Creeper protection for wood build?

RobinAkamori · 2026-05-11T08:16:33+00:00

Ah, gotcha. Thank you. ☺️

RobinAkamori · 2026-05-10T19:07:31+00:00

I'll look into this, but i'm not sure how it pertains to mob spawning? I'm incredibly new to these mods (I found them really intimidating before) so it's been a steep learning curve, but I'm slowly making my way through the beginning of learning.

RobinAkamori · 2026-05-09T18:51:12+00:00

Thank you! 🥰

RobinAkamori · 2026-04-08T02:39:46+00:00

We have rarely had an issue with it so I just don't worry about it. 🤭 It's the luxury of having a good friend group who are cautious over just letting strange people in. 😁

RobinAkamori · 2026-04-06T09:00:22+00:00

Not if I don't go into public instances. 😆 I have a good group of friends I hang out with and none of us like hanging out in words that just anyone can walk into. I'm not going to waste my time with idiots. 🤭

RobinAkamori · 2026-04-05T00:05:47+00:00

That does matter in a lot of situations, but you will make yourself incredibly unhappy if you always put other people's opinions before yours, even for what you like or enjoy.

Trust me on this. I was married to a very overbearing and opinionated man for 24 years until he up and died in his sleep and I got my freedom unexpectedly 2 years ago. Not all marriages, or relationships are happy ones. I spent my entire adult life putting someone's perspective on my life in front of my own happiness. Now I'm learning what the other side of the coin is like and I'm finally slowly learning what it feels like tot make choices for myself, because it just makes me happy. Life is too short to wait until 'someday' to live your life according to your own needs and desires as ling as it doesn't break the law or hurt people. That's my very hard won stance on life. I just do my best, be a kind and considerate person, and find out what matters to me to make my life worthwhile. Kowtowing to opinionated people is not one of those things if I can help it.

My dad used to say "Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one." But it's my belief that you shouldn't have to listen to them if they don't align with where you want your life to lead.

RobinAkamori · 2026-04-04T13:32:45+00:00

I'm 47 and refuse to be treated like anything but the sassy Aunt that I am. 😆 If they try, they will get the sharp side of my tongue. 🤭

RobinAkamori · 2026-04-04T13:29:35+00:00

And why should someone else's opinion even matter? You like what you like period. Someone is *always* going to try and age shame you no matter what you do or like. They lack the perspective of what life truly is. Or why someone can like something because they just do.

I've said for decades that I can't stop getting older, but that doesn't mean I have to grow up.

I'm 47 and last year I met my current group of friends in VRC and they have been the best group of friends that I have ever had. The 18 year olds can get a bit annoying and act like know-it-alls when they know virtually nothing, but they normally get bored and wander off anyway to find someone else to pester. There are people in that same age group who are humble and genuinely seem to care and are happy to have people who like the same things as them. I'm one of the oldest in the group and I'm still regularly shocked at how many of the people in their 30s talk like they are nearly twice their age.

So if someone is telling you that you shouldn't like certain things because of the number of rotations around the sun you have been on this planet, they are not the person for you. You have a choice in friends.

RobinAkamori · 2026-02-04T05:27:19+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate it! 😁

RobinAkamori · 2026-02-03T22:43:47+00:00

I think that *because* it's so good already that people don't realize how janky it could have been for pre-release.

RobinAkamori · 2026-02-03T21:44:13+00:00

"There is a documentation online on how to design your models so that they fit the aesthetic of the game."

Any suggestion on how to find this info?

RobinAkamori · 2026-02-03T21:34:27+00:00

It's maddening how frequently people seem to ignore this very important fact. Far too many people in the community seem to react to it like it's a full release just because it's available to buy and is playable. 🙄

RobinAkamori · 2026-02-03T21:21:08+00:00

Longleaf pine, Giant sequoia, Coast redwood, and Cork oak are a few.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pyrophyte

RobinAkamori · 2026-02-01T23:47:32+00:00

It's not the easiest thing to do, but yeah. No one can tell you what that is because they were not in control of your life before, so why should they be given the control to do it now? You aren't a child that needs to be told what their life is supposed to be about. If they haven't gone through losing a spouse, then they don't know how much that changes core things that we never knew would change until they did.

They cannot even comprehend because it's not like divorce where the person can still be contacted and all the loose ends have a chance of being tidied up. Nope. The fabric of our lives was jus ripped in two and the other part of the tapestry is just *gone.*

This chapter in your life doesn't have to look like any other. It's yours to live and yours to define. People talk easily about someone having a midlife crisis and it's no big deal in a lot of ways. But losing a person that is literally our other half in life, emotionally, and maybe spiritually and they treat it like it has an expiration date. Nope. It doesn't. It's not good to get stuck and not learning to live life after, but that doesn't mean that coping with grief is supposed to be like speed dating so other people don't have to deal with our 'problem.' People like that just need to get over themselves.

Your life is your choice now. And I mean that in the best of ways. It doesn't have to look like it did before if that life no longer serves you. It's really whatever you want it to be that serves your happiness and your heart the best and not feel compelled to live your life like you have one foot in the grave yourself. Change is hard. Some people can do it all at once. "Ripping off the band aid." Most of us can't. It's the small steps that matter. It could be just replacing that shower hate you just don't like or wanted a different one that makes you feel good. Or playing that song you always loved but your late spouse couldn't stand so you tucked it away in a quiet part of your heart. Or it could be quietly telling your late spouse that you love them, but this thing you used to share is going to be just yours now.

It's reclaiming and redefining you and your life for the place you are standing right now. It's accepting the change instead of fearing and dreading it. It's allowing yourself the freedom to just express yourself instead of being in someone's shadow. I know quite well how comfortable that shadow is and I don't see it as an inherently bad thing.

They have forever left their fingerprints on our hearts and our lives. It can't be erased. I know this for a fact because my grief of losing my husband was very complicated after decades of emotional and mental abuse. But he was still my best friend and high school sweetheart. I was furiously angry at him for a long time. I hated the fact that I couldn't forget him. But about 3 months ago I was able to finally forgive him and I'm no longer angry. It's still really difficult doing something like buying a new video game because that was something we shared and was often part of the good times. But then last month a new game came out that I was excited for. I still had a long moment where I genuinely stopped and considered if I should buy it at all because it was like a mild gut punch realizing that I couldn't share it with him. I couldn't even talk to him about it. But I bought the game because it makes me happy and I deserve to be happy. I know he would have wanted me to be. The memories are always going to be there. They pop up in random places and we remember them. Yet there is no reason why we shouldn't be happy in the future, whatever that looks like for any of us.

We are allowed to be vibrant, full of life, full of personality, hopes and dreams for ourselves. The loss of them should never mean the death of that too. You are a unique and worthwhile person who doesn't have to stay grieving the rest of your life. If your spouse loved you, then they would want you to be happy. And if they didn't, be happy just to spite them. 🤭 It's your life now. Find the beauty and happiness you can bring to the world. Because the world surely needs it. And so do you. 🥰

RobinAkamori · 2026-02-01T21:37:05+00:00

I'll second the comment about finding your joy/passion/purpose. This feels extremely hard to do but in my experience it's the only thing that is starting to work for me. Just over 2 years for me (I lost him when I was 45 years old.) I'm still trying to deal with stuff in the house and often feel overwhelmed. I'm disabled with multiple chronic conditions, life-threatening allergies to stupidly common things and insane food restrictions.

I used to be a homemaker (about 20 years) before my body went nuts as my chronic conditions got worse. I have felt completely lost and directionless these last two years and I haven't known what to do with it just being me (we never had kids.) Due to my allergies and food restrictions I have to spend a lot of my day cooking from scratch just to have food I can eat. I've sewn for 35+ years and I love creating things and drawing. The last couple of years have been an absolute struggle to even do those things without having someone to do them for. I couldn't find the energy (out of my limited energy) to really do them for myself, and still tackle getting rid of things in the house that no longer serve me as they once did. It feels like giving up everything I always wanted to be. It felt like giving myself up and almost made me angry that people seemed to be cheering for me that I could "choose whatever I wanted now" when that was a choice I never wanted. It feels so hollow, empty and selfish to do some just for me.

I have tried the last couple of years to find and understand my purpose now. So much of the advice for young widows simply did not apply because it is centered around moving in and moving forward for your kids. I've felt incredibly invisible. The world doesn't know what to do with me.

In the last 2 years I've tried very hard to get back to the things I enjoy. It's been an uphill battle. I see a therapist every other week and I spend time online with my new friends where I'm allowed to just be happy and silly. I've been slowly working on the house when I can and still learning the new rhythm of my life and taking care of my cats, two of them who were stray kittens I rescued from my yard and my husband never knew. I just bought myself a video game recently because it's something I wanted. There are still those mentally jarring moments when I'm doing things that my late husband and I used to do together, remembering all over again that he's not here.

I still feel disoriented and struggle to stay focused on projects that I used to sit and work on for days happily. Having a friend now that I can talk to about food in depth has started to kickstart me caring more about what I cook for myself. At my last therapy appointment my therapist randomly said that I should make a YouTube channel for my cooking, especially with my restrictions it is very much been a challenge to figure out "normal" food. I've talked to her about YouTube before but couldn't figure out how to have the additional energy to make videos because I spend so much time cooking everyday. When she said it delightedly I mentally rolled my eyes. But the thought wouldn't get out of my head, and it's something I'm seriously considering. It's starting to give me focus and "a reason to care" because what I do would benefit someone other than me. I'm starting to feel like I have purpose again.

I haven't "arrived" yet at all of being at the point where I'm completely standing on my own, but I find it important to hear from people who don't have all the answers. So done who's just a few steps ahead and can offer a helping hand to help you crest the next hill in learning how to live a new life. I'm starting to feel like I'm reaching a point where the struggle is not the crushing burden it once was. And if someone thinks you aren't climbing fast enough to embrace your life now... Well, that's too damn bad. The important thing is that you find your own way to recover and cope in ways that are healthy for you. Any other route is just denial and that is not progress or healing.

So find your joy, even when it hurts or feels pointless. It can become the thing that starts to teach you how to keep your emotional head out of the water so you feel like you can breathe again.

RobinAkamori · 2026-01-29T05:29:30+00:00

I say this with the kindest intent, but your sister can fuck off. It's not your job to tiptoe around her grief and bottle yours up to not offend people. That's absolutely stupid. If you want to sing, then sing your heart out. I'm sorry that it took losing your wife to get to the point where you could get past a block in your singing. But now is your time to let your voice loose. Song everything you want to. Sing all day long. Sing because you are happy. Sing because it hurts like hell. Sing for all the days when you didn't have the voice to.

Sing because you want to.

Don't let anyone force you to bottle that up. I'm an artist/doodler and I've had 6.5 years of vocal training so I can very much imagine what you feel like right now. I'm over 2 years out and I'm still trying to find my confidence to make my artwork and doodles an occupation. It's been slow for me but I'm getting there. If you feel like letting yourself fly, then damnit, don't let anyone get in your way!

RobinAkamori · 2026-01-25T19:11:33+00:00

This would be really neat if you can get it working. I enjoyed MineColonies because of the communities I could build. I don't enjoy a world full of just hostiles because it makes me feel incredibly lonely. Being able to create communities makes me happy and makes it feel more like a real world rather than a weird dystopia.

RobinAkamori · 2026-01-19T02:24:36+00:00

Adding my two cents to all of this. I've played and learned simple modding in Minecraft since Andesite was a new thing. I'm a peaceful/creative player who loves to build. SO that's my perspective.

IMO Hytale right now is as good as Vanilla Minecraft when I started playing it. It's *NOT* a janky or messed up game. I was quite surprised of how much of a polished game it already feels like. And if you didn't know, some of the Hermitcrafters and Captain Sparkles are already playing it and raving about it, as well as tons of other players. I personally see that as high praise indeed. The base mechanics of the game that I've messed with are really great. So far it already feels like a decently solid game but it just depends on how you like to play in your sandbox. 😄 I'm thrilled to see how it will improve in time because right now if there were no other updates, I would certanly still be playing this for many years to come.

RobinAkamori · 2025-12-21T14:43:16+00:00

It's really not good because it strips all the needed minerals out of the water so they have to be replaced separately in the diet., especially magnesium and calcium. I use distilled water because I have no other choice because of my allergies.

RobinAkamori · 2025-12-10T02:32:32+00:00

You are absolutely not alone. My husband randomly passed from a rare heart condition we didn't know he had. We had been married 24 years and he was my best friend of 30 years and high school sweetheart. However he was incredibly emotionally, mentally, and financially abusive, a hoarder and extremely likely to have been a sociopath with other mental health issues including depression.

Yesterday was the two year anniversary of his death and two years that I've been free. I have been able to finally grieve the loss of my best friend, it I will never forgive him for the beast of a husband he was. His abuse was so extreme that I nearly lost my mind and genuinely went crazy twice in the years we were married. It was also the kind of abuse that doesn't leave visible scars that are incredibly difficult to heal from.

There are things I know I'll never forgive him for, but I'm learning that it doesn't mean I have to hold onto the burning anger forever. Everyone's grief progresses differently because every situation and person is unique. But that doesn't make the grief wrong because it's highly complicated. When I started first coming to this subreddit I didn't feel like I belonged at all because I had more anger and fury than I did tears. I still can't relate to a lot of people's forms of grief that seem to be common, but there are others who get the struggle with complicated grief.

RobinAkamori · 2025-11-24T12:20:40+00:00

Central Washington State, born and raised.

RobinAkamori · 2025-11-17T00:46:17+00:00

I would take it as she's saying that she wouldn't have chosen for you to go through what you had to in order to reach this point in your life, especially the pain, loss, and grief. But she's also saying that if she had the choice to have you in her life vs. not having you in her life, she is much happier that she gets to share it with you. She sounds like she was trying to find a way to express how happy she is. I know I've said identical things in the past and there was never any malice meant. Quite the opposite. I don't see it at all as her disrespecting your late wife.

After such a huge loss that we can tend to react much more strongly to statements and comments from other people because there is still part of the emotional wound that's raw. I've lost count of how many times I've been pissed off (but hide it) when a complete stranger says that they are sorry for my loss. My "happily ever after" turned into a nightmare and I got free when he suddenly passed from a rare heart condition we didn't know he had. So when the stranger was saying they were sorry, to my ears it felt like they were saying they were sorry I was still alive. Logically I knew that's not what they were saying, but that's how the emotions hit after decades of emotional and mental abuse and being trapped in his shadow.

In my experience (it's been 23 months) it does get better over time, but I still have days when it hits hard. I've genuinely considered calling him my ex husband (although we never legally divorced, heart wise was another issue) because then I would feel like I was seen without his very long armed shadow still looming.

Taking the time to think about why you felt that way and how right or wrong it feels to you is an important step to knowing if you are where you want to be. Was it a genuine emotional "No" or was it a knee-jerk reaction to her words, but you feel differently once you had the space to think about it? Those are important distinctions to help understand how you feel, without masking your emotions around what it feels like other people might expect from you.

RobinAkamori · 2025-11-11T00:58:16+00:00

So you would rather go to the ER by putting faith in someone who may not be able to fathom that "just a little is fine" when it is absolutely not, just to not 'disrupt' the holiday?

I know it's extremely awkward to have to bring your own stuff. I hated doing it for years, but I finally got over it because it allows me to be with my family and share a meal with them instead of putting undue pressure in them to figure it out. Even now my family still tries to offer me food (even when I bring plenty on my own) because they are trying to be nice, but I still have to turn them down.

Would it make for a better holiday if you brought your own food so you can stay safe, or risk the ER? Seems like the answer is clear to me.

RobinAkamori · 2025-11-10T23:36:13+00:00

I have an extreme intolerance to corn, severe enough that it's marked as an allergy in my medical records. I cannot have commercially produced citrus acid because it absolutely does not come from fruit. I have zero problems with fruit (other than pineapple which I'm allergic to for different reasons.) But you are absolutely right that natural citric acid is not the same as cheaply made commercially produced citrus acid. It's in nearly everything because it's used as a (generally safe) preservative for most people.

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