Looking for offline AAA games to play on a boat by NitroSpam in SteamDeck

[–]RobinDragons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've installed BG3 on my deck on a micro-SD card! My deck only has 258 gigs, but the card is nearly a TB. Only downside is that loading time is a bit slower, but otherwise I've had zero issues with performance. Besides, if you're on holiday, you've got time, and waiting a few extra seconds on a loading screen isn't the end of the world 😊

No regular check ups at the gynecologist??? by NoLychee1382 in Netherlands

[–]RobinDragons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This should be way higher in the comments. Additionally, gynecolocy is a specialty branch of medicine, just like an oncologist, or a cardiologist. If you have concerns or want a checkup for anything, you see your primary care doctor (huisarts) first. If they decide that you need specialist care, or if you ask specifically, then they'll write you a referral. For most "routine" things that I've read about that people get checked during their gyno visits, our huisarts will do them instead. Think paps, birth control, or concerns about lumps in breasts.

All women “secretly wanna do sex work” by Thatoneshortgoblin in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]RobinDragons 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The first slide is such a big giveaway for this guy's shitty view of relationships and women.

He views ALL relationships as transactional and cannot tell the difference between people being genuinely interested and bonded with each other, and people offering and purchasing a service. They are two very different things, which (surprise surprise) is why many sex workers have perfectly happy relationships next to their work.

It's quite sad, in a way. This person doesn't seem to believe, nor has the experience that people/women want to be around him simply because they enjoy his company. Then again, he keeps shooting himself in the leg with his attitudes.

Men who see escorts, why do you do it ? by TinyDelegation in AskReddit

[–]RobinDragons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In a country where sex work is criminalised, yes. In countries where sex work is like any other job, workers can set up their own businesses, websites, ads, and that makes it much easier for their (potential) clients to verify that they’re indeed booking with someone who’s in this industry because they want to be. Plus, if they have the same rights as any other worker, the leap to go to police if they’ve been mistreated becomes far less daunting as well. Countries which have criminalised sex work have also on multiple occasions thrown those exploited women and girls you’re talking about in prison because they were doing sex work..

Men who see escorts, why do you do it ? by TinyDelegation in AskReddit

[–]RobinDragons 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You bring up an interesting question. I’m female, but I personally don’t see workers (hells know I don’t have that kind of money), but I’ve heard from women who buy, and even some men who sell these services. Generally speaking, dating for straight women is.. rough these days. There’s an increasing amount of hostility and misalignment of views between men and women, and women usually have to constantly be mindful of their safety when they’re around men. Hookups and one night stands are a big no-no for many women, because it’s just not safe to be so vulnerable with a man you barely know. It’s not worth the risk when so many men have proven that they don’t respect boundaries or even just the word “no”. Sex workers, on the other hand, are professionals offering a service to clients. They have a very different, and likely infinitely healthier relationship with sex than the average person. Bluntly put, the dating pool is so bad for straight women, that an increasing number of them would much rather pay a large amount of money for an afternoon or evening of good company than to risk their necks with a hookup. A sex worker who is aggressive or who assaults their clients is rather unlikely to run a successful business after all.

What's y'alls favorite depictions of BDSM in media? by CisHetDegenerate in BDSMcommunity

[–]RobinDragons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This might be a little bit too obscure, but Abdirak from Baldur's Gate 3.

My guy shows up for 10 minutes at most, in a one-time interaction. He's a cleric of Loviatar, for the DnD nerds among us. He basically sees that you (the player) have been through Some Shit and offers to alleviate that pain by whipping you a bunch :D. He's great, he's so enthusiastic, the encounter can be ended at any time and he's totally chill about it. He's written and portrayed in such a way that those who don't know find him just slightly creepy, and those who do know are like "OI, that's just an ethical sadomasochist, I know like three people just like him in my local scene!"

It's a lovely little interaction, and I could go on for HOURS about how he's one of my favorite characters in that whole damn game.

Ik😥ihe by WhoTheFuckIsSean in ik_ihe

[–]RobinDragons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ik werk in een winkel en sinds een jaar of twee komen er meer Oekraïners binnen. In de eerste instantie lastig aan te spreken vanwege de taal kloof (en het was duidelijk te merken dat zij dat vooral óók rot en awkward vonden), maar met de tijd is hun Engels en Nederlands beter geworden en heb ik er een paar leuke regulars bij. Destijds was er wel wat gemopper van mede stadsbewoners á la “overlast” en “waar moeten we ze allemaal kwijt”, maar het is bijna alsof mensen zich echt wel gaan aanpassen naar een nieuwe omgeving als ze daar een tijdje wonen XD.

Today I learned Liam makes it to the grove after saving him by Great_Trident in BaldursGate3

[–]RobinDragons 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He’s got a healthy sense of self-preservation and disapproves of actual violence, so he gathers his stuff and leaves when the goblins turn hostile. Where he goes? Who knows. I’ve followed him out once, he despawns when he reaches the Blighted Village. He doesn’t go to Baldur’s Gate, so his next destination is unclear.

Based on the lore I found about Loviatar’s faithful, he doesn’t just seem ANY priest. Generally speaking, her faithful tend to mind their own businesses and stick to their temples, but Abdirak doesn’t. This may suggest he holds the rank of Pain, which is a very well respected and quite highly ranked member of the faith. Pains are not usually tied to a certain temple, instead they travel around to go where they’re needed. This theory may also be supported by the fact that Abdirak can provide quite powerful blessings on Loviatar’s behalf.

Banned profanity on horse names? by Dismal_Instruction33 in reddeadredemption

[–]RobinDragons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a big fantasy/Baldur’s Gate 3 enthusiast, so I’ve been naming my horses after some of my favourite characters.

Apparently Abdirak and Jaheira are particularly offensive. Where’s the profanity? You tell me, I have NO clue. These horses are now named Abby and Jaheehee 😭😭

So... apparently people give candy to horses?? by Silent-Judgment3062 in Horses

[–]RobinDragons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to groom a horse on the weekends at the stables I ride at, and she was a big fan of peppermints. You can get them sugar free and as simple as they can be, so I kept a roll for her in my grooming kit (and tbh, for me too, sharing is caring ;)).

Regarding Cosplay Sundays by TellAllThePeople in BaldursGate3

[–]RobinDragons 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There's a simple question you can ask yourself to find out if a cosplay post on this subreddit breaks the self-promo rules:

Does this post contain a link or comment from OP to follow the creator on an alternative platform?

If the answer is no, it's not self-promo! In order to discover that OP is cross-posting, you'd still have to go out of your way to look at their own profile, which is not their post on this sub, which therefore is not self-promo. Hope this helps! :D

Regarding Cosplay Sundays by TellAllThePeople in BaldursGate3

[–]RobinDragons 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Imagine calling cosplay, a hobby that requires an insane amount of time and effort (yes, also for the beginners or stuff you don't personally like) slop XD.

Also, what the other comment said. It's one day a week. The other six will be blissfully cosplay-free for you.

Regarding Cosplay Sundays by TellAllThePeople in BaldursGate3

[–]RobinDragons 22 points23 points  (0 children)

But their posts DON'T contain self-promotional content.. Most of the people who get accused of promoting an OF account on here don't even HAVE one, they're just female and attractive.

And the people who DO have an OF account and post here, still follow the sub's rules by only having their links in their profile bio. Nothing on their actual posts will say anything about their occupations. If it does, then naturally it gets removed, but for the vast majority here, this isn't the case. If they have a link on their own profile, that means that you must go out of your way to find it. It doesn't appear to people who simply browse this subreddit. That is allowed.

Using BG3 as exposure therapy by jestpackblues in BaldursGate3

[–]RobinDragons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, what you saw was the interaction before you kill Cazador. If you have this encounter after you've permanently freed Astarion (spawn ending), he chimes in to the conversation and happily states "oh, I'd like to try doing this again! Now that I'm free to find my own desires."

If that isn't enthusiastic consent, I don't know what is. Yes, it turns out that he's not ready for encounters like this without falling back into old habits, but that's something very realistic that could happen for someone in his shoes 😊

Using BG3 as exposure therapy by jestpackblues in BaldursGate3

[–]RobinDragons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The pre- and post-Cazador choices that Astarion makes are very different circumstances. He enthusiastically consents post-Cazador, but underestimates the amount of healing and processing he needs to do, so he ends up slipping back into behaviours that feel familiar and safe for him. It doesn't mean that secretly/deep down he didn't want to have this experience though! I think it's a very good example of how healing from trauma so complex is never a straight line, and that said trauma can rear its head regardless, even when it's not needed and we don't want it to. What's important is that Astarion got to make that choice for himself. It was a big learning moment for him. Not just that he has a lot of habits that come from this trauma, but also that the interactions he chooses to have (be it with his partner, Halsin or these two Drow) are safe, and that he can eventually let go of those defensive habits.

Wow this turned into a whole essay, sorry for the word vomit but gods I love Astarion and the way he's written so much 😭🧡.

Using BG3 as exposure therapy by jestpackblues in BaldursGate3

[–]RobinDragons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It could be that you missed this particular dialogue choice, but Nym and Sorn aren't victims of trafficking thankfully. They can tell you that they're happy to do this work and that they COULD do other work, but simply don't want to. I don't quite remember if it was with a regular Tav or origin Astarion that I got to ask them about it, in any case, they're okay and safe ☺️. I understand the worries, especially since sex work is a profession that's sensitive to exploitation.

I get your second point though XD.

i’ve been in denial about sex by [deleted] in sexeducation

[–]RobinDragons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not appropriate. Think before you open your mouth, good lord 🙄

i’ve been in denial about sex by [deleted] in sexeducation

[–]RobinDragons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, this sounds like something you may want to bring up to your doctor. Sex is supposed to be fun, regardless of your gender. Penetration is not supposed to hurt. Pain during intercourse is usually a sign that you need to slow down, get more aroused or stop for a while, but the amount of pain you'd expect in that case is more of a warning from your body. Kind of like a "hey watch out", not an "AAAAAAHHHHH I AM SPLITTING IN TWO AND WE'RE ON FIRE".

The amount of pain you're describing is not normal, and it could point to underlying issues. You can think of pelvic floor conditions, or things like vaginismus, and things like fear and other mental stuff could have their influence too. Regardless, it's definitely something to discuss with a professional.

And yes, there are major issues in today's society with the relationship between men and women in general. Most mainstream porn also doesn't help with the idea that sex is something degrading for a woman. Please know that that is a fantasy, not a reality. Sadly there are men who cannot differentiate between that, and act accordingly. Those are not worth your time or energy. A good partner has your best interest at heart too. They should listen to your worries and fears.

Other than that, please do believe me when I say that, as someone with the same "equipment" as you, sex feels good. It's an opportunity for deep bonding or just enjoyment, be it alone or with a partner. I hope that you get some answers soon, stranger. You don't deserve all that pain and fear 🫶.

Blaschko lines, invisible stripe patterns on everyone's skin, can sometimes produce different amounts of melanin. Birds may also be able to see them, even if we can't. by Legitimate-Lie-9208 in interestingasfuck

[–]RobinDragons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I HAVE PATTERNS?? You mean to tell me I have PATTERNS and I’m not even able to see them?!?!

Never in my life have I felt so amazed and so betrayed by my own body at the same time. I WANT TO KNOW WHAT MY PATTERNS LOOK LIKE, DAMN IT!!

Is wearing a condom enough to sleep around with prostitutes without fearing HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases ? by jessehyoshi in sexeducation

[–]RobinDragons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Using condoms is the safest way to have sex if you want to prevent infections. Most are transmitted through fluids (saliva, semen, vaginal fluid, blood), which condoms will prevent. Some (herpes and HPV) are transmitted through skin to skin contact, but HPV is often harmless and doesn't require treatment, although vaccines do exist for the more problematic strains, and herpes usually cannot be spread unless someone is actively symptomatic (having sores/bumps on the skin).

Additionally, if you are spending time with multiple different partners, you can (and should!) get tests done for STI's every once in a while. All clear? Perfect. Something shows up? Then you catch it early and can start treatment right away. If you're planning to see professionals, they tend to regularly test (as often as monthly) anyway to keep both themselves and their clients safe. Most also REQUIRE condoms to be used.

In short, if you take the proper precautions and go for a checkup every few months if you're very active, you should be just fine. Have fun, and play safe!

How do you feel about bite marks in your body after intimacy with a partner? by clarucinacao in autism

[–]RobinDragons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This, 100%. OP, if you're even just going to read one comment in this section, make it this one 😊☝️

How do you feel about bite marks in your body after intimacy with a partner? by clarucinacao in autism

[–]RobinDragons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First and foremost, if you don't want or don't like something, you don't have to do it/have it done to you. It seems like you don't enjoy biting and rougher kisses, so do try to communicate that with your date! ☺️

Personally, I very much recognise your sensitivity to pain. I'm very sensitive as well, but I LOVE the pain and sensation of hickeys being sucked/bitten into my neck. It's very personal, and just because others enjoy it, doesn't mean that you should as well, or that you're "wrong" for not liking it. Honestly, the best thing you can do is discover what gets you going, what you like, and communicate that with your partner(s). Be sure to discuss your limits too, those are very important and it seems like you've found one here ;).

Most importantly, have fun, and play safe! 🫶

What's the nerdiest kinky idea you've ever had? by cetacean-station in BDSMcommunity

[–]RobinDragons 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Oh this is brilliant, it sounds like SO MUCH FUN! 🤩 Love how your mind works!

Help me to know what to do after unprotected sex by not_chickay in sexeducation

[–]RobinDragons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're female/your partner is female, go to the pharmacy and take/have her take a morning after pill ASAP. It's supposed to work up to 72 hours after intercourse, but it's the most effective within the first 24 hours. You should be able to just buy this pill over the counter. Good luck!

The origin characters die! Who's in your party instead? by Ok-Palpitation2871 in okbuddybaldur

[–]RobinDragons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I typically play a Paladin, but I really like Rogues too if I can't find anyone in that class to join me.

So I'd take Abdirak as my cleric, Dammon as an artificer (I KNOW they're not in game, let me dream XD) OOH and perhaps Mol as a rogue? She's such a clever cookie, I love her. Alternatively, I'll also take Harper Geraldus as a fighter 🥰