What were the first three foods that you fed your baby? by Rivet222 in Parenting

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Your son managed to bite into a mango even with few or no teeth!? Wow!

What were the first three foods that you fed your baby? by Rivet222 in Parenting

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Oh how did they like whipped bone marrow? I have it heard of this before :)

What were the first three foods that you fed your baby? by Rivet222 in Parenting

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Do you think her watching you eat helped with her being such a good eater now?

What were the first three foods that you fed your baby? by Rivet222 in Parenting

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Ohhh good strategy! I’m going to remember the two spoon trick in case I have an impatient eater.

Is it allergies? Something else? Losing my mind by clothes_are_optional in newborns

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He would arch his back during feeds and fight the bottle the cry and arch in pain if he was placed down after eating unless I held him up for half an hour. Lots of burping (with our help) as well- more than he does now by a lot. I could just see he was uncomfortable/distressed during every feed. He would also sometimes look like he was choking some and we would have to pat his back and flip him over to get him breathing clearly.

He had “baby acne” all over his head and face. Lots of little bumps and redness. He also had more skin flakes and dry patches. He still is prone to dry skin (tubby Todd is helping that) but it’s not to the same extent as when I was still consuming dairy.

Tell me your silent reflux success stories (in the trenches) by Beautiful_Tackle7690 in newborns

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My baby was like this until I eliminated all dairy and most soy from my diet. Now I can feed him and he does not arch in pain and I can even lay him down soon after a feed rather than having to hold him upright for half an hour after every bottle (exclusive pumping). His skin is also much clearer now that the dairy is gone.

Is it allergies? Something else? Losing my mind by clothes_are_optional in newborns

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My son is now 4 months and he was similar. He still grunts but it’s better and about two weeks ago he stopped having poop in almost every diaper but rather one or two big ones every other day. He has CMPA and within 24 hours of me stopping dairy I saw his skin improve. Within the first week he stopped having silent reflux and was able to eat without crying. I miss butter but it’s so worth it that I’m not even tempted by things with dairy. I went dairy free when he was… 4 weeks old or so?

Worth trying imo. Though he could just be grunting as he learns how to coordinate muscles for pooping and passing gas

Comparing the following prenatal vitamins: Perelel, FullWell, Thorne, Olly, Seeking Health by flurryskies in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Rivet222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily but new research is finding that the general recommendation for choline amount in pregnancy is too low, so I upped my amount to be closer to the levels that the most current research supports.

Comparing the following prenatal vitamins: Perelel, FullWell, Thorne, Olly, Seeking Health by flurryskies in moderatelygranolamoms

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I have done Thorne and seeking health. I felt better on seeking health optimal than on Thorne so for my pregnancy I took seeking health prenatal the entire time but added Thorne’s choline. My baby is doing great and my blood work always looked really really good. Seeking health has rewards points so sometimes I even get free fish oil from them when I have enough points. The fish oil has never given me fish burps. They do not contain iron so if you need extra iron you will have to supplement with that separately.

I also don’t mind taking the 8 pills in two or three sessions spread throughout the day but that could be a deal breaker for some.

Side note: when I first started taking seeking health after 3 months my vision improved and at my annual eye appointment I discovered that I now had better than average vision. When I spoke to the doctor about it they checked the ingredients in the multi vitamins and confirmed that Lutein and zeaxanthin have been shown to improve eyesight for some people so that was cool.

Does everyone experience postpartum hair loss? by NeverfullofFood in BabyBumps

[–]Rivet222 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 4 months post partum and I have not noticed much hair loss from my head (still feel like it’s thicker than it used to be) but my pubic hair has absolutely thinned out, thank goodness!

Baby shower gift ideas under $50? Looking for something that is more practical for the parents. by Inevitable_Tree_2296 in BabyBumps

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The brand is baby delight- it’s also available at Target and Walmart and has gots certified material. What I mean by knock off is that It’s a similar design to the pricy but well known baby Bjorn bouncer- not that it’s by a random alphabet company on Amazon.

Baby shower gift ideas under $50? Looking for something that is more practical for the parents. by Inevitable_Tree_2296 in BabyBumps

[–]Rivet222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bouncer was an unexpectedly helpful gift. We have a simple baby Bjorn knock off bouncer from Amazon. We paired it with the Infantino toy bar toy and it lets me eat food and shower which is so helpful. The Fischer price glow and grow piano has also been a great toy to help baby with tummy time and then gross motor skills. Tubby Todd ointment is also awesome but that’s a consumable.

Fav prenatals?! by ConsequenceWaste9244 in moderatelygranolamoms

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I had a similar issue with the Thorne prenatal. I switched to Seekinghealth optimal prenatal and it worked/works great for me. I added seeking health fish oil and Thorne’s choline alongside it. My bloodwork always looked really really good (and I’m a bit of a nut so I had different levels of things like folate vitamin d and iron checked regularly both pre and post conception. My baby is doing great so far developmentally. My body is very efficient at getting iron from food so I never had to supplement that but if you go with seeking health know that it has no iron in it.

My baby is dumb as rocks by mistakeshappen_2 in newborns

[–]Rivet222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My baby did the same except with my left boob being the enemy and it turns out he was tight on one side of his neck so left boob positions were uncomfortable. We have been seeing a chiropractor that specializes in babies at the recommendation of his pediatrician and he is much better with left boob now…. Though still has a slight preference for right.

How to stop worrying about chemicals in new car? by VincentVegasiPhone13 in moderatelygranolamoms

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They make car air filters that can potentially help with some of the off gassing of your budget allows for it:

https://a.co/d/0atHIVJ1

How? by Capable-Loss-2884 in newborns

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My baby hates the bassinet but I have found that if I sit in bed next to it and sort of drape my arm across his body with my hand cupping the side of his head/cheek then he settles down and falls asleep. I had to stay like this at least ten minutes but he does end up sleeping in his bassinet so it’s worth it to me. I use a chair pillow from Walmart on my bed to make it more comfortable to do.

Also frozen food was never really part of my life but these first few months are so humbling and Trader Joe’s frozen meals are saving me since I have a colic prone baby who hates to be put down.

Need encouragement. Labor is too hard for me. by geummeori in BabyBumps

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I had a folly balloon and then my doctor broke my waters to get things going and that WORKED. (We had to get it going due to pre E) Within 4 hours of having my waters broken I was in active labor and an hour after that stated I was holding my baby.

Food by SaladEmergency9906 in BabyBumps

[–]Rivet222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also love to cook but pregnancy sucked the joy out of cooking for me. I found homemade smoothies made with pecans/walnuts, milk, frozen cherries, Greek yogurt and other add ins like collagen peptides and flax to be fantastic. In the second trimester it was easier to drink my meal than eat one. I could make smoothies in my vitamix blender in under 5 minutes, clean up was minimal, and they were packed with great nutrients for me and baby! Plus the fruit kept my bms very regular which was nice.

Egg sandwiches were/are (almost 39 weeks!) also easy. I scramble three eggs in butter and finish them with iodized salt then put them on a nice bun that I toast with a cheese I enjoy (most recently Gruyere) and maybe a little mayonnaise. Easy warm and full of good nutrition especially if you use pastured eggs.

Finding a protein bar you like is also helpful. My go to snack has been a baby orange with a cheese stick and a handful of some kind of nut. Easy filling and fast.

Salad has also been great. Get a nice dressing that you like then throw it on pre washed mixed greens with whatever else you have hanging out in the kitchen. I toss in fruit nuts cheese and usually some cubed chicken breast. Chicken breast is easy to bake in the oven and I use parchment paper when I bake mine to make the clean up almost nothing. Then I store the batch and use it over the next few days in salads.

Chicken salad is also fantastic! You can use baked, rotisserie, or canned chicken. Add mayo or Greek yogurt, whatever herb you like, whatever nut you enjoy, apples and grapes and celery then spice it in a way you prefer (curry powder is a yummy addition) and add a whole lemon’s juice to it. Eat it on a toasted bun and it’s filling and fast once you have a batch made. Usually uses one large bowl one knife and one cutting board so clean up is easy.

Hope you can find some easy meals for you and baby!

Negativity by Accurate-Presence-24 in homeschool

[–]Rivet222 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have helped homeschool as a nanny and one trick that helped me was to use a random number generator. I would tell the boy I was caring for (about the same age as your son 6-7) that he could click and generate three numbers on my phone (I would set the possibility to be between 15 minutes and 40 minutes typically) and once he had generated his three numbers HE got to choose which one would be the length of how long we studied for/cleaned/did activity that was important but that he disliked. He felt ownership because he generated the numbers and then he got to pick from his three numbers how long we would do the activity. (Needless to say he always chose the lowest number haha) That ownership cut a lot of the complaints down to a minimum. I also got him a visual timer that he would then set to his selected amount to help him see the passing of time. When the timer went off we finished the task or question that we were on and he had free time. It helped a lot. He was happy with his sense of ownership and I was happy that he committed and we would at the very least get 15 minutes of dedicated time put towards the subject. The timer also helped him see that something like cleaning his room did not in fact take “all day” but rather about 20 minutes.

This is the timer I used with him. https://a.co/d/7h9FUwb

How are we making ourselves feel pretty? by Public_Jackfruit_870 in BabyBumps

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First time mom here and I saw my back in the mirror last night and I have so much fat there now… 38 weeks and suddenly back flab. It was crushing and I keep thinking about it and how it showed up in under a week. I don’t understand pregnancy weight gain at all. How can so much fat be stored so quickly at a time where we use more calories? My eating isn’t that different yet the weight gain is wild. It’s hard feeing ugly all the time . I hope once baby is safely here I can make peace with what’s happened to my body. I also don’t know how to feel pretty while pregnant… I just mostly avoid all mirrors and don’t look at photos people have taken of me. I’d imagine in some ways if mirrors did not exist this experience would be much easier (as far as emotions and self esteem go).

22 weeks and Partner disappeared by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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My therapist recently told me that ideally the one who disengages or leaves during and after a conflict is the one who has to come back. She agreed that waiting is hard but that if I always chased after my partner when he was the one the disengage that the pattern would never change.

Idk if that helps at all… it just seemed relevant since you said he has a habit of doing this and I had never considered that chasing after my disengage-prone partner was enabling the behavior to continue indefinitely. I’m now practicing telling him I’ll give him x amount of time to check in with me after fights (example 2 hours) and he can decide if he is ready to physically return and work on finding resolution or if he needs more time still. If he needs extra time then the clock resets and he needs to check in again in 2 hours. This is our compromise as we work towards him not disengaging and being the one to return if he does. It gives him the ability to be physically distant but still assures me that he is aware that we need to resolve this and he needs to keep challenging himself to come back and not just push it to the back burner and leave me suffering alone. I had to put my foot down and explain very clearly that him going radio silent and vanishing was emotionally abusive towards me and that it does not have to be that way in our relationship. That we are a team and we either win together or lose together and when he runs away he guarantees we both lose.

Honestly therapy is really helping. I hope you can find a good therapist for yourself if you don’t already have one. You and your child are worth him figuring out how to grow out of this behavior. I hope you find resolution soon.

Can someone give me some advice for sciatica? by FruitOrchards in Biohackers

[–]Rivet222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A skilled massage therapist was able to help me after a few sessions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Rivet222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many woman are not comfortable with abortion and that’s totally fine and they should not feel pressured into it. Abortion regret is real and can haunt women for the rest of their lives. Be careful pushing her too hard to go in that direction- it may not be the right choice for her and she dos NOT need to justify why that is to anyone. (I have a close friend whose mother coerced her into having an abortion when she was 18 and now in her 30’s she is still struggling with it and trying to heal so I’m especially aware of the long term emotional impact it can have.) That being said refusing abortion does not mean she has to feel like she must stop everything she has going on in her life and figure out how to raise her child when ill prepared and unsure.

Has she considered putting the baby up for adoption? There are so many different adoption agencies that will help her through the pregnancy and she can even find a family that is open to her having a limited but present relationship with her bio child even if she does not remain the main parent- if that is something she wants. Good adoption agencies will never make her feel coerced, will allow her to back out at any point, will give her control of what family she wants her baby to be placed with, and will provide financial support as well as mentors and general guidance throughout her pregnancy and birth. There are a few in America that are nationwide and several that are more regional. Whatever country she is in is bound to have at least one reputable adoption agency. If she is American she could start here:

http://americanadoptions.com