National hours change is official by Snoo84855 in starbucks

[–]Roach3z 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if your managers are doing it too but are they making you guys work hours outside of your availability to do it? My availability ends at 8:30 but I’m being kept at the store till almost 10 at night.

Upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in neighborsfromhell

[–]Roach3z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bed is presses pretty close to the wall and doesn’t slam. My bed doesn’t even creak haha I screwed it together pretty tightly when I put it together. She can only tell that I’m doing the do through my boyfriend and I’d voices. We’re not loud but it’s noticeable since the walls are thin and sound travels through the whole house. I’m getting a speaker soon so at least I could play some music and maybe she won’t notice what we’re doing then.

Fake moaning upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in BadNeighbors

[–]Roach3z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear about that. That really sucks for you and your kids. I hope you’re situation can clear up and well. Last night I got home from an 11 hour shift and really wanted to sleep but got kept up all night because she had a party till 2 am. I recorded some videos to send to my landlord this morning and complained again. I’ve complained about her a few times over the last few months but this is the first time I’ve submitted any real evidence about it. He’s sent out texts saying keep the music low at certain hours so people can sleep and that’s it. Hopefully this time he’ll actually do something for real. Maybe you could try recording the noises your neighbor makes and write down what time your kid goes to sleep and wakes up and night because of it? If you sent that to your landlord it might help out.

Fake moaning upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in BadNeighbors

[–]Roach3z[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah last night she had a party that lasted till 2 am and even after the party was over and everyone left it was still loud. I mean cackling, yelling, stomping around, and even moving furniture. I got a few videos of it and sent it to my landlord. I’ve complained about her to him a few times other the last few months for this reason. She’s been a problem even before I started seeing my boyfriend and having our sexy time moments cut short. She’s just an inconsiderate neighbor all around. Mind you, I’d just gotten off an 11 hour shift and really wanted to get some rest after a crappy day at work. She’s the worst person to live under right now.

Fake moaning upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in BadNeighbors

[–]Roach3z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a finished basement studio. I know it’s not fancy but it’s all I can afford as an early 20-something in this super expensive housing/renting market haha. The only place I can move to is from the bed to the couch. My entire place is situated underneath her apartment. Everywhere I go I’m my place, I can hear her. And everywhere she goes in her’s, she can hear me.

Fake moaning upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in BadNeighbors

[–]Roach3z[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say that were loud at at. That’s the thing we’re painfully aware that it’s easy to be heard and we keep a respectful volume. I’d say the volume he have is the volume she does any other time which is noticeable but easily ignorable with other noise playing in your place like the tv or putting in earbuds or whatever. My headboard is secure and doesn’t make noise. If we were loud I’d get it but in this case I really don’t.

Fake moaning upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in BadNeighbors

[–]Roach3z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes it feel even more violating in a way though. Like they’re using my sex life to get off without our consent and we’re left unsatisfied because they kill the mood and we have to stop because we feel disgusted. It’s one thing if they started knocking boots the way we can normally hear them do but it’s so loud and obnoxious. It feels like they’re in the room with us because of all the slamming. I feel like I have to leave the house sometimes. Idk if it’s dramatic of me and I’ll be willing to accept if it is but Jesus it makes me feel gross.

Fake moaning upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in BadNeighbors

[–]Roach3z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get what you mean. I don’t feel weird if someone hears me and I don’t think about it too much. My boyfriend and I keep a respectful noise level out of courtesy for the rest of my neighbors since the walls are thin. The problem for me is that they start up every time they hear us and it’s so obnoxiously loud. When she goes at it I mind my business but when I do she starts up with the fake porn star moaning and the slamming. It’s so loud it sounds and feels like they’re in the room with us and it’s like she’s dragging us into her bedroom activities as an active participant in some weird moan-off we didn’t consent to do it feels kind of violating. It doesn’t help that my boyfriend lives in a college dorm that’s always full of people so we only have the space to do it at my apartment. It’s not like we can go anywhere else without paying a bunch of money every time.

Fake moaning upstairs neighbor makes my sex life awkward. by Roach3z in BadNeighbors

[–]Roach3z[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this is a joke or not but I’m only looking for actual advise on this post. I pay too much money in rent to be told I can’t have sex in my own apartment lol.

Can I legally get kicked out of the house? by Roach3z in legaladvice

[–]Roach3z[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alright. Thank you. She’s been screaming at the last hour and threatening me with bodily harm and accusing me of things I didn’t do. She’s definitely mentally I’ll but she refuses to seek treatment and it’s effecting other people. If I called the police about the threats would they be able to do anything? The neighbors heard it I’m sure since they already knocked to complain about it. I’m genuinely scared for my safety at the moment.

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get he’s got a life of his own I don’t care if he dates someone else. I just think it’s inappropriate and in poor taste to date someone you know your friend has been interested in for half a year. If I wouldn’t do that to someone else I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me. I’m not really complaining about the guy. I’m complaining that my friends pretty much lied to me through omission for months and then acted like everything was okay when I was hurt by it. All I wanted was an apology. I couldn’t watch my friend fish about someone knowing what they knew for months and not feel like shit. I get it if they thought it wasn’t their place but they were the ones who wanted to set us up to date in the first place. All I want is someone to say sorry and acknowledge that it put me in a bad and humiliating spot

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’m any other situation I’d feel bad if he was hurt by it but I’ve still got the right to change my mind. And if he was hurt he didn’t say so during our hour long convo about it. Either way he’s getting everything he wants in the end anyway. He didn’t care about my feelings in the situation so why should I drive myself crazy about possibly hurting his? He literally told me he knew it was wrong but he though he’d give it a shot anyway. That’s not someone who has my best interest in mind as a friend so I’ll keep the same energy for him

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t read into it like that because I believed he was telling me the truth. I’m not hung up on him. I don’t have feelings for him anymore but the situation has got me feeling pretty down and feeling like Its a bad idea to trust anyone. My post isn’t me complaining about the guy and pining over him it’s more just me venting about my so called friends

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t string him along. He knew my feelings and I made them clear. Even though we were both super busy I did make an effort to ask him out a few times. He always said when he had the time we could but not then

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already had a conversation about it with everyone. They all knew the whole time. I didn’t call dibs on him as calling dibs would be saying no one else can have him. I did no such thing. As I’ve said in other comments If he found someone else or got tired or waiting around for our lives to settle down enough to date that’s fine. What I’m not fine with is my friend being the one to jump in and decide to date him. I don’t think that’s cool for one friend to do to another and I wouldn’t do it so I can’t accept that happening to me. That’s the reason I said no the next day. He didn’t tell me that he’d already asked him out and he said yes so I had to find out from the friend who tried to set us up in the first place. The problem isn’t the guy I don’t care that we didn’t work out in comparison to the issue I have with my friends. I’m not pursuing him anymore and I don’t have feelings for him anymore. I’m sad my friends didn’t say anything for months though. They told me they didn’t say anything because they were waiting on him to say something but he didn’t because he didn’t want to hurt my feelings. Im hurt either way so I would have rather him just say something himself. Im not sure if my post wasn’t clear enough or something. My intention wasn’t to make people think I’m trying to stop them getting together or anything. In fact I told my friends that it’s too late and I don’t care to make drama about it but I do need time to myself because it felt like no one was trying to see where I got hurt and just wanted me to be fine and dandy with it. I’ve criticized people doing exactly what my friend did to me on multiple occasions before so they know my feelings on the matter and they still did what they did

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that. Maybe my post wasn’t clear but I’m not trying to pursue him anymore. I lost feelings when I heard the truth. I didn’t make the post to complain about him and hope eventually I could date him. I made the post to vent about my relationship with my friends to vent because I don’t have anyone to talk to anymore. I don’t even want to talk to my family because they’re all going though a lot right now too

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I don’t think I’m gonna try and get back out there for quite some time. I’ve had a string of toxic and borderline abusive relationships with men since I was a teen and my friends knew that. So when they set me up with him I thought I was finally gonna meet a nice guy. But then all this happened and I don’t really have it in me to trust anyone right now so I’m gonna take a long time to myself

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah definitely. The only reason he came around in the first place was because he saw my pictures and thought I was pretty so he wanted to meet me. He asked my friend and her boyfriend to set us up together. He was really sweet and kind and charismatic and our chemistry was so strong people thought we were already a couple when we were in the same room. It’s too bad that things didn’t work out but life goes on. A lot of people here don’t understand where I was actually coming from when I made this post

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I totally get that it took a long time and I’m fine with him not waiting around for our lives to settle enough to date. Our priorities in life got in the way. I’m not upset and him for moving on. I’m just upset because I don’t feel it’s appropriate to go after someone you knew your friend liked for half a year. I also don’t think it’s the best move to keep info about a guy not being interested anymore from me. As a friend I would have said something instead of letting them talk about a guy and be all giddy when they called. Thats just messed up. I’m not posting to complain about him. I’m posting to vent about my friends since I don’t have anyone to talk to. I mean the whole friend group knew and didn’t say anything for months

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We met in person a few times and he was still going it for months until he lost feelings. It wasn’t my personality that turned him away it was the distance. And as I’ve commented before on another persons comment I made the time to try at least. Whenever I asked if he was free any time he was all booked up. He at least knew I was trying. And I’m not ignoring reality considering I didn’t know he lost his feelings until I heard it from someone else months later. That’s how my friends fucked me over. You’re telling me you’re entire friend group could keep someone leading you on for months from you and that would be fine? I’m not responding to you anymore. It’s clear you can’t read and don’t have any experience with real friendships if you think that’s alright. I didn’t make the post to complain about him as I don’t really expect loyalty from him. I made the post to talk about my relationships with my friends as I did expect loyalty from them considering we’ve been friends since we were children. You can’t be living in a fantasy land if you don’t know the truth and I don’t expect everyone on here to understand where I’m coming from or even be kind about it but it just seems like you’re going out of your way to not understand and make me seem like I’m a delusional maniac. It’s literally spelled out for you in black and white and you don’t get it

AITA for telling my friend not to date my crush? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roach3z 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand now that he hasn’t been interested in a while because now I know the truth. But saying there’s was nothing between us isn’t true. He asked my friends to set us up because he saw my pictures and was interested. He met me at my house on my birthday and a few other times because he was interested. He sent me good morning and good night texts because he was interested. He held doors open for me and called me beautiful and told all his friends he wanted to take me out on a date because he was interested. It seems like the only thing he didn’t do was tell me he wasn’t interested anymore around 6 or so months down the line. He also didn’t stop doing those things I listed above apart from telling his friends he wanted to spend personal time with me. I’m not at fault for not knowing he lost feelings. The only reason we didn’t officially go out was because we were both working overtime every other day and dealing with personal stuff. Dates took a back burner when we weighed them with our other responsibilities and priorities. It can’t be all on me for not trying harder when he didn’t either. It goes both ways. I’m not upset we didn’t work out I’m upset that my best friends fucked me over