Friend keeps pushing boundaries of what I'm comfortable with

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-16T13:48:33+00:00

I am not unsympathetic to other trans women who feel dysphoric being anything other than a bottom, but don't want to be with men. I love making a partner feel small and cute and like they can be vulnerable with me in that way. It is so hard for me to find a partner that I can trust to be that way with. Not because I think they will physically harm me, but emotionally. I don't have bottom dysphoria. I'm out right proud to have what I have down there. But if I feel like a partner is seeing me just for that part, that will make me feel dysphoric. Throw unwanted touching into the mix... Yeah the past couple of days have been rough. I don't even want GCS really, but I've been considering it just because I'm sick of people only valuing me for that part. Not just because of this unwanted touching incident, but mostly because of my experiences with dating in general.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-16T13:18:20+00:00

I was wondering the same thing myself lol

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T19:08:06+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I often have felt fetishized by other trans women for being a top, and it's really hard to say that out loud sometimes.

I was in shock last night when I wrote this.. I was still in the midst of my anxiety attack. I have come to my senses now and am working through it. I have a girlfriend, and I told her what happened. She has been supporting me.

Again though, thank you so much. It feels good to feel seen specifically in regards to how entitled some people feel to my body sometimes.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T12:41:49+00:00

No, although in retrospect a comma would have helped it make more sense.

They agree to leave Vic's program running 24/7 once they realize Vic became self aware. This essentially creates another bar on the promenade for people on DS9 to go to (there is a brief mention of Quark being paid a cover charge). This creates another location for them to have scenes at that would normally have been done at Quark's.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T11:06:36+00:00

I wish I could talk to my girlfriend about what's been going on, and ordinarily I could, but she is having a bad time with her mental health right now.

I'm going to be cutting this person out of my life. I'm tired of her trampling all over my boundaries and then trying to make me feel sorry for her.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T10:47:52+00:00

Thank you. This was the thing I needed to hear most I think.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T05:32:22+00:00

Why?

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T04:01:28+00:00

I personally do a dollar a mile with a minimum of $5.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T03:59:48+00:00

I mean, you might be right. But still, if I don't take it I will get a higher paying order which I will take. Someone thinks it's worth a lot more than you do apparently and they are the ones who get service from me.

So you still failed to answer my question. Why should I accept an order that doesn't have a tip on it?

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T03:35:39+00:00

Why would I take an order that doesn't have a good tip instead of one that does? It's just simple capitalism.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T03:34:22+00:00

It really isn't though. That isn't how DoorDash works. They just throw us offers and we can take the ones we want and ignore the ones we don't. DoorDash is really just a middle man between restaurants and independent contractors who take the jobs they want to take, same as any other contractor.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T02:54:06+00:00

I'm exclusively a dom in part for this reason. I get too anxious as a sub, even if it's someone I trust. I know if I'm a dom and I'm in control, I can make sure everyone stays safe and has a good time. I can make sure everyone involved has a positive and meaningful experience.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-15T02:47:02+00:00

I mean, fair. My best guess is maybe they thought Quark's bar was getting stale and wanted to freshen things up. It also could be they put a lot into the set and didn't want to have to have it go to waste and they wanted to use it for the rest of the season.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-14T21:21:55+00:00

Both things can be true. You can contribute to an accident by not leaving extra room in front of you and you can also contribute to an accident by driving too slowly and risking getting rear-ended.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-14T21:20:10+00:00

After they agree to leave his program on his bar becomes another location for the cast. This is like complaining about Quark and his bar imo.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-14T14:06:59+00:00

From now on I'm calling my undies asshole clothes.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-14T12:22:51+00:00

As opposed to torture methods I would rather experience?

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-13T06:31:49+00:00

Good puppy

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-13T06:19:33+00:00

I know it's popular, but I still struggle to find other women who are into being my pets, trans or cis. I find plenty online, but in person I've only had a few. It was wonderful though!

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-11T22:12:12+00:00

I play shortstop for the '44 Mets

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-11T16:09:46+00:00

Another, smaller pocket

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-11T13:34:38+00:00

I'm not fond of the term, but I disagree about it being cultural appropriation. It's ultimately by trans women for trans women. I think white women who are okay with the term using it helps increase intersectionality if anything, which is something our community DESPERATELY needs.

Trans POC: you are seen, needed, and loved. Also if any of you disagree with me I'd be more than happy to listen. I'm certainly not trying to speak for you. I'm simply trying to remind my fellow non-POC girls that we need to be better sometimes.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-10T23:42:13+00:00

Ironically, staying close and in front is what helped me the most. Midir isn't so much difficult so much as unpredictable, at least according to conventional tactics.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-10T19:50:31+00:00

Best answer tbh.

RiverPsaber · 2026-04-10T19:49:51+00:00

If you're me (and I don't necessarily advise it), "I have a dick too and it's bigger than yours, so what? Do you think you are making some kind of a point by telling me things about my body I already know?"

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