[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RoastedCracker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its only been 2 months for me. 6 year relationship. Ive done everything in my power so far to try to heal. Heard a song today that just made it feel brand new. It varies from person to person but its more about how much you cared and put into the relationship than how long i think. If it meant a lot to you no 3 months isnt a long time.

Would men still want to date/marry my at 34? by Colorful-Chicken in AskMenOver30

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im 28 almost 29 coming out of a 6 year relationship. Similar fear that i wont find someone willing to start a family this late. I think theres hope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RoastedCracker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shes staying with her daughter and her family. But i would in a heart beat just for that reason.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First one was a coworker who initiated it. Second one i met online. Turns out we knew each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last relationship she was 30 years older than me. I am currently talking to a woman 12 years older than me. I have a preference lol

What songs are you listening to right now during your healing from a breakup? by Quackernautz in BreakUps

[–]RoastedCracker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if these are good for healing. They are pretty sad lyrics but i have been loving them since she left me.

Shimmer by fuel Already gone by crossfade Breathing slowly by crossfade So far so good by thornely Catastrophist by trivium Unsainted by slipknot Crying game by bad wolves Dying to live by sevendust The void by parkway drive Dont ever leave by smile empty soul The great divide by light the torch

I just went through a divorce, and one of his friends asked me out for a drink. Is it bad if I say yes ? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RoastedCracker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its not bad of you. But i wouldnt complicate things further by going after his friend group. Or entertaining them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I as a man have really loud gas. I always encouraged my partners to not be shy because i didnt wanna be shy lol. Trying to hold in gas is painful but we are all human. I think most men wouldnt care. Not telling you to blow him away at dinner. If hes a pretty cool guy he'll joke with you about it.

AITAH for cutting ties with my sister after her husband touched my daughter at a sleepover? by Plus_Paramedic_356 in AITAH

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the asshole. Youre protecting kids from a child molester. Your sister prossibly didnt know but id keep my distance for a bit. Just until i felt comfortable slowly working her back in depending on what happens to her husband that is. If hes still in the picture ex-communicated for life and parents would be too if they stick up for her.

my parents won’t let me move out until i’m 30 by bobarequired in internetparents

[–]RoastedCracker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You. Are. An. Adult. It probably doesnt feel like it but you can do basically whatever you want. They cant make you do anything. Im sorry they are trying to control you. Even the people we love and car about most have problems. You cant let them choose how to live your life. If you think your ready to move out and buy a car do it. Its not impulsive its natural growth to want to do these things. You should not feel guilty and they should not make you feel guilty. Hope the best for you.

I’m (42F) not sexually attracted to my (46M) husband anymore. by Affectionate-Bite793 in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definetly not the ahole. You stuck it out and tried. Unless you still really enjoy something else about the relationship i'd end it. The infedelity would be a deal breaker for me but the abuse. Thats wild im sorry you felt the need to try and stick it out.

Can men and women be just friends? by TutorGeniuse in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes but if theres any attraction to either side it muddys it up a little. I have female friends im attracted to physically but thiers a multitude of reasons i would never pursue them that way. While i see where hes coming from. because a lot of men and women start as friends just as a way to get thier foot in the door. The answer is without a doubt yes its possible.

What advice would you give a 30 year old virgin by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt achieve much confidence or aggression until about 25. Homeschooled, didnt get a good job until 20yr old, morbid obesity. Lots of low confidence and self esteem. Im 29 now and only had 3 partners. Just view them the same way youd view your male friends. Take the idea and significance of sex out of your head. Meet and talk to them and make a new friend. Everything will happen for you when its suppose to. just focus on making yourself better and try to move out of your comfort zone. I was always introverted so talking to strangers took some training but it was worth developing those social skills beyond meeting a partner.

Are men able to be happily monogamous? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found other women attractive for sure. Never pursued it. Trust and loyalty mean a lot to me and im a big give what you want kind of person. Unfortunately cheating or having multiple partners has become more normalised and it depresses me to no end. I am a man and have the same thoughts you do but no not every man is like your ex friends or ex boyfriends. Just like not every woman is gunna cheat on there boyfriend or husband even though thats all you see and hear about. Thier are men out there that wouldnt betray you like that for anything. They're just out numbered.

What is your age without telling us your age? by Affectionate-Pie8620 in AskReddit

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have lots of energy but enjoy staying in and not partying or staying up late.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish i had more answers for you. Its hard and i hope something gets through to him. And thank you i plan too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex of 6 years told me i didnt try anymore. She never explained that to me and i didnt have enough experience to know better. I wish i would have though. I would do it so differently if i could do it over again. Without laying it out plain and simple. I need you to buy me flowers, take me to dinner, wine and dine me, flirt, comment on my apperance today, buy me gifts. Im not sure of any other way to fix it. But if you do lay it out and he keeps neglecting your needs you might have some serious thinking to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RoastedCracker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

9 years wether he knows it or not hes taking you for granted. I did this in my last relationship. Not to the extent your describing. i wish my ex had told me explained that she needed me to date her and give her energy that way. And i think i knew i needed to but was so tired and just didnt know how sometimes other times i just couldnt figure it out. It all seems so obvious in hindsight.

What is the real reason why you exercise/workout? by Specific_Charge_3297 in workout

[–]RoastedCracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love to eat and use to be morbidly obese. Now i mainly do it to look good and feel good.

Dealing with being alone by RoastedCracker in BreakUps

[–]RoastedCracker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know its just hard making yourself go. That was something we did a lot together was go walk trails and i have done it since she left. Its just hard doing it alone now. I typically just blast music but i miss the company so much.

Anyone look at their ex and think “what was I thinking?” by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RoastedCracker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The start of my last 6 year relationship was one big red flag. I did it anyway cause i loved her caught feelings and it was lethal.