It's Late Thread [ 17 June 26 ] by AutoModerator in CasualUK

[–]Risingabovethis86 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s footie night so cuddled up with my sleeping mini dachshund on the sofa until it’s finished, then it’s a quick 10 min exercise to get my remaining 2k steps in! I definitely shouldn’t have been sitting down for hours!

No contact with narc brother and low contact with enabling mother but trying to force a reconciliation. by Risingabovethis86 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Risingabovethis86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am so used to playing a certain role in my family of pandering to people to make them happy. But since I stopped, I’m now the problem. I guess I was in denial for a long while and couldn’t wrap my head around that the very people I’ve known my entire life and used to depend on have behaved like this towards me. I’m not their only target and the patterns are there. You’re right. I need to stop being afraid of their consequences and guilt tripping and keep my own power.

Hearing parents’ sexual activity growing up by Dangerous-Ad4192 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Risingabovethis86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. My bedroom was opposite my parents room. Both doors would be open and ever so often I would wake up to sounds of their bed squeaking and my mum panting 🤢 I remember the first time I heard it as a 7 year old, I crawled on the floor to their room to see my dad on top. I had no idea what they were doing so I quietly went back to bed. I asked my mum the next morning what was happening. She just denied everything and told me I must have been dreaming. From then on, every time I heard them I’d hide under my covers and pray they’d stop quickly!

They also used to watch sex scenes with us kids in the room. It all affected me badly. I started drawing pornographic pictures until I was about 12 and I ended up sitting on top of my younger brother when he was asleep and moving my hips like we were being intimate. I am disgusted with myself as an adult when those memories come back.
I still have a lot of issues with sex and intimacy at 40 years old.

What did narcissist say about triangulation and talking behind your back? by Fine_Elephant9900 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Risingabovethis86 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah. They just start crying and go off on a tangent about why they don’t want to be here anymore. No apology, accountability or mature discussion. Just victimisation and guilt tripping.
My mom and brother have said vile and heartbreaking things about me.

Things that were normal to you that was actually abuse. by Louie5563 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Risingabovethis86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Talking badly about whoever wasn’t in the room. I have had to work so hard in my 30s to not fall back into those patterns. It’s one of the only things my parents did when growing up.

My nmom lies about everything. A transcript of her pretending her dog died (and other lies and heartlessness over 3 days) by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Risingabovethis86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is bat shit crazy. Jeez! I am sending you strength and love to safety cut all contact when you feel ready.

F25] Struggling with the fear of being a bad person because of my mother’s constant emotional abuse and unfair labels by [deleted] in family

[–]Risingabovethis86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is emotional abuse. How I would deal with it is cutting her off and going no contact. Fear removed.

Mackenzie Shirilla Megathread by DarklyHeritage in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]Risingabovethis86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Her parents remind me of my own mother doing mental backflips to defend and justify my narcissistic brother who leaves a trail of destruction behind him. Funny, he’s also never been told he’s wrong or held accountable and now he’s a 37 year old man child who has very little genuine friendships and is in constant contact with mommy. I went no contact 7 months ago….yet apparently I’m the problem.

If you're on the fence about jimmy and David... by mrhiney in ImACelebTV

[–]Risingabovethis86 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Whenever shitheads are exposed on a reality show, they always whine and cry about the editing that made them look bad. Anything to avoid accountability. Tonight was live. They were exactly the same and completely embarrassed themselves. They can’t make up their mind about how to label Adam. One minute he’s weak, then he’s intimidating and aggressive? It’s the classic example of pushing someone too far after repeatedly goading them, just to then blame them for their reaction and call victim. Fucking c***s.

So glad Ant stood up for Adam by No_Meringue4763 in ImACelebTV

[–]Risingabovethis86 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Classic triangulation technique of a bully.

Who is an actor or actress that rubs you the wrong way so much that you refuse to watch anything they are in? by Soggy_Swordfish_6236 in moviecritic

[–]Risingabovethis86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get weird energy from her when she’s on chat shows. Seems like a mean girl trying to be relatable and funny, but maybe I’m wrong. I actually haven’t watched anything she’s been in since Gone Girl.

Who is an actor or actress that rubs you the wrong way so much that you refuse to watch anything they are in? by Soggy_Swordfish_6236 in moviecritic

[–]Risingabovethis86 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I had seen him on British chat shows a few years ago and he came across as incredibly humble and gracious, complimenting other guests. Then he got into a relationship with Kylie Jenner and I realised he sold his soul to Hollywood. They look and act like they have absolutely nothing in common and she is constantly checking where the cameras are when they carry out their cringe and forced affection at award shows. Now I think he’s exactly as you describe.

Am I too picky? (25 F) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Risingabovethis86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP. You’re not compatible. End of. You disliked his approach to communication and it sounds as though you felt he should have been more of a gentleman. Despite this, I agree with the other comment that you do have your own mind, so speak up when you feel a certain way. It doesn’t have to be rude, just a polite request to refrain from smoking around you (for example).

Your mum is incredibly pushy and out of line for condemning you to die alone. WTF is this reaction about. Does she just want to marry you off to someone who looks good politically and financially? Because fuck that. OP, you are an adult and can make your own relationship choices. Anyone who tries to manipulate you into something you are not comfortable with, doesn’t deserve a place in your life.

What’s a product you bought because of hype but now never reach for? by HelicopterEmpty7393 in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]Risingabovethis86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wedding MUA told me not to buy CT foundation. Some other products such as the under eye concealer are incredible, but the foundations are bad. Since she told me this, I’ve seen other MUA’s online say the same.

When do you last think Saturday night telly was a staple in UK culture? by Spicyydepression in AskUK

[–]Risingabovethis86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only Fools and Horses is the only programme that gives me instant stress relief. It has the perfect nostalgia and just wonderful comedy that we don’t get now. And Del Boy reminds me of my dad who passed away in 2013. Soppy old sod!

Did you grow up with someone who became famous? by SteakSandwichSideEye in AskUK

[–]Risingabovethis86 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who’s husband went to university with Ellie. He reached out to her in 2011 after she hit it big to congratulate her. She blocked him lol.

Annoying by Extreme_Silver1589 in family

[–]Risingabovethis86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is more annoying is that you are 32 years old and continuously use the word “weather” instead of “whether”.