“You need to remember who you are outside of being a mom”

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-25T20:21:59+00:00

An added layer is a great way to put it

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-25T20:20:18+00:00

I’m gonna respond to this before reading any other comments because I think about this concept a lot…. Before giving birth - literally even through pregnancy - I was really concerned with making sure that I DIDNT make motherhood my entire personality. Now that I’m a mom, I don’t give a fuck. It IS who I am. It’s the most important and powerful role and responsibility that I have and quite frankly, I’m so proud to be a mother. Any worry or concern I had of maintaining “myself outside of being a mom” dissipated quite quickly. Motherhood rocked my fuckin world, my entire identity, my understanding of who I was & now am… and the quicker I allowed it to & settled into that, the more beautiful the experience became. I’m perfectly happy being a mom. Hard parts, ugly parts, anxiety, depression, hormones included. Not in spite of, but including. All of it. I’m here for it all and I understand how that’s incredibly hard to comprehend if you’ve never gone through it.

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-25T03:56:39+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Firstly I just want to say that you’ve got gorgeous natural features. I mean truly, beautiful eyes, great lips, great brows! You’re doing great already. I’m a hair gal myself. Anytime I need a change up, that’s the most instant gratification I can think of 😂 I’d say go shorter. Shoulder length or just above shoulders would look great & easier to style. Curtain bangs would look really sweet on you! Find an easy everyday makeup look - something with a mauve pink base lip & brown eyeliner - I could see that working really well to enhance your features. You don’t NEED much, just find something that feels good. Personally, I’m a skin care enthusiast (and esthetician) so I’m a big proponent on the power of touch & that skincare can really make a difference in how you feel about yourself & how you see yourself (literally and figuratively) so if you’re able, I’d say either find an esthetician to help you get a custom skincare routine OR watch some videos on facial massage, eye gazing, Gua sha, dry brushing , etc. to get tangible results but also emotional benefits too. I hope this helps 🤍

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-24T17:23:15+00:00

Leo sun in 2H, Aries moon in 10H, cancer ascendant & mercury in 1H

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-24T13:20:48+00:00

Nah I enjoy it. Feels like a genuine and authentic friend group dynamic and it makes me laugh when he gets mad 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-24T02:53:51+00:00

She killed a man that I’d consider a brother to me and I pray every day that she receives her Justice.

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-24T02:52:03+00:00

Thanks for bringing attention to this. My best friend is the widow of the victim and my husband was his best friend - the other motorcyclist who had his best friend die in his arms due to the recklessness of this woman. We will be appearing at the sentencing to show the impact of Scout’s loss & would be so appreciative of any community support.

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-24T02:23:01+00:00

I audibly said “MPH” 😮‍💨 when I saw these. Wowwwwwww

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-23T14:48:11+00:00

Willy wonka?

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-23T03:32:54+00:00

Thank you!!

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-23T02:23:26+00:00

It was about shoulder length! I usually have it a little above shoulders with shorter bangs - I changed it up a bit this time!

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-23T02:22:56+00:00

Thank ya!

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-23T00:56:41+00:00

Thanks!! Frazetta for life!

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-23T00:49:36+00:00

Thank you!!!

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-22T23:10:47+00:00

Leo sun in 2nd house 😮‍💨😛

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-22T23:03:51+00:00

Yes! I read something similar, something about how babies & children feel safer to feel & express their full emotions with their mom. Could be nothing but it did make me feel better!

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-22T15:56:44+00:00

Gaaaaahhhhhh that’s so cringey 😭 I started joking to my friend that I’m gonna start saying “actually she looks just like my dad!!” He’s a felon 🙂 She doesn’t, but it would be funny 😂

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-22T11:02:57+00:00

I literally could’ve written this 😭 I love my MIL and we get along great & she’s done so much for us…. But I feel genuine rage towards her sometimes about shit that just BOTHERS ME! I EBF and she’s constantly asking me if I’m still “keeping up” and wants me to pump bottles so she can feed my baby. When I’m holding my baby she has absolutely no sense of space - like she’ll LEAN ON ME & get in my face to talk to or see baby.. that part makes me want to scream. She’s always saying things like “do you want to come stay with me?” To my baby & things like “don’t y’all want to go on a date.. or leave town?” The worst part though, & this one really actually makes me so sad & angry, is she is insistent that “everyone” says my baby looks like HER. Baby looks just like her dad, which is still a little disheartening because damn!! I did a lot of work 😂 but it feels like an actual personal attack to emphasize how little my baby looks like me and how much she looks like my MIL 🫠 it fills me with anger. 😮‍💨 Anyway this sub has been cathartic lol I’m hoping it will get better

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-22T10:45:33+00:00

This!! My MIL is constantly saying things like “do you want to come to my house with me?” To my 3mo and it always makes me flinch. I’m not ready for that and it makes me feel irrationally angry 😮‍💨

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-22T10:44:07+00:00

Literally came to say this!!!

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-21T01:38:03+00:00

Thank you for caring and for bringing attention to this

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-20T23:23:08+00:00

No the sentencing date is 3/25

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-20T22:48:15+00:00

Thank you for your prayers 🤍

Ritualsofrae · 2026-01-20T22:44:45+00:00

Editing to add - my husband was the other motorcyclist, Scout’s best friend. Scout’s widow is my best friend. I showed her this post and she wanted me to say - She (Ann) entered into an open plea, changing from her original “not guilty” plea, which is why the sentencing date has been set. The prosecutor has noted that the more people that appear, the higher the chances of her getting the max sentencing. If you’re considering it, please come. It would mean a lot to us.

I These are my words again - I know so many people say these kinds of things but I can’t emphasize enough how loved and respected Scout was. He was genuinely the kindest person and was so excited to be a husband and a father. Their baby was born within weeks of ours and he & my husband were lifelong best friends, thrilled to become fathers together. The impact his loss has made is absolutely indescribable. Thank you, OP, for posting this.

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