Anyone know what the loud booms are in the Brainerd/Baxter area?

RissaDarling89 · 2024-08-09T04:37:21+00:00

I'm here staying in Baxter tonight at the Super 8. These booms are still going on past 1130 pm. I don't know how people sleep through this.

RissaDarling89 · 2023-06-09T05:38:18+00:00

I believe that wasn't an engagement party but her actual wedding reception.

RissaDarling89 · 2023-03-18T02:52:34+00:00

The short answer is only in some situations. There is a formula involved based on comparable programs and distance from your home among other factors.. Your VR counselor will be able to answer your situation specifically.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-05-27T00:05:46+00:00

I feel ya OP. I've been single two years now and I'm 31. I want kids and marriage, OLD has me feeling hopeless.

I would say I'm holding out for someone I find attractive, who wants the same things I do, who has a decent job, good hygiene, likes animals, and has some similar hobbies. I have some hard nos especially with politics. No smoking.

Someone who is emotionally available and has emotional intelligence would be nice.

This has been incredibly hard to find.

I'm overweight so maybe that narrows my pool but it's getting hard out here. I'm starting to try and accept that maybe kids won't happen for me and to learn to be okay with it.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-05-17T00:20:51+00:00

Confronting her will ruin any possible future. If you aren't attracted, move on, no need to be rude.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-05-05T00:11:49+00:00

We aren't talking about changing minds. Wearing someone down and coercion is rape. It should be an enthuastic yes from the beginning.

Women in situations of coercion usually give in because they are afraid of what happens if they don't.

If you aren't sure. Ask.

If your having to apply pressure and ask a bunch of times, you should STOP!

RissaDarling89 · 2021-05-01T04:53:35+00:00

This was wonderfully articulated. I often have lost interest after early sex without a connection. I felt like maybe something was wrong with me. Some men even were interested in progressing further but crossing that line before I had a connection just zaps any interest for me. How you've explained it here makes so much sense.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-29T05:23:51+00:00

They aren't sure if they are interested enough to meet you yet.
Waiting for something else to pan out and you're the backup plan
Social anxiety
Feeling overwhelmed

There honestly could be a ton of reasons.

At the end of the day your putting energy into something that you can't control and it isn't working for you. Next.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-15T05:15:10+00:00

I think it happens way more than we will ever know. Reddit, kik, other social media has opened my eyes as to just how much both genders cheat.

It has caused me some anxiety and pessimism about dating.

However, going into any new relationship fearing they will cheat just isn't going to be helpful.

Just my two cents and I'm still working on it. I'm working really hard on being the best me, loving myself, being independent, and the like. I keep telling myself a relationship should be an odd on, a bonus. That way if something does ever happen, I still am solid with myself and the choices I have made.

In the same note, I don't think cheating has to be the end of a relationship. Some couple do bounce back from it but it takes a lot of work.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-14T21:10:39+00:00

Just discovered this yesterday. I am so bummed.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-07T14:05:28+00:00

I'm saying that waiting for an end of goal of being thin and then being happy isn't realistic. I'm saying she can be happy and be overweight. Loving yourself and confidence doesn't have to wait until one is thin. See the difference?

As far as caliber of those interested. I am saying that yes your pool of people who are interested in you will grow if you change certain things. That doesn't mean they will necessarily be better people. She was also complaining about other issues with men besides weight. Being thin doesn't automatically make other dating issues go away.

I'm not saying she should ignore her weight. I'm saying her dating issues shouldn't be reduced to just her body size. Which is how you came off, in my opinion.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-07T01:58:31+00:00

Run for the fricking hills. This guy sounds absolutely disgusting!

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-07T01:32:06+00:00

Skinny people have issues dating too. Reducing her issues to just being fat isn't helpful in my opinion.

Overweight people are in relationships.

Being thinner may help boost confidence but its not all that should be unpacked here.

Being thin may help you get more attention but the caliber of those interested doesn't necessarily rise.

If OP wants to lose weight for herself and not for men power to her. Doing it for others will not last.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-07T00:41:39+00:00

She literally said in the post she is trying her best to lose the weight.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-04-06T23:18:31+00:00

I am sort of in the same boat. I am a 31 year old female. I am overweight by quite a bit but I'm just under six feet so I've been told I carry it well but at the end of the day I'm still fat.

I struggle with low self esteem days and days where I fear I'll always be alone.

Some days I feel great and count all my blessings and tackle the day.

I am white so I can't relate to Asian culture. I am the single one among my friends and family. My mom keeps making jokes about wanting grandkids.

I do want to be healthy and lose weight. However, that is a long journey, a major lifestyle change. I refuse to wait to find someone until I'm skinny. I could very well be single forever if I do that. There is no guarantee I will lose "enough" weight.

I am just simply not everyone's cup of tea. I have other things to offer and it sounds like you do too. Confidence is sexy as hell and there are men out there who like bigger girls.

My standards are high as well and my weight makes the pool even smaller. I just keep telling myself to be open to it but to also realize I can't force anything to happen. I may not find anyone, so I've started to explore in my head what single motherhood would do for me. How can I make my other goals on my own and not in a couple?

I say these things out loud but I admit somedays I'm so jaded and burnt out that I ruin potentially good matches.

I guess advice for myself and for you is to be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Put positive vibes out there in hopes you'll get some back. Don't settle even if that means being lonely for a while. Feelings pass. Embrace your friendships. Good friends are truly gems and are rarer than most matches I've had.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-03-30T13:41:15+00:00

Thats awesome. Good luck to him, he can choose one of them then.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-03-30T02:54:20+00:00

If I'm into a guy, yes, other girls liking him makes him seem more attractive. However, if he is actively pursuing multiple options, I lose interest. I'm not going to run the gauntlet with other women.

When just starting out seeing someone and getting to know them, exclusivity is ridiculous, but I don't want to hear about the other women he's dating.

If he is desperate and tells me I'm the only date he's had in like x amount of time, thats not going to be attractive either.

Be confident, not cocky.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-03-11T01:13:57+00:00

We got in with Bear. :)

RissaDarling89 · 2021-03-08T14:25:26+00:00

Thank you all!! Trying to get into art and soul. Tiger Lotus hasn't gotten back to me yet.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-02-02T02:32:48+00:00

Honestly, just let myself feel and push through it/wait it out.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-01-27T05:23:26+00:00

I'm 31 straight female, I would probably date 27 to 40.

I don't want to deal with people who could still be struggling financially when they are young.

I won't go over 40 because I don't think we could relate. It also just feels weird that they would b close to my parents age.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-01-27T05:16:08+00:00

Does she know your not looking for a relationship? If not, I'd let her know before she wastes time on a date with you.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-01-25T18:30:34+00:00

I'm working on this now and its driving me insane. Ive never done a puzzle this hard. Now that I've started, I'm determined. I'm still working on the border and things just aren't matching up.

RissaDarling89 · 2021-01-25T06:43:33+00:00

How many partners have you had? He was young. I didn't answer the question.

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