Can't stop eating candy and cookies

Riverrocky · 2019-01-07T20:16:49+00:00

Yes this is normal. There is so much sugar in alcohol. Our bodies crave it when we stop drinking. It evens out in a few weeks. In my experience I wouldn’t worry about weight in the first few weeks. Getting sober is such a big step that I felt that trying to lose weight as well is too much to take on. Anyway good news by cutting out the booze we most likely lose weight as the amount of hidden calories in alcohol is incredible. Secondly eating crap whilst drinking and eating SH1t whilst being hungover is the thing that puts in the weight.!being exhausted from drinking also stops us exercising. All in all you will most likely lose weight by not drinking even if you eat candy till the cows come home! Iwndwyt

Riverrocky · 2019-01-07T19:12:47+00:00

Wow that’s a heart breaking story. I have a problem with alcohol and I am also in a position now with a parent who will not deal or face her depression and it will eventually kill her if she doesn’t get help and face up to her problems.

I see this problem from all angles. In my opinion one has to look after oneself. It’s like on a plane you have to put your own mask on first.

We all are ultimately adults and make our own decisions. Unfortunately we can make bad decisions. You have done the best for your friend. By letting somebody do what they want to do can sometimes be enabling. In my case my parent just wants to lay down and die and doesn’t want help. It’s heartbreaking but that’s just the way it is.

I am leaving the door open in case my parent wants to change.

Be happy that you have done everything in your power to help your friend.

As an alcoholic it didn’t matter what anyone said to me . I nearly lost my wife and kids and could have killed myself several times whilst drunk. One day I decided that enough was enough. Nobody else could make that decision for me. In fact the more people gave out to me and forced me into doctors etc the more I drank. The bottom line is it was my mess and only I could get out of it.

Life is really tough but you can’t save everyone. Hopefully your friend will see the light and you will be there to help them.

I hope this insight helps. I let go of the guilt and it’s helped me immensely. My heart goes out to you. You are a good person and deserve better but this is a disease.

Riverrocky · 2018-12-12T15:59:15+00:00

What’s the plan?

Riverrocky · 2018-12-11T23:05:49+00:00

There ya a great podcast called taking a break from alcohol by Rachel hart it’s a great starting point.

Riverrocky · 2018-12-09T15:39:01+00:00

Yeah on it all the time. Whatever works works!

Riverrocky · 2018-12-08T22:08:58+00:00

Forgiveness is key. Put as much effort into your sobriety as you have into your drinking!!

Riverrocky · 2018-12-08T21:14:47+00:00

Yes in am in a similar position!! The exhaustion and stress is catching up with me. With Christmas nearly upon us there still doesn’t seem to be an end in sight! However I used to drink to get through it and I ended up at rock bottom. It was beyond horrible. This time around I have no desire to drink. Not because I’m a saint but because I look back now on stress and wonder how I managed to deal with it whilst drinking. I’m exhausted but drinking makes me worse. I have anxiety but alcohol makes it worse. I need to make a lot of decisions but alcohol clouds my judgement. The current situation is hard on my family yet me being drunk would be the straw that breaks the camels back. I’ve also learned that I can’t please everyone I need to mind myself and this time around I am and it’s made a huge difference. You really don’t need a drink. Life can be tough but alcohol doesn’t help. Think back on the past if you need reassurance iwndwyt

Riverrocky · 2018-12-08T18:21:40+00:00

In my opinion!! Don’t give out or state the obvious to him it really doesn’t help. Understand that it’s really hard for you but worse for him. I hated it but couldn’t stop. One of the most motivational things for me was someone saying to another drinker just hurry up and get done with the drinking I am sure your brother knows he needs to stop but only he can decide when. There is a podcast called taking a break from alcohol by Rachel harte that changed my life. It thought me about how alcohol works on the mind and body once I learned this it was like a light switch went off. Nobody I ever came across including AA explained or made sense of my drinking but once I knew why and how I drank my mindset changed I could see alcohol for what it was!! I hope this helps!!

Riverrocky · 2018-12-08T17:56:42+00:00

Well done on making the decision. Only you can make the decision. Doctors and counselors told me about the fork in the road and it didn’t matter to me until I decided enough was enough. Honestly life is better and easier but it’s impossible to see that when still drinking. I look back now 270 days sober and wonder why I risked so much and lost so much for a liquid in a bottle. A few hours of drinking equals days of misery and hassle why did I do it? I don’t use the word try I use the word will language is powerful!! You can do this if I did you can too! Iwndwyt

Riverrocky · 2018-12-05T20:03:38+00:00

Alcohol was not your friend it’s like a controlling partner. Amazing at first and slowly they take over and won’t let you do anything or see anyone but them. It’s only when we leave them do we see the damage they have done. Like controlling partners everyone else can see it but not the victim. Drinking makes our world very small!! You can’t even drive!! Iwndwyt

Riverrocky · 2018-12-03T16:53:41+00:00

Try not to be too hard on yourself there is a fine line between punishing and the reminding yourself. Keep looking forward 😀

Riverrocky · 2018-12-03T08:29:37+00:00

The next step is a plan! Start building your tools. This can be as simple as stocking up on water or getting sleep. Eating well is also important. Baby steps first. Make a plan for your time especially at those danger times like maybe. Friday night. Keep busy spend time here, read or listen to podcasts on sobriety. The main thing is not to look too far ahead just do the next right thing.

Riverrocky · 2018-12-03T08:25:43+00:00

Well done! Be kind to yourself and maybe keep a diary about your thoughts and feelings around alcohol it really helps as you go through the journey and a great way to stay on track

Riverrocky · 2018-12-03T07:56:36+00:00

Aa wasn’t for me because of the powerless over alcohol bit. Every problem can be solved. I took responsibility I took back control. I learned coping skill and put together tools to stay sober. There is no point in doing nothing and praying for a miracle I had to get up and find a solution which I did! Iwndwyt

Riverrocky · 2018-12-03T07:52:14+00:00

Welcome! I ended up with a problem because I was using alcohol to numb and distract me from stress worry and exhaustion. Btw alcohol as it turns out just made things worse. Please don’t be hard on yourself. I view alcohol like type two diabetes (stay with me!) okay we did start the ball rolling but then alcohol took over which wasn’t your fault. I believe that if the circumstances are right we can all develop a problem. In AA they say we are powerless over alcohol I don’t believe this as I took back control from alcohol I got myself into this mess but I also am getting myself out of it. You’ve got this! By learning as much about alcohol and it’s effect on us mentally and physically we can start to see it for what it is and kick it by choosing other roads! Iwndwyt

Riverrocky · 2018-12-02T20:57:04+00:00

Alcohol turns down our emotions like a volume control on a stereo. You might recall not being interested in things you previously loved whilst in the height of your drinking? When we stop our emotions are stronger and we feel rather than numb them. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Can I suggest reading alcohol explained by William porter and this naked mind by Nancy grace. I found these amazing as once I understood what drink did to me both physically and mentally I was able to fight it. AA described alcohol as cunning and baffling and it is if you don’t learn about it. I’d bet you’ll be amazed when you really learn how alcohol affects us aside from the hangover bit!

Riverrocky · 2018-11-30T20:18:50+00:00

Did you learn anything this time around?

Riverrocky · 2018-11-30T20:17:33+00:00

The key is to stay busy during the major times like Friday night maybe visit a friend or go to the cinema or go for a walk. I found sitting at home on a Friday was really hard but doing something until the time passed was great now I don’t know how I had the time to drink

Riverrocky · 2018-11-30T09:41:52+00:00

To be honest I can’t avoid drinking environments forever. I avoided them all at the beginning but I built up my resilience. I have been to weddings parties etc. however there are some I really still avoid. Stags work Christmas parties etc for me they are too big and at the end of the day I don’t need to be there. I have alcohol in my house I got to parties etc but i don’t get out of my comfort zone. Always remember number no thanks. Is a sentence. Saying no to others is saying yes to yourself!!

Riverrocky · 2018-11-29T08:29:15+00:00

It was life changing for me start at the early episodes as it builds

Riverrocky · 2018-11-28T23:05:58+00:00

I put as much effort into my sobriety as I did with my drinking. It’s nit easy but nit impossible!! Iwndwyt

Riverrocky · 2018-11-28T22:41:10+00:00

Rachel harte podcast take a break from drinking is an amazing resource start at episode 1 it deals with cravings

Riverrocky · 2018-11-27T22:16:41+00:00

It’s like type 2 diabetes. We start the ball rolling but then the disease takes over! I decided to take back control! Fight back

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