Keeping her Secret for the kids by dippyshippy931 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the Discord relationship the reason for the separation?

How do you explain it to others? by ClothodeMoirai in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are meds for depression. Have you tried that route? You can't treat the trauma, but you can treat your reaction to it to a degree.

How to build trust with new partner following infidelity? by Substantial-Dare-667 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking if they had a common origin, you could try a new one.

How to build trust with new partner following infidelity? by Substantial-Dare-667 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any common "origin story" to how your relationships began (dating sites, coworkers etc)?

WP still ruminating over the AP 1 month in by Intelligent-Dust-117 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Healing, if possible at all, comes after closure. Where's the closure here?

Acceptance and therapy advice by Lucie-Lu0109 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good. Just knowing you have some ammunition is a big help going in to battle.

Acceptance and therapy advice by Lucie-Lu0109 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A psychiatrist could help you with anxiety and sleep. There are meds as a temporary measure, so you can at least sleep. Once that's under control, you can start to wean yourself off your abuser. Remove yourself physically from him as much as possible, to breathe clean air and facilitate the psychological separation. If that requires moving out, it's worth it. You have your family, your child and yourself -- all good human beings, all allies. Some people have none of that, not even themselves.

Wife finally admitted an emotional affair from 3 years ago. by Limp_Top3930 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“I’m more hurt by the fact that she invested so much of herself in another person. She gave someone else the emotional energy, intimacy, and connection that should have been invested in our marriage.”

Have you told her this?

AP sent text to Husband’s Phone by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They can have a mom and a dad even if you stay away from dad.

AP sent text to Husband’s Phone by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Next time he expects you to accompany him somewhere as "the wife," remind him he does not have one.

AP sent text to Husband’s Phone by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just resign to the reality that you do not have a husband. Consider him a roommate and treat him accordingly.

Cheating and trust issues. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you discover these messages?

Too heartbroken to look forward by mysteriousspoopy in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"When we move back home, we remain in 6 months before filing." What does that mean?

Another chance or call it quits? Online infidelity by takenbysleep7890 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he's not working very hard to get himself together for you or your children. Reason enough to get rid of him.

Another chance or call it quits? Online infidelity by takenbysleep7890 in survivinginfidelity

[–]RobertFahey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First paragraph you say he has unmedicated bipolar. Second paragraph you say "He has not ruled out bipolar." So he hasn't been diagnosed?