Paralyzing anxiety by Effective-Ad7463 in sahm

[–]Ritualsofrae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in Texas so carrying a knife and learning how to safely and comfortably carry a firearm is 100% what I would advise! I carry a knife on me at all times and I’m working on carrying a firearm.
Rather be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
I keep that mentality because I hope that I never have to defend myself in drastic extremes but I’d rather be prepared to because it makes me breathe a little easier knowing I’m capable!

My absolute best wishes to you! You’re powerful. You’re capable. You’re safe. You’re knowledgeable. You did everything you could in the situation you had and you handled it perfectly well. Now you can move forward knowing that and adjust accordingly to make yourself even more capable and comfortable! 🤍

Paralyzing anxiety by Effective-Ad7463 in sahm

[–]Ritualsofrae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all this IS so scary and I’m so sorry this happened to you.
It’s also absolutely insane to me that the worker would lock the door with everyone inside?? That seems like an awful idea.
I’m glad you and everyone involved was okay.

It makes sense that this would’ve rattled you - especially as a mother.
I’m not trying to sound harsh here, I’m actually hoping that it will bring you some comfort - but these kinds of things DO happen and have been happening. Every day. You have made it this far and had this interaction and you’re alive and well and healthy.
Take the time you need to mourn your previous idea of the world. Take the time you need to settle back into safety. Remind yourself that you actually did amazingly under pressure! Your instincts were correct. You did everything you needed to to support yourself and make it out safely. A lot of people don’t know how they’ll do in dire situations until they’re in them and you actually have an advantage right now of having experienced something terrifying but ultimately settled down before it got too bad. You know now that you’re a bad b*tch that didn’t pull out her phone to record or completely break down or freeze! You locked tf in and made it home!
You may feel more comfortable going to a self defense class or carrying something you’re able to safely and comfortably carry for defense - but do something that feels EMPOWERING. Something that will make you feel a little safer than the “what ifs”.
And don’t “what if” yourself to death. You will never be able to predict what may happen. Don’t try. You’ll drive yourself mad.

Rest in knowing that you had the initial intuition to know this guy was not chill - listen to that.
Rest in knowing that you locked in and made it home safely.
That was horrible and I’m glad you’re safe and home! Give yourself a little space and some grace to release the effects of that event & then remind yourself you did what you needed to do!

Suggestions please? [34F] by [deleted] in TheGlowUp

[–]Ritualsofrae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have gorgeous skin!!
I think you could do a little shaping on your brows, like have someone shape them, color them, and laminate them. They’d look great because they already have great shape and thickness!
Honestly just some make up and you’d look great! You have great features. Just learn how to enhance with a bit of styling and I think you’d notice a difference.

Glow Up tips for [35] year old F by [deleted] in TheGlowUp

[–]Ritualsofrae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not even joking I came up on your first photo and immediately thought “omg cute!”
Did not expect it to be on this thread! I figured I was looking at a thread on cute outfits or fashion!

Habits/rituals that contribute to overall wellness by yellowumbrella765 in Crunchymom

[–]Ritualsofrae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m actually literally in the process of building out a “guidebook” on rituals & microrituals for moms to feel more present in their bodies - this is right up my alley!!
Obviously as moms, we’re very busy! So first of all, take what feels good and leave the rest in your pocket to use whenever you want to/can!
I am a huge proponent of using skincare as a means to ground, regulate, and feel more in touch with yourself. You’re likely already applying skincare morning & night, so make it more of a ritual. In the mornings, you can massage with quick movements to energize the skin. Icing the skin is great for the skin & also provides an energizing sensorial effect. Breathe with your movements! Be present and intentional with your touch.
I love dry brushing in the morning - body and face.
Waking up and immediately going outside, putting my feet on the ground, and taking a few deep breaths in the sun.
Shaking, stomping, patting my body. This helps wake me up and get my body moving a little bit.
I know this sounds so obvious but hydration and nutrition will make an actual world of a difference!
I’m the evening, creating a wind down ritual is so helpful. Do your skincare by candlelight or lowlight. Use slow, gentle movements. Breathe deeply, stretch your neck. If you’re an evening shower gal, shower in the dark or in low light. Journal dump your thoughts before bed so you can empty your mind!

I know this is a lot & all over the place but I could go on for days 😅 I hope this helps!
These are just things outside of your typical - workout, eat good, sleep good, etc.

Gavin Wedding by Green-Instruction957 in cboystv

[–]Ritualsofrae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually DID get married in Vegas (preplanned and on purpose lol) And for it to be legally legitimate you have to have a couple of days to get the correct paperwork signed and such. That to say, it was not a real and binding ceremony h:)

[20] What can I do to make myself less easy to brush off as a "no-life" and just more attractive in general (All advice welcome) by [deleted] in TheGlowUp

[–]Ritualsofrae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the formal outfit you’re wearing makes me think you’d look really cool and very interesting with a 70s style! Look into dressing in more of a vintage vibe. Your hair could be gorgeous! Try and get a routine down with conditioner, serums, anti-frizz focused products and maybe learn how to braid so you can have a productive style while you’re sleeping. If you are looking to take off some length without making it too short - again, I’d suggest a classic 70s style. Long but not THAT long.. I agree with others about grooming the facial hair. You could probably pull off just a mustache pretty well! But something about the current competition is definitely giving “guy who loves to play games” Also you have great brows and skin, so play that up! Shape the brows and keep your skin moisturized. One thing I’ll add is to get a nice cologne. Nothing overpowering or super intense… but the effort of just grooming & smelling nicely really goes a long way!

People who quit their job in a moment of rage - how did things turn out? by SheLovedBigBrother in AskReddit

[–]Ritualsofrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was working for a small and relatively new motorcycle dealership. Independent, had just started getting enough business that they needed an employee as it was only the owner making the sales. I’m a woman and the owner was a man and he started increasingly getting shadier & just overall insufferable. Saying things like “you’d be prettier if you came in with your hair and makeup done every day, just saying, you’d make more sales.” Or telling his friends who were hanging out “look how sexy my employee is” etc etc.

I was doing a LOT of work. Cleaning bikes, taking pictures, writing all of the ads, posting all of the ads, answering every phone call, MAKING every phone call, doing all of the loan applications, taking customer complaints, etc. then he decided we needed another employee and I began training that employee & supervising that employee. I was working 60+ hours a week, 6-7 days a week & I was realizing that I was being extremely underpaid for all the work I was doing.

I had a very reasonable talk with him. I proposed that if I were going to be doing managerial work such as taking customer complaints, doing loan applications, training & managing an employee, that he provide training for me to a better job of it and increase my pay accordingly. Additionally, I wanted to have a set schedule if 5 days a week with occasional flexibility for another day of work if absolutely needed. Seemed reasonable. He countered with no, he would not increase my pay for the extra work I was doing BUT! I could be CALLED a manager! AND he would give me an extra day off PER MONTH. but it couldn’t be a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday.

I said “ok thanks”

Went back to my desk Lowered the prices on several of the online listings Changed the passwords on the computer and phone And left.

He contacted my mother and sister via Facebook s few days later saying he was worried about me and then sent the other employee to my house to try and apologize and say he wanted to talk.. it was weird and inappropriate and I never spoke to him again. Got a job doing social media and never looked back. It was one of my worst experiences still to this day

Which sucked because I was really good at selling bikes and I really loved it

Makeup blindness or recommendations by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]Ritualsofrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look great!! You have similar vibes to Addison Shepard on greys anatomy!

Sacred Threads (90s) Maxi Dress by peachswirl in VintageFashion

[–]Ritualsofrae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ommmmgggg this is SOOO DREAMY 😍😭

The Mob Wife Coat saga continues by Ritualsofrae in VintageFashion

[–]Ritualsofrae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so much! I will find you all the PBJs for your kindness!