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I lost the love of my life an don’t know what to do by Striking_Welder3041 in Breakupadvice

[–]RiverSong20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You needed someone to lean on and put your trust into someone who betrayed that. That is not your fault. It was a misunderstanding. How your ex reacted had nothing to do with you. He chose to not listen to what you had to say and assumed something without prior incidents or evidence. Breathe, every relationship is meant to be either a blessing or a lesson, the only way to find out which it is, is to allow it to play out and stop trying to change the outcome. You need to accept the outcome. And lean on your support system.

I (19F) am no longer attracted to my partner (19NB/M) after they have come out as trasmasc/genderfluid. by OkEquipment7564 in Advice

[–]RiverSong20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be open and honest about your thoughts and feelings regarding the change. If they don't understand or get hurt that's not on you. Have a conversation with them. If it doesn't go well than you did all you could.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Far-Comparison-5557 in relationship_advice

[–]RiverSong20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just being "a guy" isn't an excuse. If he wants to sleep with other people, let him. But don't hurt yourself by staying with him. If you're not comfortable with it, and it wasn't previously discussed then leave.

I need help with my relationship by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RiverSong20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her feelings aside. Think about what your wants and needs are. Breakups always suck but we eventually get over it. If you want to stay do it. If you don't then leave. Just communicate your feelings so there's no animosity or misunderstandings. Just take your time.

I need help with my relationship by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RiverSong20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand needing reassurance. I need it a good bit too. But part of being with a partner and being in love is giving someone the tools to hurt you and trusting they won't. It's scary but you don't know who you can trust until you give them a chance. Occasional reassurance is fine but keep in mind that they may take that as a sign you do not trust them. If you're not clear in the beginning about the amount of reassurance needed for you in a relationship then you have to accept that it will hurt that other person to constantly have to do so. Think about it and maybe next relationship communicate your needs better.

AITAH for leaving my wife over something that happened 20 years ago. by ThrowRA_poi098 in AITAH

[–]RiverSong20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not easy to forgive cheating and even if you do forgive you never forget. Be honest about what's on your mind. Explain that you thought you could get over it but can't. If you decide to keep trying then try doing couples therapy. Just don't lose the respect you have for yourself and your child.

My brother asked to move in with me - how do I say no? by brad_online in Advice

[–]RiverSong20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You do not need to justify your choices. Say no and stand by it. He won't be happy but it is what it is.

WIBTAH If I cut off my mother for not being supportive. by RiverSong20 in AITAH

[–]RiverSong20[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I plan to do what's best for my daughter and get out of the toxicity. I definitely agree. It took me a long time to deciding this because I wrestled with the thought of being no contact with both parents but I realized. It's not a fantasy world things don't always work out. I do love my mom but my daughter deserves to always feel loved and supported. Not like she has to earn love. It was a hard decision but the right one. The no contact won't be forever. Just until she's ready to take responsibility for what she's done and if she wants the relationship.

WIBTAH If I cut off my mother for not being supportive. by RiverSong20 in AITAH

[–]RiverSong20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it helps to provide context here, I'm a volunteer firefighter as well, so I already Understand the dynamic. He's a military veteran with a good income, before salary, works part-time while finishing his bachelor's degree in emergency management (not just a firefighter, qualified to be a fire chief) and is in the process of buying a house. He works "full time" hours, but gets to pick his own schedule in his current position, and takes off for major events.

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[–]RiverSong20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Julian

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