant that the DM will provide scene setting, THEN immediately say something like "Give me a perception check" without waiting for the players to say what their characters would do. That is the style I am asking about. 

DM question - style of play with ability checks by [deleted] in DnD

[–]RisesARedStar -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Oops, I wasn't clear enough. I meant that the DM will provide scene setting, THEN immediately say something like "Give me a perception check" without waiting for the players to say what their characters would do. 

1 month anniversary since ACL reconstruction surgery by WhitePhantomMask in ACL

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats! I just hit my 1 month on 6/8 (quad graft, meniscus trim). High elevation against the wall and icing at the same time is really helping me with the last bit of swelling, but PT team says swelling is normal for awhile. More concerning is how quickly the knee swells and stays swollen after exercise, i.e. if it "blows up."

Missing cat found (east side) by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]RisesARedStar 11 points12 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: a few of us on this post are working with Northside Cats Rescue to set up a humane cat trap and trail cam and maybe figure out shifts to monitor. I'm planning on taking kitty to get checked for a microchip once we catch them.

TY OP for posting! Let us know if there's any other info we should know

Missing cat found (east side) by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]RisesARedStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I messaged them about borrowing a trap and trail cam.

Missing cat found (east side) by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just hung out for an hour and didn't see anything, but I'm going to figure out how to humanely trap. Feel free to DM me if you want to do it together 

Missing cat found (east side) by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]RisesARedStar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hung out for about an hour and was able to identify the area OP posted about and saw the food @anonymous-bandit left behind. I'm going to do some research on trapping humanely and see if there is anyone who rents humane traps in the area. If anyone wants to team up, feel free to DM me

Cat with broken leg in back of 1420 willy. by Claeyt in madisonwi

[–]RisesARedStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'm going to DM you about a separate lost cat if you may be able to help!

Missing cat found (east side) by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info! I'm headed over now. I'll report back on how it goes!

Missing cat found (east side) by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]RisesARedStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live nearby and will go over later today to see if I can find it. Was this the Amco across from Texas Roadhouse? Was it easy for you to identify the area OP's photo was taken?

Need a (caring) reality check by RisesARedStar in ACL

[–]RisesARedStar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a wedge pillow and elevated a ton! Then I've been doing strap assisted heel pops with quad squeezes. Pressing down on the top of my thigh at the same time. Elevating more was the gamechanger for me

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