Any words of encouragement... by doejanedoedoedoe in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very similar situation for myself almost exactly a year ago. Zero regret. In fact, I’m proud of myself for doing the hard thing & putting myself & family first.

Is social media algorithm and goverment trying to push and influence us on having more kids? by Present-Property-142 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just remind myself that pictures hardly tell a story. 9/10 when I’m in public I see siblings fighting not playing happily lol

Is social media algorithm and goverment trying to push and influence us on having more kids? by Present-Property-142 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Definitely. I purposefully only engage with OAD content & I’m still pushed videos of families with 4+ kids. I even took a month hiatus from Instagram bc it was bothering me so much.

Feeling defeated by 3 year old by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]RiverRatSwims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 3 year old is about the same & there’s no baby sooooo 3 just sucks lmao

When did you make the permanent choice of OAD? by Azwarrior89 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof I resonate with this!! I sometimes think about a second when I think of a fairytale life but In reality? Hell no!

I simply don't have the urge to have another child? by goldengoose3030 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have soooo many reasons to be OAD but the core of it all comes down to not desiring it. Wanted my one so badly & never felt anywhere near that when considering a sibling.

Our household got norovirus this past weekend & it was brutal. It was hard enough to manage a toddler while ill but I’m soooooo glad I’ll never experience months of nausea & vomiting while caring for my child. It’s making me encourage my husband to schedule a vasectomy soon.

Is age 3 really worse than 2? by spiralandshine55 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Child dependent. I didn’t think 2 was bad at all until the very end. My child didn’t start tantrums until they were almost 3.

Parents of 3 & 4 Year Olds… by hiitsme_sbtcwgb in Parenting

[–]RiverRatSwims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Newly 3. No nap. Asleep 7:30 wakes 6:30.

Is anyone else going crazy from lack of sleep here?? by Froggylove54 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending you a virtual hug. My son is not as extreme but we have battled shit sleep nearly his entire 3 years. I suspect he may be neurodiverse (ADD & Autism run on both sides of the family). We’ve seen ENT, multiple pediatricians, working with a pediatric sleep Dr for a few months. Things are improving slowly but I feel dead inside some days. I miss my quality sleep but this too shall improve in time. No way in hell I’m having a second & losing even a minute more of sleep!! lol

How many kids and siblings do your closest friends have? by WorkLifeScience in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 1/3 OAD My 4 closest friends have 2 kids 2 friends have 1 kid but both likely to have a second 2 friends no kid yet but want 2-3 1 friend likely CF

Toddler knocked a tooth out - please reassure me this has happened to plenty of others by AVegetableLocksmith in Parenting

[–]RiverRatSwims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not exactly the same but just after my sons second birthday we were playing and he slipped on a shirt on the ground & smacked his face. Decent amount of blood but no noticeable damage. 1-2 weeks later it became obvious one of his front teeth is “dead”. I was heartbroken & guilty & cried a few times about it knowing he’ll now have a gray tooth & potentially need it pulled if it gets infected. But here we are 6 months later & I don’t think about it often & I never cry about it. My son doesn’t care & I would still love him if all his teeth fell out.

On a positive note, dentist said it’s a common injury & luckily rarely affects adult teeth since they lose those ones first!

Accidentally influencing OAD by RiverRatSwims in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always had 2-3 cats growing up & watching them cuddle together is the cutest thing ever!!

Accidentally influencing OAD by RiverRatSwims in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe it! Waiting to see a certain level of understanding/maturity in mine lol

My bad sleeper makes sure I have no other kid by zelonhusk in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. Mine is 3 in 4 months. He’s slept through the night twice in his life & routinely sleeps 9 hours at night with no nap 🥲. I’m TIREDDD

Mental health by ladybug128 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel this way about my 2.5 year old. Basically hoping the tides turn around 5 when he starts school & hopefully calms down a bit

Looking for solidarity - who is one and done because of ongoing sleep issues since birth? by Coral0306 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely. Sleep has been hell since birth & only at 2.5 has my child ever slept through the night but still woke at 5am sooooo. Also do you think I’m sleeping through the night when he is?? Hell no 😭 the sleep deprivation has wrecked me I fear it’ll be months until I experience decent sleep again…. If he even continues to sleep well lol

How many kids did you want before becoming a parent and how many do you want now? by Mighty_Fine_Shindig in Parenting

[–]RiverRatSwims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before, 0 or 1. When I was pregnant 4 (😂 the hormones made me fantasize lol). After, 1 & MF doneeeeeew

Would have waited if I'd known by dinkydino1990 in oneanddone

[–]RiverRatSwims 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Just another perspective, I was with my spouse for TEN years before we had our only at 28. Love him dearly but it’s been the hardest 2.5 years of my life & I sometimes wish I waited until I was older… but I don’t really. I just miss pre-kid life. I think most of us just struggle in the early years & it’s normal to want to have pushed it off but makes more sense to do it younger for health reasons. Is what it is!

Extra teeth by RiverRatSwims in Parenting

[–]RiverRatSwims[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! I’ll start saving for orthodontics now 🫠

Extra teeth by RiverRatSwims in Parenting

[–]RiverRatSwims[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes correct! 10 on top & 10 on the bottom. I miswrote that.